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Is it shallow to be attracted to attractiveness, and look down on others?
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The last thing I recall reading is that you'd been cautioned for stalking/harassing somebody, you'd been fired, and that you'd never work in your industry again.
So - what exactly are you doing now to earn good money, if all your experience is in banking etc, yet you're unable to work in that?
Got a networking event to go to, will be back 9ish.x
"Skipped 7 months to get promoted to the next rung of the ladder"?
Must be different in your industry - mine you get promoted if you're good enough, not by how long you've been somewhere.
What women?
TBH, I'd rather be friends wityh someone who I consider ugly who I got on well with than someone who was stuck up.
Come on then, put your money where your mouth is and show us a picture of you with all these "high quality women" then. Incidentally, all of my female friends are high quality women, and it has nothing to do with their looks. Though I bet most of them are hotter than your friends anyway.
TBH, it does sound pretty similar to a shallow little teenage boy who adds anyone good looking to their myspace, to make themselves appear popular with the girls.
:yes: I agree. I swore I wasnt going to bother replying and become part of the circus Jomery seems to crave.
But I have to agree with Yerascrote, Im very sceptical :chin: <TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD class=j>[SIZE=-1][/SIZE]</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>
First kiss at 23 and even admits she wasn't pretty, and still a virgin.
Sound like Jomery is doing a top job of pulling all these "high class women"
Also, the guest list companies that gain you access to these exclusive venues aren't THAT difficult to get yourself on to. I used to use a couple, but found that I much preferred the venues (and people) that I still go to nowadays. Many of my friends do very well for themselves indeed, many do not - the thing is, it's not important to us. That is certainly horses for courses though, people.
I agree, it does feel good to be able to do that, and I'm blessed that I know some fairly important people.
I'm even more blessed because I was their friend when they had nothing and they were nothing, and I know that what we have is real!
I don't think you are lying about your profession, or your ability to walk into places, but that's all because of how shiny your credit card is, not how good you are as a person. That's the saddest thing of all. You expect everyone to be wowed by your bank balance, when emotionally you're insolvent.
Agreed.
To be honest, I would love a crack at the investment banking side of things. I'm a little bored with the whole Test Management Consultant deal now and I certainly don't think it could be any higher pressure than my current role. I know the grass isn't always greener, but change can be good.
Your are an arse. You limit yourself because for you attractiveness is far more important than friendship, honesty and loyalty - the three attributes which make good lifeliong friends. That is why I feel sorry for you.
You make friends for purely selfish reasons, to ultimately make you feel better about yourself.
You got that right.
High quality friends are not determined by money or looks. Have you ever had any proper friends?
I would surmise not.
I couldn't care less how attractive my mates are, their job, social standing or anything. I make friends with people that make me feel good. End of. As for relationships i obviously go for people i'm attracted to, whether they're universally attractive is another thing though. They might be considered ugly by everyone else but since when has everyone elses opinions been the most important thing?
:yes: TBH, I don't fancy most of my friends and like them because of the person they are and not how they look.
As for people I fancy - I couldn't care less what everyone thinks. They're not the one going out with them, are they?
This is the heart of the matter. 'High-calibre' people to you means attractive and wealthy, to me it means people I can rely on and people who I can trust because it's in their nature.
If you had a car accident and were horribly disfigured and coudln't work anymore, your so called friends would soon dissapear. Mine wouldn't, and there's the differennce.
Spot on :thumb:
So what if people think you're ugly? You don't mind them ignoring you?
I don't ignore anyone unless they've done something to deserve it. It's not like I'm allergic to ugly people, I just can't relate.
How can you not relate to ugly people?!
Actually I think the two are combined. They say (Avot, chapter 4, mishnah 1). Who is rich? He who is content with their lot. Yet we seem to find so often that it is those who are the highest achievers who are the least content, and I actually think this is natural - those who are content with what they already have are likely to be those who do not strive for better and so will often under-achieve.
Reminds me of the time the press gave the snub to Andrew Ridgeley. He emerged from a nightclub and all the photographers put their cameras down and refused to take a picture, and he was well aggrieved.
Maybe you should take a step down from your "high-society" life because you're obviously not happy with it. How about spending some of your money on social coaching?
But who's to say that you aren't ugly?
Catch my drift?
Although it has brought up one of my favourite phrases
Because those two words sum up anyone who can't be friends with someone for who they are, just for what they look like or what the can get from them.
Personally, I find it really easy to avoid people like that.
I'm not lonely though, I can confidentily say that. If you're a stuck up shallow person, you will attract stuck up shallow people who will judge you not on who you are, but what you are, no bones about it. Misery loves company and so does arrogance.
you know what's really tragic - you feel the only thing you have to give is your looks and contacts. That's so screwed up, I'm sorry to hear it. For a start, if you're that hot, someone would have shagged you by now. Otherwise, don't I remember you're an oxbridge graduate? Doesn't that tend to involve some intellectual spark?
I feel so sorry for you that you don't feel you have any actual personal qualities to give to a relationship or the world. Honey you need to get some help because life like that swiftly becomes meaningless...