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Re: ( cw: sexual harassment ) i always feel scared when someone is interested in me
hi @eden87 - hope you're doing okay today.
That sounds like quite a lot to be dealing with at once, and like some challenging emotions are coming to the surface.
Feeling like you have less experience than others around you is an challenging probably more common than you might think. I know there’s probably people on here who have felt in the same boat as you at one stage or another – myself included. It seems like these are also bringing up curiosities surrounding sexuality and things like that too, which is a totally normal part of figuring ourselves out and who we are and what we like.
I know this is often said a lot, but dating can be quite the journey and sometimes involve a few trial and errors to get us to where we want to be, but within that you will grow and figure out what you like and what you don’t like and so on. But the right person for you will respect that. They wont judge you for lack of experience, they won’t make you feel judged or uncomfortable or unsafe. The right person for you will make you feel secure and loved the way you deserve. It’s just that sometimes it may take some of us a bit longer than others. But there is absolutely no rush in this process and finding the right person for you.
What matters most is that you stay true to your boundaries and what your comfortable with doing or saying with someone else, whilst still giving yourself to find your happiness and your person. Whilst love and romance and relationships are great and all, your comfort is what matters most. So as the cliché sayings go – the right person will come along, and you will feel safe and loved and unjudged in that, but don’t feel the need to push yourself into societies expectations because you feel like you might be ‘behind in life’. Sometimes the best things are worth the wait.
Sending you the biggest of hugs and we are all here if you need more support or want to talk about anything else – related to this topic or not.
That sounds like quite a lot to be dealing with at once, and like some challenging emotions are coming to the surface.
Feeling like you have less experience than others around you is an challenging probably more common than you might think. I know there’s probably people on here who have felt in the same boat as you at one stage or another – myself included. It seems like these are also bringing up curiosities surrounding sexuality and things like that too, which is a totally normal part of figuring ourselves out and who we are and what we like.
I know this is often said a lot, but dating can be quite the journey and sometimes involve a few trial and errors to get us to where we want to be, but within that you will grow and figure out what you like and what you don’t like and so on. But the right person for you will respect that. They wont judge you for lack of experience, they won’t make you feel judged or uncomfortable or unsafe. The right person for you will make you feel secure and loved the way you deserve. It’s just that sometimes it may take some of us a bit longer than others. But there is absolutely no rush in this process and finding the right person for you.
What matters most is that you stay true to your boundaries and what your comfortable with doing or saying with someone else, whilst still giving yourself to find your happiness and your person. Whilst love and romance and relationships are great and all, your comfort is what matters most. So as the cliché sayings go – the right person will come along, and you will feel safe and loved and unjudged in that, but don’t feel the need to push yourself into societies expectations because you feel like you might be ‘behind in life’. Sometimes the best things are worth the wait.
Sending you the biggest of hugs and we are all here if you need more support or want to talk about anything else – related to this topic or not.
📆 Weekly Schedule w/c 08.12.25
Heyo Community,
Here is this week's schedule which outlines all the different support activities we've got on this week. We'll aim to post these schedules every Monday.
Disclaimer: These are also subject to change based on mod and supervisor availability. If we make any changes, this post will be updated ASAP.
Note: To access our chats please head here, and to access our threads they happen right here on the boards!
Another Note: Going forward we will be doing Support Threads instead of Topic Threads on Saturdays, but for this week as someone will be covering this shift, it will be a General Chat for this week
Here is this week's schedule which outlines all the different support activities we've got on this week. We'll aim to post these schedules every Monday.
Disclaimer: These are also subject to change based on mod and supervisor availability. If we make any changes, this post will be updated ASAP.
Note: To access our chats please head here, and to access our threads they happen right here on the boards!
