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Self Harm Awareness Day - Expert Special on coping tips and distractions
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Thanks.
I think it's a release, and a non-fatalistic means of my attacking myself/ expressing self-hatred, in a way. Inevitably, I've kept doing it because of how I feel after.
I started because I'd just had enough -I was sick of being poorly treated by people.
Hey there, it sounds like you're really mixed up. What would be bad about your parents knowing? Telling people can be incredibly hard but it's amazing how much people who care will want to try and help and understand. Take a step back and see if you can begin to understand how and why it started - how you were feeling and how the harming appeared to make you feel better. It depends on how you harm as to whether it will scar, but remember scars are forever and learning to accept them will be a part of your recovery. Take one day at a time, and take care.
Good luck - ChildLine is free, and you can ask for help with any problem. There are also message boards where you can share your thoughts with other young people. There are also pages of information that you can read, and links to other places where you can get help. There are other free services too, so don't worry about having to pay to get help.
Hey Blackveilbrides - if you haven't seen it already, our article on confiding in someone might help you decide if you are ready to talk to someone and how.
I want to tell the friends though but I dont know how to
Charlie, really pleased you have found some support here - please do feel free to stick around on TheSite boards - have a look at the rest of the forums and say hello Welcome!
Feel free to stick around on the forums OreoCookie for some more support - you can also use askTheSite to ask an expert privately.
Your parents already worry about you - it's what parents do! You could try and tell a friend by writing a letter - even sending a text. It doesn't have to be face-to-face, and it's sometimes easier not to. Go for it!
I know you may be worried about speaking to your parents. because they will worry but they will only worry cos they care about you.
Talking to your friends is a good step, It is hard to approach this subject though,and I guess it could depend on how close you are with them.
Some parents can be really supportive, and offer you the help you need. But there's always that chance to take if you tell them or not.
Have you got a friend you trust a lot? It can be difficult when they first hear what you're doing, but it can be helpful. My friend approached me and told me she self-harmed, and I had been the only one she trusted. She started off with telling me she needed someone to talk to and is struggling and copes in a different way to most people. I offered her that listening ear and I was able to help her through it.
It really does depend how well you trust your friend. I'd start off by telling them you really need to talk to them, and that you would like to discuss a few things with them.
Thank you for sharing. You can keep talking on these message boards, you can visit us at selfharm.co.uk or contact ChildLine - get used to talking about it online and the courage will come. Take care and stay safe.
In that case, the websites are http://750words.com andhttp://ohlife.com, they're both very similar, (both online diaries), although on 750words there are more options, and you have a goal to write 750 words each day. Ohlife is much more relaxed, they send you an email and you reply as if writing in a diary, and then your entry appears on the website, although only you can access it.
Take a look around TheSite and its many forums - you may find that some act as distractions and ways of coping themselves! e.g. Anything goes, Travel & Freetime, Sex and Relationships - there's so much to chat about!
There's also selfharm.co.uk and of course ChildLine for up to 19 year-olds - they have message boards like this as well as one-to-one chat and the phone line.
Take care :wave: