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Well, that's just silly. It's the same as me starting a really techy thread about my computer in the food forum - it just doesn't belong there so people will pull you up. Tiptoeing around things like depression and self harm doesn't help matters and just because you are depressed isn't an excuse for poor manners.
I agree that there are certain places for certain threads and if you can't handle or don't want to see something to distress you stay out of those section or having the common sense not to open posts that are obviously about those topics!
Please guys, just calm down
sometimes people who are down can also be a bit paranoid and think the whole world is against them. If she wants to post and get support then H&WB is the place to be.
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However:
I think the issue is more that people are posting triggering stuff in the ranty thread and not things like "I burnt my dinner".
When did the rule come in that only stupid things could be posted in the ranty thread?
Would you want to go into a thread entitled "things that have kind of bugged me today" and see someone say, "I cut myself really badly, [detail]"? No. You wouldn't. Which is why my thread in H&WB, the D&SH thread, and the whole H&WB forum are there. For people to post triggering content and things which other users may be uncomfortable reading in a place where they can choose whether they want to read it or not.
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B-A, if your friend posts in the appropriate section she wont get yelled at, pushed away or anything like that. Those who are prone to triggering content will know to keep away so it wont impact them and she will get help in there.
Tbh i stay out of the H&WB thread most of the time cos i dont know what im talking about and people talking about self harm/depression doesnt affect me like it does others but i think its a good idea we have seperate threads now. Especially when i wanna moan about something trivial like 'my car wont start and i have to get the bus boo hoo' and then feel guilty for being selfish as other people have bigger problems.
Long story short: Post away all you like, thats what that particular forum is for!
The whole point of the ranty thread in the first place was for people to have a chance to bitch and moan about anything that bothered them. Maybe on that day having a burnt dinner was like the end of the world.
Anything Goes is meant to be a fun forum and people go in expecting fun, and come out with all sorts of problems brought to the surface because of triggering content they werent warned about, hence, the new SH thread is started for that triggering content to go into, leaving the original ranty thread a bit more lighthearted and safer. I really dont see what the problem is?
It doesn't bother me at all, normally I don't want to post about the self harm, just about the fact I'm annoyed I've done it. That's a rant.
yes but when you saw the pink video you were upset because you saw something you weren't expecting, and it's exactly the same - if you want to rant that you've cut yourself then anything goes isn't the place to do it, as if someone is really on the edge then that's not what they need to see.
that is ur personal interpretation of what a rant is. Other people have different ideas, and this is where lines get blurry. in the last six years ive been posting AG has always (usually) been light hearted stuff.
Some people don't want to read about it, and that's fair enough because it's not exactly the most comforting of subjects and it's not pleasant reading even when you don't mind seeing it.
There is a thread for posting your SH, mental health and other triggery, unpleasant subjects related rants now. That is its specific purpose. That's where those posts go now. Continuing to post those things in a thread where people have stated it makes them uncomfortable seeing it is rude, inconsiderate and kind of selfish.
But that's what I think the people are who have pushed users away from the boards. And there are quite a few who've left because they've felt discriminated against... Megan, AHL, Bio-Haz to name a few.
It's a forum not a school yard, we all have to enjoy posting here. Some people find it difficult to read some threads because of the content and a suggested solution has been put forward. It's pretty easy to understand and not that difficult to stick to. Everyone can post the topics they want to, no one is excluded.
So really, what is the problem here? Sheesh.
sorry sir
This is the most meanest site I have ever seen, yet I love it!
I've come across much worse than this. The Site is tame compared to some I've been on.
It is selfish to post things which may be detrimental to the mental wellbeing of other users in places where they are not expecting to see it and have not been warned about it. It is not selfish to expect the users of this site to bear that in mind and keep their posts to the appropriate areas, particularly when a thread has been created for the express purpose of giving those who were making such posts in the ranty thread a place to go and express themselves without consequence.
EUGH.
I don't understand why it's suddenly selfish when it's been going on for over 200 pages?
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This.
I have no idea what the problems are here. You know the score, you know where various threads should lie, you know what topics go where so ffs follow through on that instead of acting like 7 year olds.
Urgh, being pulled up on not being a courteous poster is not being mean. It's stating facts. And just because you are depressed or what not doesn't mean you have rights to post whatever the hell you want wherever the hell you want to.
i think we have.
Original rules have been restablished now lets all stick to them.
This question. I want an explanation.
You post the relevant information in the relevant forums. For example, you post crappy 'omgz i burnt my tea' in the ranty thread and you post 'urgh, i want to do xyz to myself' or whatever in the hugs thread. Or do what franki did and start your own thread that you can add to whenever you feel the need to.
It's fairly simple.
As for other forums, there probably are out there but the only forums I use are this one, one local to where I live and a knitting one. None of which are really what you are looking for.
I think you'll find that it has always been an issue but it just took a while for someone to comment.
I'm not sure that the timing matters though TBH do you? It's about being part of a community, which is what this place is. Is it really such a big issue to be neighbourly?
Because it's most likely been building up and bothering people for a while but someones only just had to guts to say something. Doesn't mean it hasn't been an issue for people because no one said anything.
National Self Harm Network (www.nshn.co.uk)
I think in one of the articles on The Site, does have a list of useful forms (or at least websites) for self harm / depression.