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because i keep getting things dumped on me, everyone wants a bit of me time after time, if im not doing the housework then im shopping or im doing decorating or like today i have gone to my car to find the battery is dead so i expect that im going to have to get the thing off and charge it myself, hes known about that for the last few days tht it was a high risk as the car hadnt been used, but i was stuck with finding it and having to sort it, oh add to that having to py the bills and make sure that the dog will be at the vets by 8 am tmorrow morning
Sorry are you trying to say that the sun never shines, your kids never do anything cute etc?
Or is it that you don't look to enjoy it?
So, basically, you let yourself be treated like a doormat?
Maybe he leaves things because he knows that you will do it. Answer to that is - don't.
yeah i did that a long time back and we lost a house because if it, and he didnt pay a single bill, to this day he still hasnt clue how much things are and what needs paying or when, or even how to pay them!!! i have told him time after time he should take more notice and start being more involved all i hear is yes i will but never does
This isn't about sex and your enjoyment, it's about your whole life and (based on what you say here) no real partnership.
I'd go for divorce.
There is nothing she likes, therefore there is nothing she likes about this man.
thats not exactly an uncommon thing for a guy to do, or for grandparents to do, but its a long time for you to hold resentment for something minor
they where aloowed to eat like animals spit hit amongst many other things and behave so badly that i couldnt even take them to playgroup!! yeah thats minor thing isnt it
Clearly you aren't happy with this. So change it or leave.
If he isn't helping to make you happy then he is part of the problem.
maybe because their mother didnt love them?
Or she was too busy looking for reasons not to spend time with them and to enjoy them.
It's easy to blame everyone else for your troubles but at no point during this discussion have you accepted that you allow things to be as they are.
actually yes i was kinda
i was pregnant, no job no money no where to live, it was kinda expected that we got married, marriage had never been talked about or even thought of til i found i was pregnant
:crying:
My nana had 10, 11 if you count the one that died as a baby, and still had time to love each and every one of them. Love isnt something you make time for.
I could never have a spare second in the day but would still love my children with every fibre of my being.
Do you really think its normal? I suppose you blame your children for you not loving them?
ok suzy im not a natural mum ok!!!!
i hadnt even touched a baby before we had our first, i had no idea what end did what!!!!!