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I can’t step back they refuse helpline help and if I do step away all they do is go off and do shit to themselves and then message me again to tell me what they’ve done.

thankyou all for caring

sry for not responding until now the past few days have been to tough for me having police involved etc it’s just not been the best. im rly struggling to cope without her but im trying. just want to say if anyone responds to my post ill answer but just sry bc im rly struggling atm.

I don’t want to be here anymore but I’m stuck, because I have a family I’m stuck, “friends” need me so I’m stuck but I’m tired I’m fk’n drained. I can’t hurt the people that I love but they can hurt me, over and over I’ll let them. I’m nothing but a stupid worthless cunt that can see bad situations but still stay, I stay in one sided friendships, I stay in toxic and gaslighting friendships. I have no one but people confide in me. People expect my help constantly. 4 suicidal friends, 2 of them evidently hate me and the other 2 expect me to be there lifeline, vents 24/7, constantly having to call emergency services because they disclose stuff that I can’t keep to myself and then they get angry. I’m not a crisis worker but it sure feels like I am one when I’ve got a safety plan for them and a google doc titled “risk assessing”. I can’t do it anymore, I can’t cope but have to mask for the sake of others because after 10pm my struggles aren’t acceptable. Boundaries are non existent they don’t get followed no matter how much I reinforce them

If you read to the end then sorry for boring you and wasting your time 🙃

hey @TheNightmare 🙂

that sounds really tough! it makes a lot of sense why overthinking would be exhausting, especially when it’s been a habit for so long. it sounds like your mind is always running through worst case scenarios, even in situations where there’s no real reason to worry. i completely get how that can make things feel overwhelming and make it hard to enjoy the good moments.

i just want to remind you that your thoughts aren’t always a reflection of reality. like with the steamer, it wasn’t you doing anything wrong, it was just slow, or the livestream, comments get missed all the time, and it had nothing to do with you personally, but i know that even when you recognise that logically, it doesn’t always stop the worrying.

it’s completely understandable to have concerns about your health too. i think a lot of people experience that to some degree, but it sounds like it really weighs on you. it’s ok to care about your wellbeing, but i hope you’re not too hard on yourself over things like takeaways. having a few in a week doesn’t define your health overall, and feeling guilty about it only adds more stress.

i know breaking out of overthinking isn’t easy, but you deserve to be kind to yourself. you’re not alone in feeling this way, and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.

we’re always here for you

I’ve realized how much I overthink things, and it’s been affecting me for years. For example, when I went to my volunteering role yesterday, I was steaming clothes, and the steamer was slow. I started wondering if I was doing something wrong or if it wasn’t working. I worried about getting told off and whether people were watching me, even though it turned out the steamer was just slow. This kind of overthinking happens a lot in general, whether I’m wondering if I’m doing something wrong, if my body language or looks are off, or if people are thinking negatively about me. I often assume the worst, which makes it hard for me to not worry about what others think.

I’ve been doing this for years, and sometimes I just don’t think highly of myself. I know I can be harsh on myself, but it’s hard not to be. I also find it difficult to be positive about myself. For instance, when I was watching an Instagram live stream of a YouTuber and asked a question, I noticed my question kept getting missed. I overthought, wondering if they were ignoring me or if they'd heard bad things about me, even though comments get missed all the time in busy live streams. I tend to feel negative when things aren't going well, and when something does go well, I'm surprised. I often don’t take compliments well or think things that go well aren't good enough. These feelings have been with me for several years now, and it’s tough to shake them off.

Recently, I’ve also been worrying about my health. After seeing a guy have an epileptic seizure, I got scared that it might happen to me or that I might develop a similar condition, and I started overthinking how it would impact my life. I don't want to make that incident about me, but it did give me that worry. I’ve always worried about my health, and when I don't feel well or get sick, I often overthink it, wondering if it's something deeper or a condition. Sometimes, I eat a few takeaways in a week, and I feel guilty because I worry about how it might impact my health. I track how many I’ve had, thinking, "This is the second one" or "This is the third." I’m not sure if everyone does this, but I just worry about it, even though I know it's important to stay healthy.

sinead276 wrote: »

hey @TheNightmare

I think first of all, you definitely aren’t alone in this. I think a lot of us can often fall into the habit of overthinking things and worrying more than we perhaps need to about situations we encounter. I know I definitely have had my own moments of doubts and worry, with similar thoughts such as ‘are these people watching me’. I think what helps me is reminding myself that ultimately, most people are more focused on what they are doing or thinking, rather than paying attention to me. I know it can be hard when you’re in a cycle of overthinking things, but try not to take things too personally and remember that at the end of the day, as long as you’re giving your best and doing what you can to enjoy life and be a good person, it is not something other people can judge you for. Or if they do judge then that’s often a bigger reflection on them that it is you.

Just remember you definitely aren’t alone in this and we are all here for you if there’s more things you start to overthink in the future – it happens to the best of us so try not to worry too much (easier said than done i know )

sending hugs

@sinead276 I really appreciate this it means a lot. I completely agree that overthinking is something many people experience, just to different extents. I know I tend to do it more than others, and it can be hard to break out of that cycle. But you're right, most people are too focused on their own lives to be watching or judging us. Thanks for the reassurance, it really helps.

hey @TheNightmare

I think first of all, you definitely aren’t alone in this. I think a lot of us can often fall into the habit of overthinking things and worrying more than we perhaps need to about situations we encounter. I know I definitely have had my own moments of doubts and worry, with similar thoughts such as ‘are these people watching me’. I think what helps me is reminding myself that ultimately, most people are more focused on what they are doing or thinking, rather than paying attention to me. I know it can be hard when you’re in a cycle of overthinking things, but try not to take things too personally and remember that at the end of the day, as long as you’re giving your best and doing what you can to enjoy life and be a good person, it is not something other people can judge you for. Or if they do judge then that’s often a bigger reflection on them that it is you.

Just remember you definitely aren’t alone in this and we are all here for you if there’s more things you start to overthink in the future – it happens to the best of us so try not to worry too much (easier said than done i know )

sending hugs