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See you soon ❤
Hey everyone,
I've been finding this post incredibly hard to write because The Mix has been a big part of my life for almost four years now. I’m going to be moving on from my role here and starting a new chapter in my life. This won’t be goodbye forever though, we always say in our team that when you leave The Mix, you never really leave. Although I won’t be part of the staff team anymore, I’m going to join our volunteer team and continue helping to moderate chats. So this isn’t a goodbye, it’s a see you soon
I feel really lucky to have had the opportunity to work here and I’ve had the best time. I’ve never been in a job where I’ve enjoyed coming in every single day and that’s because of you all. Your bravery and strength inspires me every day and I’ve loved following your journeys and doing my best to support you along the way. You were so welcoming right from the start and instantly made me feel like part of The Mix family. I can’t thank you enough for your kindness. You’ve all been a big part of my life which I’ll never forget.
I’m so proud of our community and where the boards and group chats are right now. We’ve done so many great things over the last few years and some of my highlights have been working on the Young Carers project, creating a new Super Mod role, moving to a new forum and chat software (who remembers the chat ghost?!), starting the weekly challenges, the community newsletters and most importantly listening to your ideas to create new spaces such as the Positivity Corner! Oh and I can’t forget the confetti cannon!
The care and compassion you have for each other is like nothing I’ve seen before. You might not always know it, but each of you have made a huge difference to so many people here and your support really does go a long way. I also want to acknowledge how brave you’ve all been to reach out for support. I’ve always admired your courage and I want you to keep reaching out for help even if it feels scary. I know it can feel difficult sometimes, but please know you’re never alone and this can get better. There will always be someone there to listen and support you through anything you’re going through.
I have to give a shout out to the most amazing team @Mike, @Ed_, @Italia and our volunteers who care so much about you. They’ve been the best team to work with and have taught me so much. I know you’re going to be safe with them running the community and they‘re going to continue doing great work here.
My last day will be on Thursday 28th November so we still have a bit of time before I leave the team officially
Keep being brave and fighting through those difficult days. I’m so proud of you all.
Speak very soon xxx
I've been finding this post incredibly hard to write because The Mix has been a big part of my life for almost four years now. I’m going to be moving on from my role here and starting a new chapter in my life. This won’t be goodbye forever though, we always say in our team that when you leave The Mix, you never really leave. Although I won’t be part of the staff team anymore, I’m going to join our volunteer team and continue helping to moderate chats. So this isn’t a goodbye, it’s a see you soon
I feel really lucky to have had the opportunity to work here and I’ve had the best time. I’ve never been in a job where I’ve enjoyed coming in every single day and that’s because of you all. Your bravery and strength inspires me every day and I’ve loved following your journeys and doing my best to support you along the way. You were so welcoming right from the start and instantly made me feel like part of The Mix family. I can’t thank you enough for your kindness. You’ve all been a big part of my life which I’ll never forget.
I’m so proud of our community and where the boards and group chats are right now. We’ve done so many great things over the last few years and some of my highlights have been working on the Young Carers project, creating a new Super Mod role, moving to a new forum and chat software (who remembers the chat ghost?!), starting the weekly challenges, the community newsletters and most importantly listening to your ideas to create new spaces such as the Positivity Corner! Oh and I can’t forget the confetti cannon!
The care and compassion you have for each other is like nothing I’ve seen before. You might not always know it, but each of you have made a huge difference to so many people here and your support really does go a long way. I also want to acknowledge how brave you’ve all been to reach out for support. I’ve always admired your courage and I want you to keep reaching out for help even if it feels scary. I know it can feel difficult sometimes, but please know you’re never alone and this can get better. There will always be someone there to listen and support you through anything you’re going through.
I have to give a shout out to the most amazing team @Mike, @Ed_, @Italia and our volunteers who care so much about you. They’ve been the best team to work with and have taught me so much. I know you’re going to be safe with them running the community and they‘re going to continue doing great work here.
My last day will be on Thursday 28th November so we still have a bit of time before I leave the team officially
Keep being brave and fighting through those difficult days. I’m so proud of you all.
Speak very soon xxx
Aife
24
Not sure i can do uni.
Hey.
I really dont know what to do about uni. Im finding it so so hard at the moment. Its been exactly a week since my dad dropped me off and i have been okay for most of the week but im really struggling today. I feel that everyone else has met loads of people and made friends and i havent really. There are a few girls i get on well with and one of them has been really helping me by like carrying my laundry and shopping bags for me but then she is in a different flat and i feel bad keeping asking her if she wants to do something cause she is friends with her flat mates and they all do things. My flat mates are all really nice and like me, they also dont go out much. I like that because i dont feel bad for staying in and feel pressured to go out but then at the same time i dont feel we are as close as other flats are so i feel more lonely. Other flats in my halls are making jokes about how shit my flat is and how they are glad they arent in it and i know its not aimed at me but its still upsetting me.
Im really annoyed at myself because i cant do anything with my foot and everyone has went to the beach tonight for a fire and food but i couldnt go because i cant get there on crutches and i didnt want to make my friend stay behind with me so i pretended to be fine when im not because its not fair for me to make her not have fun and get to know people. Im just sat in my room crying but everyone thinks im fine and loving uni.
I guess its just because im by myself and not doing anything that im feeling like this. Lectures start tomorrow so hopefully ill feel better then because i wont have as much time to think. I just dont want to end up doing something stupid again.
Sorry for the super long message 
Esme17
5
World Mental Health day
It is world mental health day and as any other day - i just wanted a thread where we can all emphasis the importance of remembering to take care of yourself Everyday. And just asking how people are, and that it is okay to not be okay. No one should ever feel ashamed to talk about how their mental health is affecting them. 🌸
I try to practice what i preach, not just today but everyday and today I have asked my sister twice about how she feels. And everydayi am going to find a way to take care of myself. I hope will all do the same
Shaunie
7
Re: The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
Old ‘friend’ just sent me a massive paragraph saying they have “gone past caring” about me and cant be ‘fucking’ bothered with extremly distant people and load of other stuff.
Okay well i am a distant person so i can see why wouldnt wanna bother being friends with me and get that if i find it hard to stay in contact with people cause i am distant then who would wanna bother like dont blame them. But to say “past caring” bit harsh wording?No one could give a shit even if dead. Have no friends and just alone cause my own fault so wil never feel better
Well now in a shit mood even though i deseve it so why am i suprised. & now have an appointment
Okay well i am a distant person so i can see why wouldnt wanna bother being friends with me and get that if i find it hard to stay in contact with people cause i am distant then who would wanna bother like dont blame them. But to say “past caring” bit harsh wording?No one could give a shit even if dead. Have no friends and just alone cause my own fault so wil never feel better
Well now in a shit mood even though i deseve it so why am i suprised. & now have an appointment
Shaunie
8
My best friend passed away
Last weekend, my dearest friend Leanne passed away in her sleep from a brain haemorrhage. She was my best friend. Best. Ever. I knew her all my life, she was like a sister to me. We had some glorious times together.
Leanne's wife Maggie woke to become highly distraught. She called the doctor then us. We immediately packed to go and see her. They have children and it was left to Sophie and I to tell them. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.
I remain - broken. There is no getting around the feeling of loss. I pray that Maggie's family find solace knowing that Leanne is forever at peace in Heaven. Gonna be a big reunion one day, but I am still mortal and the pain inside that bereavement causes is unspeakably sad. 
Re: The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
Looked at my time hop for today. 6 years ago there's a photo of me, I look so happy. 2 days prior I had reached a healthy weight, the day before I received my exam results and I passed every God Damn one of them after numerous teachers telling me I would fail. As a 'well done' my dad arranged a trip away for me and 5 of my friends, fair enough I was in inner turmoil at the thought of being a healthy weight, but I was happy at the same time. I wish my family were still that supportive, now it's like they've realized I'm never going to recover. They don't support me the way they used too. I wish that photo was the end of my mental illnesses, but then a year later I relapsed, I still don't know why, then the trauma happened and things went from bad to worse. And here I am still stuck in the grasps of my mental health, if anything I've fallen even further.
Re: The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
The few things that I've been plagued with lately has taken its toll on me and I woke up this morning trembling straight into a panic attack.
You know those nights where you slept through for hours but it feels like you haven't got an hour?
I don't want today to happen I just want to lay in bed
You know those nights where you slept through for hours but it feels like you haven't got an hour?
