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Re: Your Most Memorable Cup Of Tea
I’m not a big tea drinker, but I have tried to switch out a couple of my coffees for tea recently .. you know, for the caffeine habit.
Mum makes me (and herself) a cup of tea every night when she gets in from work. We sit and watch whatever quiz show is on and it’s lovely. We sometimes have a glass of wine instead of tea on a friday, but same result.
I often sit in the garden in the summer with a coffee while my dog plays. I love that too.
Mum makes me (and herself) a cup of tea every night when she gets in from work. We sit and watch whatever quiz show is on and it’s lovely. We sometimes have a glass of wine instead of tea on a friday, but same result.
I often sit in the garden in the summer with a coffee while my dog plays. I love that too.
Re: Heartstopper Quiz 🍂 Thursday 13th Feb, 6:30 - 7:30pm
This is in roughly 10 minutes 
We would love for you to come along!
We would love for you to come along! 
Chloe234
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Re: travel anxiety
Hey @shannon_164 , I love this tip so much! I do something similiar with CityMapper. Feels really calming to know how much longer of the journey you have to go. It looks like Google Maps shows even more detail though which is helpful.
Appreciate you sharing
Appreciate you sharing
Sian321
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Re: Whatcha currently reading?
So I've finally started reading Pride and Prejudice and it really just is wonderful! It's one of my favourite films so I thought it was about time I read the book.
I'm just spending my days dreaming of Mr Darcy
I'm just spending my days dreaming of Mr Darcy
Katie
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A message from Jo - Head of Youth Services at The Mix
Hi everyone, I'm posting the following message on Jo's behalf 
Hey everyone, my name is Jo, and I am the Head of Youth Services here at The Mix.
Since joining the Mix in January of this year, I have come to appreciate just how important this Community is to so many of you. It is evident that this is not merely a place to visit; it plays a crucial role in your daily lives. Above all, this Community is yours and our mission is to support, uplift, and serve you, whilst looking for opportunities to make improvements.
As such, I would like to take a moment to acknowledge that there have been some changes recently, and I want to express my gratitude to everyone who has voiced their opinions and assisted us in making these long-awaited and necessary changes happen.
The staff members of your Community are working tirelessly behind the scenes and I want to commend them for their hard work.
Above all, thank you for being here and for contributing to this amazing Community.
Jo
Hey everyone, my name is Jo, and I am the Head of Youth Services here at The Mix.
Since joining the Mix in January of this year, I have come to appreciate just how important this Community is to so many of you. It is evident that this is not merely a place to visit; it plays a crucial role in your daily lives. Above all, this Community is yours and our mission is to support, uplift, and serve you, whilst looking for opportunities to make improvements.
As such, I would like to take a moment to acknowledge that there have been some changes recently, and I want to express my gratitude to everyone who has voiced their opinions and assisted us in making these long-awaited and necessary changes happen.
The staff members of your Community are working tirelessly behind the scenes and I want to commend them for their hard work.
Above all, thank you for being here and for contributing to this amazing Community.
Jo
Claire28
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Re: Phones n blue light
Blue light is literally just blue light.
Over the course of the day, our bodies gradually, slowly start preparing to go to sleep at night, and that is done mostly by releasing the melatonin hormone which helps us sleep (and also regulates our sleep cycle for better quality sleep). This is usually affected by perceiving light changes in the environment - that means the darker it gets the more melatonin is released, which means the more the sun sets in the evening the more tired we feel.
However our screens also emits light which can affect those hormones, mainly blue light. Therfore watching screens late in the evening can cause our brains to release less melatonin making our body think its still not time to sleep and keep us awake/make it harder to sleep later. Which is why devices often have a 'blue light filter' that you can turn on to reduce the blue light you get from the screen, although that only helps to an extent (but its better than nothing).
I hope this helps understand it! And if I got something wrong then somebody just correct me
Over the course of the day, our bodies gradually, slowly start preparing to go to sleep at night, and that is done mostly by releasing the melatonin hormone which helps us sleep (and also regulates our sleep cycle for better quality sleep). This is usually affected by perceiving light changes in the environment - that means the darker it gets the more melatonin is released, which means the more the sun sets in the evening the more tired we feel.
However our screens also emits light which can affect those hormones, mainly blue light. Therfore watching screens late in the evening can cause our brains to release less melatonin making our body think its still not time to sleep and keep us awake/make it harder to sleep later. Which is why devices often have a 'blue light filter' that you can turn on to reduce the blue light you get from the screen, although that only helps to an extent (but its better than nothing).
I hope this helps understand it! And if I got something wrong then somebody just correct me
Do you prefer to buy books or use the library?.
Hi, I recently only just started visiting my local library, again eventhougb I tend to buy books.
Amy22
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Re: Are tomatoes a fruit or vegetable?
Ok so apparently and i dont remember exactly where i got told this but i jsut remember the person being really angry that i didnt know this but if something has seeds in it it is a fruit? So ig that means a tomatoe is one 
i love a good tomatoe ngl cant believe u have never had one @AnonymousToe id recommend haha
i love a good tomatoe ngl cant believe u have never had one @AnonymousToe id recommend haha
Re: Safeguarding Q&A 2025 - Ask your questions here!
And this isn’t a question this is just a statement and a perspective and maybe my question is what do you think about this point of view?
that I hope you take on board from idk someone who has used annoymous places for a long time and have opened up and everything has improved and no police was called and some situations where it has made everything a lot worse and maybe something to keep in mind idk
I know you are not this type of site to keep things anonymous as much as you have done in the past. But in my point of view when things remain completely anonymous and the user has full freedom to say completely whatever they want to knowing it will not go anywhere - things get a lot further. They get other people’s perspective, they can see if what someone is doing is right or wrong from others help because a lot none emergency things people are scared to tell anyone in their real life - they may not open up to anyone else in their life in the fear of doing exactly what you do- report it straight away, they will feel more empowered and in control to help with any police investigation and answer any questions they have and they will feel less alone in doing so with online support.
