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This bit has to be up there! Isn't there a doubtfire musical coming out soon?
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I feel like its definitely not ideal either. Like unless you're physically or mentally unable to work I feel like its embarassing to be unemployed, it doesn't look good when dating too when you tell a woman that. I was on calm talking about my situation that I don't want to do some job that I don't like, even she said its better than stuck at home bored and skint
I think she was out of order saying that though, she doesn't know my circumstances, I felt like she was being rude and assuming so I kicked off a bit. Do you think she was being out of order?
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@leyla26 I think the same worker has said similar things before prior to that, normally I tried to stay cool or I just ended the conversation like cut it off but I felt like I just need to like make her aware that it's kind of rude what she's saying because she doesn't know anything about me apart from what I have told her.
Anyway how's your Peugeot? I think you said your dad is getting a new car too a few weeks or months ago did het it?
Peugeot is alright, someone accidentally let a trolley go and scratched all the side of it so now I gotta get that fixed. He's still looking for it because he's so indecisive lmao. I think he's between the bigger version of my car and maybe a Corsa
Hopefully, with time you will access the support you need and deserve. What would your ideal next steps look like for you?
Yh true, I just got a bit pissed off, I feel like a lot of people would if she said the same to them.
Nice, bigger version would be the Peugoet 208 , I think its not bad especially the current version it's futuristic. Corsa is ok too
@FordRanger ooh we did a long journey in the Mokka yesterday, what a great car. I love it, and i always think of you when i have car news!
@Laura_tigger82 yeah I love ticking stuff off too. I’m just having to drag myself through at the moment because I can’t ignore the fact christmas is in 2 days
It's always tricky when it feels like people don't understand what we are feeling or say something that insensitive. We can't control this, but as Leyla says, we can control our reactions to these things and so removing ourselves from unhelpful or hurtful conversations wherever possible can be the best way forward.
Just an fyi, I have removed the images of your conversation as these are private messages, and I think you've given a good overview of the conversation. Charities should have ways to complain if you are unhappy with the support they have provided, so I would encourage you to raise it through those channels.
Whilst what they said wasn't helpful for you, it is good that you felt able to reach out to for support. What kind of things do you think would be helpful in moving forward with finding a job you would like?
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Yh people criticising me.
I'm not sure tbh job wise maybe look for something in new year but I feel so unmotivated. I think support wise, i font usr calm anymore but I can keep using here and kooth. Mike messaged me some other places I can get support too
@FordRanger It is ok to acknowledge that you felt angry. Anger can be channeled in different ways though and some of those ways might mean you are less likely to have your chats ended
@independent_ Christmas is coming quickly now, isn't it? How are you feeling about Christmas?
Hehehe nora wasn't so happy about the bath tho
@independent_ Nice, I think my uncle is getting a Corsa work car at some point because he was a driving instructor before covid but he didn't get back into it after but now he's getting back into it at some point next year. Pick me up in the Mokka though, I could have a go at it too.