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Hey Charlie!! Great to meet you, and this is a space where you can open up and we won't judge you here. The Community is here for you! We want to hear about what's happening for you.

I wonder if in a comment here you can tell us a bit more about how you are feeling in your head at the moment with everything going on? (no pressure at all but we are here to listen if you want to chat)

Im really extremely sorry with everything going on for you right now sending massive hugs to you @Animalloverb ❤️

Animalloverb wrote: »

@DonnerKebab
Yes of course it is okay, anything right now is helpful, if you want to say a prayer go for it. I have loads today.

@Animalloverb I've just said a private prayer for you and your fiancé. I really am wishing you both the best. I know it might not mean much, but from the bottom of my heart, i truly wish that the lord is good to you two. I think he meant for you to come together, meant for you to be with each other, and i don't know why hurdles like this get thrown in the way, but i think that the recovery will bring both of you even closer together. You being her support, and her being yours through it all. You both are true warriors. Her fighting as hard as she is, and you fighting to hold it together for her when she comes round.

Screaming, Crying, and praying was a normal reaction to have. Needing to desperately be there, and having all these things getting in the way when your barely keeping it together, reacting like that is called being human. The simple fact your even able to function enough to type anything is a miracle in of itself. Not having the power to just fix things, make things the way they were before, and not being able to do anything but wait truly must be agony mate. Have you at least got family around you who know of the situation? I know you mentioned they didn't know yet, but right now, it's important to have people by your side who are able to fully understand the situation and support you.

And the second surgery does sound scary, but the people who will be doing it will have spent decades doing these types of surgeries, and will be masters in there field. Did they say anything to you about it all yet, and were you able to get in as next of kin if you don't mind me asking?

Animalloverb wrote: »

Unfortunately she is currently in a coma. She has to have another brain surgery done. If all goes well she will have a long recovery road ahead of her.
My beautiful fiancé is a fighter, she may be in a coma right now but I know she is fighting. I do hope the second surgery goes well, these surgeries already come with risks.

It's still crazy to me how everything just changed overnight, like one moment we were spending our day together, me proposing to her, and us having a laugh, enjoying life. And then a few days later she wakes up crying on the phone, screaming, calling emergency services and them rushing her to hospital, to having an emergency brain surgery, to now being in a coma and needing a second surgery.
You never know these things can happen until they happen to someone you love and care about, or even to yourself.

I'm holding myself together, I know she will fight as hard as she can. It's scary, and I'm absolutely breaking down.

Today's chat has helped give me a little distraction so thank you for everyone who was on chat tonight, I very much appreciate it.

@Animalloverb oh mate, I'm so so sorry. Like you said, she's a fighter, and so long as you have each other, that's what matters. Stick with her through the recovery, support her as much as you can, and that life you dreamed together is still there for you two. She's being seen to by experts, who will do everything they can.

I know how crushing this all must feel for you, and I want you to know, you can let it all out here. Your anger, your frustration, your worry and your fear. Whatever your feeling, you don't have to process this all alone. Nobody can handle a situation like this by themselves. You don't either.

If it's okay, could i say a prayer later for both of you?

eylah wrote: »

if sh/scars mention trigger you pls dont read. just a rant abt how i feel bc it rly upset me.

just went and got my nails done and I had a short sleeved top on bc it was rly hot but some woman decided to think it was ok to say i shouldn’t wear a short sleeved top bc my scars are rly noticeable apparently and bc apparently no one wants to see that. i just had a massive cry bc it rly got to me bc ive been through shit and she had no right to say that. it rly bothered me . i dont feel comfortable now wearing short sleeved tops . im allowed to wear whatever i want and i shouldn’t have to hide my scars bc of some ppl who have no respect. im so angry its so disrespectful to point it out either in front of many ppl. i felt so embarrassed .

@eylah Im really really sorry that was said to you, you're absolutely right you can wear whatever you want and thats a disgusting thing that person said. Your feelings are valid. Im really sorryyiu had go through that.

First of all i want to send you the biggest of hugs, and i hope you are doing okay today.

I think for a lot of us, we often focus on the features we don't like about ourselves. I know I'm just as guilty for looking at pictures of myself and noticing the flaws/imperfections that I see and don't like about myself, so you definitely are not alone in how you feel.

Whilst it will probably be a mental journey to accept this message, there will be people out there who look at the features of you that you don't like and think it is beautiful and are attracted to it. But whilst looks may play a role in love, they don't last forever and what is key is the person you are on the inside, because that is what truly lets a person fall in love.

And those who make you feel any less for the way you look don't deserve the love you have to offer them. Because whilst it may seem a million miles away sometimes, the right person will love ALL of you, inside and out, and that includes the parts you don't particularly like.

Whilst what you are feeling is completely valid and okay to feel, I want to remind you that you are beautiful and deserving of the love you desire - and fingers crossed it comes around one day for you and is everything you dream it to be.

@independent_. Im so sorry that your dealing with that I can kind of understand. I felt like that after my exams. It feels weird and it can be demoralising when theres nothing to do. I don't know if its the same for you but personally I felt really empty and out of place. I tried self care, simple things like meditation or watching a show I like. Life can be so full and overwhelming sometimes its best to flip the situation on its head and see it as an opportunity to relax and have time for yourself. As for your brain give it a name (mines called Barry) and tell it to shut up and that its wrong youll be suprised how well it works! I hope that helps and that you'll feel better soon and keep us all updated! 🤗. Sending hugs

@independent_. Im sorry you've been dealing with this for that long it sounds really difficult. Just know it isn't your fault the job market is shit atm ive been looking for work experience and it is so difficult to find anything so I can empathise. For me (because I'm a fairly extroverted person) I find joy in spending time with friends and family and I always make a list of things I'm looking forward to and that helps keep me going I hope I've been able to help even if it's a tiny bit. Hope you feel better. 🤗

hey @Cutelivejazz . you’re not a burden! you are deserving of support from this community like anyone else. im sry to hear abt everything that is going on for you. im here for you. you’re not annoying anyone with everything that is going on for you it’s understandable for you to be dealing with an awful lot rn. pls keep reaching out here bc we are listening and we all care abt you.