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Is it shallow to be attracted to attractiveness, and look down on others?
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And I know people who also teach in very similar schools and get their buzz and enjoyment from helping those people.
Anyone going on about how wonderful their salary and friends are gets tedious, boring and annoying after a while and puts a dampner on anyones mood.
Usually arrogant people have low self esteem...the arogance is an act to cover that.
Preening, plucking and all that shit wouldn't get rid of a big birth mark on someone's face!
This whole thread shouts low self esteem. The fact that it had upset/worried you what we all said last time about you being shallow. If you really were as ok and happy about yourself you wouldn't have paid that the slightest bit of notice.
Except no one was objecting to your way of life, except for the fact that you said you weren't happy in that thread. People were giving advice on how you could improve your happiness, based on what you told us.
Then why piss and moan about your life to us?
They're not mutually exclusive y'know? Anyone who seeks the approval and admiration of others as much as you do has got have self-esteem issues.
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You started all these threads and none sounds like someone who is happy with their life. The first thing to do before you ucan make things better is to accept that you may be part of the reason why people don't like/fancy you. It's not just about "them"...
People here are trying to help you, they have offered some wise words of advise. So what if you earn a shit load of cash, it sounds like you have much to learn about "living" from the paupers using these boards. Wisdom is something that money just doesn't buy.
So you're worried about hanging out with the underdogs will ruin you reputation?
A reputation for what? Being a shallow, arrogant and generally judgemental person? Like I've said before, you don't come across as very nice... I certainly wouldn't hang out with you if you're as conceited in real life as you come across here. Bad vibes man...
I would rather have a reputation for being a friendly and good natured street cleaner than somebody who works in a high paid job and looks down on others and forms shallow and souless relationships with people based on looks and career. I find is sad that people value such things so highly... Guess it's just the way the "other half" live. But you can't have very good self-esteem if you care so much about what other people think.
And rating women... Giving them points? Again... That's sad because if you truelly cannot see beyond the points a woman achieves for how you think she looks, or her paypacket then you're missing out on the best parts of what a woman is. Her softness, that cute way she giggles, her mind, her spirit, her strength... The fact that automatically say your "7/10 yadda yadda Oxbridge ect girlfriend" completely dismisses anthing that (most) women love to be valued for. I hope that one day she will find somebody who doesn't post immature crap like that on internet messageboards and instead starts threads like "I've met the most incredible woman who I'd die for".
Hey, maybe you have started such threads on other boards... or maybe you will once you get to know her better, or at least get to put your dick in her because hey, you're pretty confident you'll do that soon and have no issues with admitting it on messageboards, right?
And what are you without your cash? A hollow shell? Are you less of a person?
You know, you can experience the most amazing things and live a wicked life without hanging out in upper class wine bars. You can manage a decent night out in London for £30 (drink before hand, unless you're a lightweight) and you can meet people on all levels who will value for who you are. I'm not saying your mates don't value you... But your obsession with reputation and who you hang out with suggest that you're so frightened of judgement that you're scared that people will leave?
What makes you happier Jomery, real friendship or money? Because once you go without the cash and when you're hard up, that is when your real friends show themselves.
One of my very good friends just got a first in one of his assignments, at the end of his first year at Cambridge. A year ago he managed to get the highest possible grade (one which a very small handful of people in the WORLD manage to achieve) in the International Baccalaureate, which (let me tell you from experience) is hardly the easiest of qualifications at the best of times. Before that he managed to get top grades in every single GCSE he sat. His grammar school said that he was the best linguist they have ever seen. He is fluent in French, almost fluent in Spanish (although the most impressive part of this is that he started learning it at beginner level at the same time I did and managed to get a 7 at higher level less than two years later), knows Latin and Ancient Greek, taught himself Czech, is teaching himself Polish afaik, and is currently learning German as part of his joint degree. He wrote his Extended Essay (look it up) in French, which takes some doing. He is without a doubt the smartest person I know. He is very, very far from what you term "ordinary".
But he is also one of the most sociable, entertaining, fun-loving people I know. He cares more about his friends than anything else in the world, no matter who they are or where they come from. He is genuine, and honest, and understanding. He is also incredibly modest and frequently says that he's not worthy of all the things he's achieved, despite the fact that he's worked so, SO hard to achieve them. And he would never, EVER judge anybody based on their appearance or their social standing, because he's not that fucking stupid or judgemental.
Open your mind, Jomery, because you're a fucking ARSEHOLE right now who needs a taste of the real world and what it can offer you. Although I am inclined to agree with Yerascrote and say that the likelihood of you actually being for real is very, very small.
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Do you think she's only with you because of your good look and money? Would that bother you?
You feel proud to be with her in the same way you'd be proud of a new flashy watch? What about love, passion and honesty?
You look down you teacher acquaintances. They make not make as much money. Do you not think they have a rather more noble and respected career than you?
The only people you're impressing are those that are as shallow and blind as yourself. All substance.
Maybe if the working class children didn't get such a raw deal there wouldn't be as much bad behaviour. It's no use complaining about them because someone has to do the job and try to help. If all teachers went to the private system to teach all the little angels then the system would be fucked.
Or it could just be that she's not interested in you; just your money?
Is there any reason why you seem to look down on nearly everyone?
You don't really think people in the city are more respected than teachers do you? I mean, come on, you can't be aware of much of the 'real world' if you don't know how most people think of people in the city.
Most people I know think of teachers as doing an incredibly hard job in a difficult situation and most city workers as arrogant tax dodgers. You're hardly disproving the rule.
With that attitude, I'd like to see you do my job. If you think that 'anyone' can do it, come and show us, and I bet you wouldn't last a week :thumb: