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so what do you want us to say, that hes a bastard?
The simple fact is you dont love him. You barely like the guy.I give him 10 out of 10 for commitment the last 28 years
Especially having experienced your responses to our attempts to help you. Jesus.
so much bitterness, no wonder you can't enjoy sex with him. Whether he knew or not it is not his fault that you are both ignorant, you can change things though if you want to but you really need to stop holding grudges/being bitter. If you hate him as much as comes accross then just do both of you a favour and end it.
Read this http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/masturbationwomen.htm
and this http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/orgasmtrouble.htm
Watch some porn that shows female masturbation - it's free on the internet along with porn showing couples sexing, see if you find this arousing. Go and play with your clit in a variety of ways until it feels good. copy the porn if it helps but most importantly accept your clit is there and will give you pleasure if your mind will let it.
im sorry for shouting but i tend to type as i would speak, there isnt a way of expressing banging your head against a brick wall tho without using large typeface is there?
You need to forget the sex for a while, forget your relationship. Concentrate on YOU. Finding a little bit of happiness in life. I think it will be a long journey, but what have you got to lose?? only your misery and unhappiness.
i am terrified of doing anything wrong, i cant move most the time because he is on me doing things and hes the most clumsiest man i have ever met, so you dont tend to move a whole lot with the elbow or knee or whatever likely to hit you at some point, the man claims that he has trouble finding where to put himself in me without hurting me so staying still seems to be the best way of him actually getting somewhere near managing it, he wouldnt have any chance if i was moving around would he? as for doing much of anything else i havent got a clue what to do!!!!! he seems to just want to get on with it and do things his own way
but its pointless asking the question coz until you deal with the cause of the problem no position is going to make any difference whatsoever , full stop. you could try every position in the karma sutra and you still wouldnt enjoy it.
him thinking you like him?
im terrified that he actually thinks that we are getting somewhere and that hes doing something right and that im enjoying it, basically leading him up the path sort of thing, yeah even if i could get over that part and do that what if it dont lead to anything changing in me? what if im still the same and then after doing all that if he turned to me and asked was it any differenct and having to reply no it wwas still the same for me?
... isn't that the issue though.
I've just flicked through this thread and , in between the shouting, it seems that most of the issues you are having stem from a mental block which you have. I don't know whether it's a subconscious thing or if you are actually aware but it sounds like you cannot enjoy life generally and sex is just one manifestation of that.
no it doesnt it means me being terrified of biulding his hopes up for nothing and having to let him down and see the dissapointment in him yet one more time, it nearly kills me doing that!!!
I disagree.
There are parts of life which are hard work but there is so much to enjoy, if you just allow yourself to do that.
There is nothing wrong with having fun, you shouldn't ever feel guilty for that.
but if you keep reinforcing that in your head then vyou won't ever enjoy anything
Why is that?
i get none of that.