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i went to the doctors today, had a chat and he put me back on AD's.. i just started to mention self harm to him, as i was going to tell him about mine, as i havent spoken to anyone at all over it..
But.. he jumps into a speech about how if it wasn't in the papers at the moment, it wouldn't be anywhere near as bad..how its 'f'n stupid' and its a temporary buzz complaint that will pass. This made me feel even more worthless than i was already, knocking me down a peg or 5 and thennn..he goes on about 'look at it like this, ive seen 3 people with cancer this morning, try and get your problems into perspective'
such help these days..
[i know cancer is worse:rolleyes:]
I'm sorry you saw a complete cunt of a doctor, try again and don't let it put you off them.
Showing pictures of cutting injuries on a "support" website is grossly irresponsible, IMHO; all it does is give people new ideas of what to do and what to try, it serves no other purpose. It's why I delibrately avoid telling people how I cut; I don't want to give them ideas as to what to do.
That's interesting. Personally I find pictures the most triggering thing, cos when you're in that frame of mind, for me it isn't a case of "I don't wanna go that bad", it's more like "I can do worse than that".
I'm sorry, I wasn't judging, I only said that I wish I hadn't looked at the pics, I wasn't referring to the site as a whole. I'm sure it is supportive and I'm glad you have found support there.
well done
keep going.
Everyone is different, some people will be comforted by pictures of wounds. Personally I find them triggering, and they give me ideas- publishing them on a support website is very irresponsible, and I stand by that statement.
A week is a good start, keep up the good work hon:)
I don't think any of us know what goes through our heads, I sure as hell don't. I was in tears earlier because the tea I cooked was crap.
i can sympathise. i was in tears the other day because i was convinced dave was going to find some blonde bimbo and date her instead of me. i was really upset about that. i have cooked many meals and cried over them too.
its funny the things that upset us when you are feeling down.
i struggle looking at that site. i only look at it when i am feeling down and want to cut but cant due to the fact that it is not possible for me to do that (ie because i am in the library or dont have a suitable implement to do it) i then start imagining what all i want to do. not an easy website to look at for me
Your self-harming is a symptom rather than a cause of your problems. But if you put yourself under extreme pressure not to cut but then a trigger comes along and you do cut you will feel bad that you failed and enter the vicious circle.
I know this is far easier said than done.
But then again they probably don't *get it* as unless you've been there you can't really can you?
I don't drink nowadays (but more to do with the ADs not being compatible with alcohol rather than the depressive effects alcohol has on people) and can sympathize. Peer pressure is very strong. Even my relatively sensistive and well informed friends at university still try to talk me into drinking despite knowing that I won't as I'm on medication and stuff. They know what its for but I think they think that if I lighten up and get drunk with the rest of them then it would help me have fun and join in etc. I know it wouldn't help me but they know less about me than I do and don't realise that it would do me more harm than good.
Dealing with "peer pressure" and the social expectation etc surrounding drinking is actually far worse than the not drinking itself.
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I'm so upset because my parents are besides themselves, mum was crying so much when I was on the phone to her and I felt so bad.
Has anyone had CBT or anything like that and does it help? If not does anyone have anything to recommend since apparently I have to have something because the staff need a guarantee that we're doing something, especially as I am on the JCR for next year and I was made today to feel very much like I shouldn't be if I'm doing this, despite the fact that I am outwardly fine.
I know what you mean about cutting your arms - I hide it regardless of the weather but I think that's as conspicuous as showing it sometimes. People are constantly joking about me wearing a cardi in summer but at least they don't know why.
CBT seems the most effective form of therapy for many self-harmers. It's all about looking at the thought processes you go through in different situations and working out how to change them so that you don't feel bad about yourself any more, and you don't feel the need to cut yourself. As with everything, though, it's not for everyone.
Go see your GP at uni, and see what they recommend. Mention that CBT has been suggested because they can probably find an NHS therapist who's qualified to go through that process with you.
Above all, good luck! If things with your GP don't go anywhere, try your uni support services, and keep trying until someone listens.
just wanted to vent a bit, sorry.
im talking online to my fiance and i am just in tears. the thing that scares me the most is that i do not know why i am feeling like this today. its so long since i have been like this.
And congrats, good for you Hope you keep getting better.
I think that they are fairly focused on the reason you are their on that occassion so are unlikely to mention your scars.
Lots of people on here have posted about having jabs and blood tests and stuff with cuts and scars on show and most say that the nurse didn't pass comment.
Even if they do comment... why bother lieing?
Edited to add: this thread might be worth a read for reassurance!
Our school nurse used to administer injections and since she's involved in pastoral care as well she would comment sometimes. It all depends on the person as to how they handle it and whether you want them to know.