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I don’t think therapy can help me
There’s some things which therapy has helped me with, such as dealing with intrusive thoughts, panic attacks etc. But there’s an issue which has stuck with me since childhood, which I don’t think will ever go away.
I always feel depressed about not being able to find love due to my looks. And there’s countless of evidence that proofs that men find me undesirable. Since I was a child, I’ve had boys and men joke about me being undesirable, with zero romantic experiences. Til this day, I’m still lonely, and literally yesterday, I encountered the same group of men who would mock me for not being attractive.
I don’t think my therapist knows what to do, because again, there’s a lot of evidence which proves my point.
I’m thinking about quitting therapy and just going on with my life, even if I have to be depressed and lonely for the rest of my life.
I always feel depressed about not being able to find love due to my looks. And there’s countless of evidence that proofs that men find me undesirable. Since I was a child, I’ve had boys and men joke about me being undesirable, with zero romantic experiences. Til this day, I’m still lonely, and literally yesterday, I encountered the same group of men who would mock me for not being attractive.
I don’t think my therapist knows what to do, because again, there’s a lot of evidence which proves my point.
I’m thinking about quitting therapy and just going on with my life, even if I have to be depressed and lonely for the rest of my life.
forcing myself not to sleep (TW - self harm)
its almost 2am and i feel like im forcing myself not to sleep because i deserve to be punished for some reason. if i cant self harm physically then i might as well do it mentally by not sleeping.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25
@Sian321 thank you for your reply. It's so well thought out, means a lot.
I think it's more internally in my head, like I'm trying to avoid thinking about everything.. and especially talking about everything. It's almost as if my brain is trying to trick me into thinking I'm fine, when realistically I know I'm not really fine.
My brain just shuts down, I've got so good at blocking shit out over the years that it is like second nature. Until it isn't and it gets too much, which never ends well.
I suppose it's a case of giving the chat a go, no harm right? I think talking might open a can of worms, which again, might not end well.
I think it's more internally in my head, like I'm trying to avoid thinking about everything.. and especially talking about everything. It's almost as if my brain is trying to trick me into thinking I'm fine, when realistically I know I'm not really fine.
My brain just shuts down, I've got so good at blocking shit out over the years that it is like second nature. Until it isn't and it gets too much, which never ends well.
I suppose it's a case of giving the chat a go, no harm right? I think talking might open a can of worms, which again, might not end well.
Open uni?
Ive come to the realisation that going in class in person isnt the best idea because i keep on getting distracted and losing focus alot, and i just hate the classroom enviroment, im thinking of doing an online course instead would tje open uni be a good idea? Im currently doing btecs in applied science and ngl i dont think its going exactly too well and ive retook classes alot. Im really with working from home when im alone or with projects and i become fixated on niche topics really easily.
Idrk if the open uni is a good idea because i really want to do that but my teachers are advising me not to because i will end up withdrawing myself socially but even then i never really talk to others in class or anywhere and most of the time my friendships dont really last long (except from 2 people)...
Idrk if the open uni is a good idea because i really want to do that but my teachers are advising me not to because i will end up withdrawing myself socially but even then i never really talk to others in class or anywhere and most of the time my friendships dont really last long (except from 2 people)...
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25
Everything feels numb im not okay...
📆 Weekly Schedule w/c 03.11.25
Hey there folks,
Here is this week's schedule which outlines all the different support activities we've got on this week. We'll aim to post these schedules every Monday.
Disclaimer: These are also subject to change based on mod and supervisor availability. If we make any changes, this post will be updated ASAP.
Note: To access our chats please head here, and to access our threads they happen right here on the boards!
Here is this week's schedule which outlines all the different support activities we've got on this week. We'll aim to post these schedules every Monday.
Disclaimer: These are also subject to change based on mod and supervisor availability. If we make any changes, this post will be updated ASAP.
Note: To access our chats please head here, and to access our threads they happen right here on the boards!
Monday: Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4.30pm) and JD-Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Tuesday: General Chat, Support Chat and Support Circle (8pm-9:30pm)
Wednesday: General Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Thursday: General Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Friday: Afternoon General Chat (1:30pm-3pm)
Saturday: Saturday Topic Thread on Money & Finances (3:30pm-5pm)
Sunday: Sunday Support Thread (11am-12:30pm) and Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4:30pm)
Tuesday: General Chat, Support Chat and Support Circle (8pm-9:30pm)
Wednesday: General Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Thursday: General Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Friday: Afternoon General Chat (1:30pm-3pm)
Saturday: Saturday Topic Thread on Money & Finances (3:30pm-5pm)
Sunday: Sunday Support Thread (11am-12:30pm) and Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4:30pm)
Leyla
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25
@so_very_tired I’m so sorry to hear things have been so difficult for you lately, and I think, for what its worth, that every single person here will be able to acknowledge that things sometimes get said that shouldn’t be said when we’re feeling like shit. I’ve done it too, as have most people here.
While I did feel irritated by some things you have said, it’s not a grudge I’m prepared to hold - you are still very much welcome here and I don’t think anyone intended to make you feel you weren’t. I think what happened was, you had been saying some things that had made people feel dismissed, and eventually it became too much and they felt they had to say something to you. The thing is, if these things aren’t communicated, it just builds up and builds up, and people eventually snap.
I really feel you are capable of positive change and, if you did feel you wanted to stick around, we would support you in that. You deserve to be supported as much as the next person, and no one would want you to be isolated in such a hard time.
When you’re in a space full of people from different walks of life, there are bound to be disagreements and personality clashes in some places, and that’s normal. It doesn’t mean you have to leave, but at the same time, people might feel in their own mind that they need to call it out, and that’s ok too so long as it’s done respectfully (which here, i think it was). It’s not a sign from the universe, it’s part of interacting with other people online in particular.
While I did feel irritated by some things you have said, it’s not a grudge I’m prepared to hold - you are still very much welcome here and I don’t think anyone intended to make you feel you weren’t. I think what happened was, you had been saying some things that had made people feel dismissed, and eventually it became too much and they felt they had to say something to you. The thing is, if these things aren’t communicated, it just builds up and builds up, and people eventually snap.
I really feel you are capable of positive change and, if you did feel you wanted to stick around, we would support you in that. You deserve to be supported as much as the next person, and no one would want you to be isolated in such a hard time.
When you’re in a space full of people from different walks of life, there are bound to be disagreements and personality clashes in some places, and that’s normal. It doesn’t mean you have to leave, but at the same time, people might feel in their own mind that they need to call it out, and that’s ok too so long as it’s done respectfully (which here, i think it was). It’s not a sign from the universe, it’s part of interacting with other people online in particular.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25
I can't get my head around how I feel today. Part of me thinks i've gone back into that state where avoiding my problems, and coping somewhat, is my only real answer. Try not to think right? Because when I start thinking about things, I start to feel they're taking over again.
I discovered last night that qwell is available in my area, and I'm in 2 minds whether to try a chat. It looks good, but that involves talking in depth, and while I know I really need to talk to someone before things get out of hand again, that doesn't make it any easier to do.
I discovered last night that qwell is available in my area, and I'm in 2 minds whether to try a chat. It looks good, but that involves talking in depth, and while I know I really need to talk to someone before things get out of hand again, that doesn't make it any easier to do.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 03.11.25
spontaneously decided to rearrange my room and now it’s so messy and i have lost interest. i wish i could see tasks through but i never can. i always just crash in the middle of it. i just want to go get a shower and then get into bed but i can’t as my bedding is in the wash and my room is a tip now.