I don't want today to happen I just want to lay in bed
Laine
6
Am I Single Because I Don't Love Myself?
I have very low self esteem and my mind is constantly telling me that I'll never be good enough for a relationship and no one will ever want me. I've never been in a relationship (I'm 19) and have kissed two people in the last 2 months, but nothing serious came from either of them. I've always had it drilled into me that in order for someone else to love me I have to love myself, but my self confidence is so low I feel like this is never going to happen. Is this normal?
chazzlet
7
I need reinsurance
Hi, I don't know if anyone here suffers with anxiety or panic attacks but over the past three weeks I've had a bunch of physical symptoms which include:
- heart beating faster than normal (palpitations)
- feeling really sweaty hands and feet
- lower body and hands stark to shake a lot
So I was very concerned to the point I had my mum drive me to A&E, there they pretty much checked my blood pressure, temperature and listen to my heart and told me to go home and make a GP appointment. I made a GP appointment and they thought it was a thyroid problem and to come back in a week to have blood taken and an ecg done. So went back a week later still with the same symptoms not going away, feeling overly anxious. Like my body just had so much adrenaline all the time. Took my blood and did an ecg, went back 5 days later and the doctor explained how everything was fine and how he thought it could be anxiety, now I know anxiety and panic attacks run in my family however I just feel as if there's a big problem and I'm going to drop dead an second. He basically told me to come back in two weeks and think about what he said. How's that going to help how I feel? And then a day later, I'm sitting in bed and I suddenly get the really sweaty, sharp pains in my chest and my lower body won't stop shaking that only last a few seconds but I was so scared an ambulance got called, they did an ecg in my front room and said it looks fine just my heart is beating fast, they took me to hospital to make sure I was okay, at the hospital they took my blood again and ran another ecg, that all came back looking fine but I'm convinced there's something severely wrong with me but I don't know what it could be if it's not showing up on any tests. Maybe it's just me over thinking and it is anxiety? Has anyone experienced the symptoms before. I need something to put my mind at rest a little bit
- heart beating faster than normal (palpitations)
- feeling really sweaty hands and feet
- lower body and hands stark to shake a lot
So I was very concerned to the point I had my mum drive me to A&E, there they pretty much checked my blood pressure, temperature and listen to my heart and told me to go home and make a GP appointment. I made a GP appointment and they thought it was a thyroid problem and to come back in a week to have blood taken and an ecg done. So went back a week later still with the same symptoms not going away, feeling overly anxious. Like my body just had so much adrenaline all the time. Took my blood and did an ecg, went back 5 days later and the doctor explained how everything was fine and how he thought it could be anxiety, now I know anxiety and panic attacks run in my family however I just feel as if there's a big problem and I'm going to drop dead an second. He basically told me to come back in two weeks and think about what he said. How's that going to help how I feel? And then a day later, I'm sitting in bed and I suddenly get the really sweaty, sharp pains in my chest and my lower body won't stop shaking that only last a few seconds but I was so scared an ambulance got called, they did an ecg in my front room and said it looks fine just my heart is beating fast, they took me to hospital to make sure I was okay, at the hospital they took my blood again and ran another ecg, that all came back looking fine but I'm convinced there's something severely wrong with me but I don't know what it could be if it's not showing up on any tests. Maybe it's just me over thinking and it is anxiety? Has anyone experienced the symptoms before. I need something to put my mind at rest a little bit
BigSue
6
I think I'm feeling suicidal
I'm sorry for posting yet another thread...
I need serious help..
I'm not sure if this is is serious or not but for some reason horrible thoughts keep coming to my mind and I and afraid
I don't have anyone to talk to and I need someone but have nobody
Please help
I am not sure if I can keep doing this
I don't know what to do or who to go for
I've started self harming again and all I wanna do is die
All I think about is death
Can anybody help me?
Please?
I need serious help..
I'm not sure if this is is serious or not but for some reason horrible thoughts keep coming to my mind and I and afraid
I don't have anyone to talk to and I need someone but have nobody
Please help
I am not sure if I can keep doing this
I don't know what to do or who to go for
I've started self harming again and all I wanna do is die
All I think about is death
Can anybody help me?
Please?
Ashleen
6