I don’t know how Samaritans work anymore. I think their safe guarding stuff has changed but I remember reading something about how everything stays with them apart from something I forgot what. And they would say something along the line off opening up completely annoymous can keep that person safer. Because TW - For example someone ringing Samaritans telling them I am in a dangerous place rn and I plan on doing this right now and continplating it for a long time but more on the side of to do it - Samaritans won’t call the police eventho this is immediate danger because they believe they would of not opened up to anyone else about this situation cause it would go further and the person knows it won’t go further and just extremely scared to tell anyone in their personal life and so they have a chat and they end up changing their mind - they spoke to someone who gave them freedom to speak and let that person make their own choice which turns out better in the end.
Cause I do truly believe some situations like that - you open up think oh it’s annoymous they won’t ring anyone, it’s safer. And your worst fear is someone close to you finding out this while you’re still alive and before you know it you see police. Your heart goes extremely fast the world feels unsafe, you feel exposed and you get so implusive you do it there and then cause you’ll know that everyone in your personal life you never wanted to open up to about will now know exactly everything you wanted them to not know. and because when someone reaches out for help. There is a part of them that wants it resolved and doesn’t want to have what ever is happening to continue and giving them that space makes them realise that themselves and gives them opportunities to do it.
(This may or may not be from experience of one time of desperation of calling the Samaritans myself)
that I hope you take on board from idk someone who has used annoymous places for a long time and have opened up and everything has improved and no police was called and some situations where it has made everything a lot worse and maybe something to keep in mind idk
I know you are not this type of site to keep things anonymous as much as you have done in the past. But in my point of view when things remain completely anonymous and the user has full freedom to say completely whatever they want to knowing it will not go anywhere - things get a lot further. They get other people’s perspective, they can see if what someone is doing is right or wrong from others help because a lot none emergency things people are scared to tell anyone in their real life - they may not open up to anyone else in their life in the fear of doing exactly what you do- report it straight away, they will feel more empowered and in control to help with any police investigation and answer any questions they have and they will feel less alone in doing so with online support.
I don’t know how Samaritans work anymore. I think their safe guarding stuff has changed but I remember reading something about how everything stays with them apart from something I forgot what. And they would say something along the line off opening up completely annoymous can keep that person safer. Because TW - For example someone ringing Samaritans telling them I am in a dangerous place rn and I plan on doing this right now and continplating it for a long time but more on the side of to do it - Samaritans won’t call the police eventho this is immediate danger because they believe they would of not opened up to anyone else about this situation cause it would go further and the person knows it won’t go further and just extremely scared to tell anyone in their personal life and so they have a chat and they end up changing their mind - they spoke to someone who gave them freedom to speak and let that person make their own choice which turns out better in the end.
Cause I do truly believe some situations like that - you open up think oh it’s annoymous they won’t ring anyone, it’s safer. And your worst fear is someone close to you finding out this while you’re still alive and before you know it you see police. Your heart goes extremely fast the world feels unsafe, you feel exposed and you get so implusive you do it there and then cause you’ll know that everyone in your personal life you never wanted to open up to about will now know exactly everything you wanted them to not know. and because when someone reaches out for help. There is a part of them that wants it resolved and doesn’t want to have what ever is happening to continue and giving them that space makes them realise that themselves and gives them opportunities to do it.
(This may or may not be from experience of one time of desperation of calling the Samaritans myself)
Siena
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Re: Safeguarding Q&A 2025 - Ask your questions here!
You say it’s still annoymous cause of the date you hold and stuff but when you report this stuff - and depending on what the situation is. Many people in their personal life will find out where this information has came from - this charity and it becames no longer annoymous and people from your personal life knows you use this. And I feel from your answer this is not an aspect you think about much and everything we have said here can then be seen by the people in our personal life and that is extremely stressful - especially when it’s over something the police can not take further without you engaging and so your annoymity has been exposed with no real outcome
When in term can make that decision on reporting something - for example- you say to a police man someone is abusing me. But the police man says who and you say I can’t say they say who - they say oh we can’t do anything about that if you won’t tell us who it is - so we can’t take it any further and will wonder why reporting it if they don’t know who (which is effectively what you do sometimes) - so that descion needs to be made by that person otherwise it won’t get anywhere. Just how if a user was to say on here someone is abusing me - you would report that to the police as that’s a big red flag but the police can’t do anything until they know who it is and while I would agree that is a safe guarding concern and needs to be stopped - you reporting it to the police will make no difference if the user doesn’t want to report it themselves if that makes any sense. It could in fact just cause a lot of stress - making them want to avoid it even more to avoid more stress when they have opened up on an annoymous site and they have just been exposed - making them feel twice as vulnerable and unsafe
When in term can make that decision on reporting something - for example- you say to a police man someone is abusing me. But the police man says who and you say I can’t say they say who - they say oh we can’t do anything about that if you won’t tell us who it is - so we can’t take it any further and will wonder why reporting it if they don’t know who (which is effectively what you do sometimes) - so that descion needs to be made by that person otherwise it won’t get anywhere. Just how if a user was to say on here someone is abusing me - you would report that to the police as that’s a big red flag but the police can’t do anything until they know who it is and while I would agree that is a safe guarding concern and needs to be stopped - you reporting it to the police will make no difference if the user doesn’t want to report it themselves if that makes any sense. It could in fact just cause a lot of stress - making them want to avoid it even more to avoid more stress when they have opened up on an annoymous site and they have just been exposed - making them feel twice as vulnerable and unsafe
Siena
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