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I don't lie to my GP but in a school situation I would. Not sure why I wrote that question actually as I used to do everything possible to cover my truths.
Your doctor sounds like she doesn't understand. Find one who does. It's not difficult to see a different doctor at your surgery, so give someone else a try. You don't need to explain why you don't want to see your regular GP and you don't need to feel disloyal to your regular GP - you have to take care of you. I know you cut less these days, but it's still not good, so look after yourself.
i phoned him and he was fantastic. i did cut though which i am so annoyed at. havent done that for over 4 months
never mind ... it all starts again now
Some people, I don't understand why they have to make a big deal of things. They can't just ignore it? Sometimes people don't know but if they do have an idea its not going to help at all by giving looks.
people are attracted to it as it is what makes you "different". i also see it in the way that people just, for some reason have to stare at a car crash. and it is stuff that is unfamiliar to alot of people too.
i know it is difficult but you have to remember that you are better than alot of them
Sorry.
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Take care of you lovely,
Susie x
I'm at uni, just finished my 1st year, i was meant to be staying in hall next year on the JCR Committee but a couple of days ago I got hauled in by 2 tutors who proceeded to have a go at me about how it wouldn't be fair on the new 1st years if they knew i was a self harmer and i had to change my behaviour and all sorts of other stuff. They said my friends only talk to me because they feel sorry for me because i cut myself. they said that i make people feel guilty and don't give them space (not true, i always respect people's space and i never go and talk to people for fear of disturbing/annoying them). I was meant to be having a room (JCR get to choose) on a particular floor which this tutor happens to live on and she basically said she didn't want me living on her floor.
SO i've quit the JCR and have had to find a room in a house to live in. I won't know anyone there and although i couldn't possibly have stayed in hall after all the things they said, i'm so pissed off about the whole thing and the way they treated me.
I'm sorry, your tutors said that? If they did say it in such an insensitive and irresponsible way you should complain to either your personal tutor, the head of your department or the welfare officer at your union. They need to be sensitive to your needs and issues, which they don't seem to be doing. If the situation wasn't actually that bad you may want to try talking to them rationally again, explaining your point of view and seeing if a compromise can be made.
That said living in a house could work out OK you could meet some cool people and feel more independent... talk to your accomodation office about things to look for and to get a housing list. Talk to someone close to you (or your GP/ cunsellor/ one of the helplines here or here ) to work out how you are feeling and so you have someone there for you while you go through such a big change.
Take care of you, and remember you can always come talk here
Susie x
Your college will have a bullying and harassment policy, contact the bullying and harassment officer employed by your university or academic department and ensure that your complaint goes as high as it can.
If the people were students then you also need to contact the union and the bullying officer, as bullying and harassment is against the terms of most universities, and bullying is taken very seriously by universities. I know it is here in Durham.
My parents and my JCR President have both written letters of complaint to the Vice Chancellor of the university (the main man) on my behalf. Hopefully something will happen, if not my friends want to go to the student paper with the story! We'll see.
I've calmed down about it a bit now because I have to move on, but I'm still outraged and I really hope they don't get away with it.
Grrrrrrrr!
I would also write to the JCR President stating that your reisgnation was issued under duress, and that you wish to rescind it. By getting your role and responsibilities back you will piss the tutors off, and make them dig themselves further into the hole they ahve created for themselves. result!
At least in a way it's made me stronger I think. Plus I haven't cut for over 2 weeks now, and normally hearing all that stuff about what a bad person I am would have meant I'd do it for sure, but I wasn't going to give them that satisfaction so I managed to come through it without.
Hopefully things will look up from now on.
This must sound so stupid but I feel completely stuck in a rut. I think I want to stop, but I don't know if I want to stop for me or for my friends. After all, when it comes down to it I'm not sure I really want to.
This is just a rant I'm sorry.
I've just been reading "The Scarred Soul" by Tracy Alderman and that had a really good chapter on wanting to stop or not. It's the first book i've read on self harm that I've really been able to relate to and I really would recommend it.
i am not going to cut or anything like that because i wouldnt be able to deal with the scars and shit.
i just feel like breaking down, rolling up into a little ball and crying but i cant seem to cry it all builds up inside me and i haven't let it out in ages.
whats wrong with me i just want to be happy
hi, yes i cut myself. And readin that, i realised that I have only ever cut around my wrists n my forearms. I do not want attention over my self-harming. Infact when people mention it, i do not like it at all. Sometimes people cut these areas cos they r the most easily accessible. When im in that frame of mind, i dont think, "oh where will be best to cut so that others dont see" or "where will it hurt the least or anything"
I'm pissed off 'cos I cut myself earlier, it had only been a few days but I had managed a short time clean of it. And it was worse than ever before, it's deeper than I ever intended. It hurts aside from anything and I hate myself for it. It won't heal before I go to India. I can see it causing real problems if I'm not careful. Dammit.
I have to say that when I cut I was quite deliberate about where I cut so that it couldn't be seen normally, because I was so determined to not talk to anyone about my depression.
A lot of people don't care where they cut, and just cut the first place they come to- often the wrists and arms. people who cut there often aren't attention-seekers; personally I can spot an attention-seeker a mile off. They can't wait to show you their new cuts, in a coy way.
Though even if people cut for the attention, I firmly believe that it is a sign of deep unhappiness- just not the unhappiness they are trying to claim.