Monday: Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4.30pm)
Tuesday: General Chat and Support Circle (8pm-9:30pm)
Wednesday: Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Thursday: Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Friday: Afternoon General Chat (1:30pm-3pm)
Saturday: Afternoon General Chat (3:30pm-5:00pm)
Sunday: Morning General Chat (11am-12:30pm) and Sunday Support Thread (3pm-4:30pm)
Tuesday: General Chat and Support Circle (8pm-9:30pm)
Wednesday: Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Thursday: Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Friday: Afternoon General Chat (1:30pm-3pm)
Saturday: Afternoon General Chat (3:30pm-5:00pm)
Sunday: Morning General Chat (11am-12:30pm) and Sunday Support Thread (3pm-4:30pm)
Another Note: Going forward we will be doing Support Threads instead of Topic Threads on Saturdays, but for this week as someone will be covering this shift, it will be a General Chat for this week
Leyla
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 01.12.25
@Jack25 I’m really sorry you’re going through something so intense right now. What you described sounds incredibly scary and draining, and it makes complete sense that you feel overwhelmed. Anyone dealing with that level of distress, physical symptoms, and intrusive thoughts would be struggling too.
It’s understandable that seeing people enjoying life or doing things you used to like is triggering. When you’re feeling numb, frightened, and disconnected, those moments can hit really hard. That doesn’t mean you’re going to feel this way forever, even though it feels permanent right now.
Reaching out for a private psychiatrist was a strong and caring step to take for yourself. You deserve proper support, and it’s okay that you didn’t want to wait any longer, that shows how you are trying to get the help you need.
It is completely valid to feel unsure or unsafe about your upcoming appointment. If it doesn’t feel right for you at the moment, given how you’re feeling, it’s more than okay to postpone or talk to someone you trust about other options. Your safety and sense of stability matter.
The intrusive thoughts around eating and the constant waves of distress sound incredibly painful. We are glad to hear you’re doing what you can to stay safe. If things get worse or you feel like you might act on those thoughts, please reach out to because you don’t have to carry this on your own.
And you don’t need to apologise for the length of your message at all because this space is for expressing how you feel and whatever is on your mind.
We’re here for you.
It’s understandable that seeing people enjoying life or doing things you used to like is triggering. When you’re feeling numb, frightened, and disconnected, those moments can hit really hard. That doesn’t mean you’re going to feel this way forever, even though it feels permanent right now.
Reaching out for a private psychiatrist was a strong and caring step to take for yourself. You deserve proper support, and it’s okay that you didn’t want to wait any longer, that shows how you are trying to get the help you need.
It is completely valid to feel unsure or unsafe about your upcoming appointment. If it doesn’t feel right for you at the moment, given how you’re feeling, it’s more than okay to postpone or talk to someone you trust about other options. Your safety and sense of stability matter.
The intrusive thoughts around eating and the constant waves of distress sound incredibly painful. We are glad to hear you’re doing what you can to stay safe. If things get worse or you feel like you might act on those thoughts, please reach out to because you don’t have to carry this on your own.
And you don’t need to apologise for the length of your message at all because this space is for expressing how you feel and whatever is on your mind.
We’re here for you.
Ech0
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 01.12.25
Hi @Jack25 , thank you so much for opening up about this. It sounds like things have been extremely difficult lately, and it can take huge courage to share. Can I check, you mentioned you're trying to stay safe. How able do you feel to keep yourself safe this evening?
And also, how able would you feel to dial for emergency services or journey to your nearest A&E if you did feel unable to keep safe?
Please know our Crisis Messenger service is here for you if you did wish for some more in-depth, 1:1 support this evening - text THEMIX to 85258.
We're sending you a lot of care @Jack25
And also, how able would you feel to dial for emergency services or journey to your nearest A&E if you did feel unable to keep safe?
Please know our Crisis Messenger service is here for you if you did wish for some more in-depth, 1:1 support this evening - text THEMIX to 85258.
We're sending you a lot of care @Jack25
Sian321
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 01.12.25
Hey @Lottie5433, thank you for sharing this - I can hear how you're feeling stressed at the moment. It sounds you've had to deal with a lot which can feel overwhelming, so your feelings are completely valid. Masking itself can be exhausting and difficult too. I'm sorry that you won't have much downtime or that you don't feel you'll sleep much - I imagine that will make things harder, and I hope you can get a little break soon to take a rest. For what it's worth, you don't deserve to suffer for having poorer mental wellbeing - you're doing your best to get through each day, and you deserve to be supported and have a break sometimes too. We're here to listen to you.
Azziman
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