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Do what you think is best for you and don't let them change your mind. They should stick by you whatever
PM me or something if you want to talk about anything ok? I shall always listen
Same offer stands for me too Kirsty.
*hugs*
ah well even the mental halth people have given up on me so at least i know i really am pathetic
mental health teams are often not helpful unless you are at absolute crisis point
clicke the link in my sig if you want some support - i'm around there more than here, and there are plaenty of people there who will understand
And don't forget me! ! :wave:
A xxxx
don't worry, matey. they gave up on me 4 years ago and i'm still kicking
not over. just different.
i ended my first go of upper sixth with one A level and an AS level. I started the sixth form doing 5 A levels, so felt like an immense plonker and huge failure. gave up on life. after some months realised i was being ridiculous, went back the year after, did 2 more A levels and another AS, went to uni 2 years after everyone else, didn't make a huge difference. still have a life.
Hey! I know you're username from forum.psyke.org. :wave:
Fucking mental health "professionals" useless i tell you!
hehe yar i 100% agree about the music thing! :thumb:
hope that rant helped ya feel better
oh and happy birthday for friday :birthday:
(ooo look at all the smilies i used
(methinks the heartfelt admissions may have something to do with this)
I hope people feel better and have help getting sorted out soon.
A xx
Take care of yourself honey, it'll be ok, I promise
There is this girl I know from online, who has began selfharming quite a lot and keeps writing stuff about it and how worthless she is. Basically, she's majorly depressed. Since she lives in another continent, there's obviously not much I can do, but I do find this so hard to deal with because she does not want to seek help. She's even said that she doesn't want to change.
Do any of you have any ideas regarding what I could possibly do? I have been gathering information about self harming and I have never blamed her for what she's doing or how she's feeling, but I feel so helpless and this is getting me down. I truly want to be a friend to her, but I just do not quite know how to do that.
I'm the same as you - have an internet friend. All he talks of is wanting to die, how people hate him etc...he just won't help himself. It's difficult, you cannot physically do anything for her I'm afraid, talk to her, make suggestions as to how to help herself, and now you have information help her to understand that this is something she's not a lone on, that she can gain help and such. Sorry am not a lot of use, I'd love similar responses to this because, he was threatening to kill himself the other night and I've not heard from him...feeling really worried and yet at the same time, I met him through this, I don't 'owe' him nothing etc...but what to help him...such a decent bloke but cause I have a bf, I have no idea what it's like to be a lone apparently...even though I've been exactly the saem as him before.
Malt xx
It's a good first step that you care about her welfare. Take a read of this article about supporting a self harmer - it might give you some useful tips, and there are plenty of other articles to help you understand it all a bit more (just click on the links down the left hand side).
Keep letting her know that however far away you are, you are always there to talk.
Try to take it one step at a time. Like Kaffrin said, you can do it slower, in your own time, and still get to uni. If you make your studies more manageable now, you'll be able to cope a bit better, rather than trying to do too much at once and end up burning out. Your life doesn't have to be over at all - it might just take a bit longer to get where you're going, but you will get there. Take care x
Yeh. I just get really worked up over things and it feels like everythings crashing around me. I've had some new ideas, might go work abroad next year, and then I can retake any modules if need be as I study languages so will be contstantly learning over there anyway.
I self harm. I cut my arm and sometimes my wrist but i never thought of it as depression but my friends keepsaying i should do something about it seeing as i cant stop. Help would be nice.
What makes YOU want to cut?
I see how it can become an addiction. I would never let her know I tried it. I just, I need to understand. I need to make her stop. Everytime I think she may be doing it, I think of what I can be doing to help her. The fact that I can't be there for her all the time kills me. The thought that when she's doing it, one slip of the wrist can mean the end, I'll never see her again, it's too much to bear. I don't know what to do.
It's good that you care about your friend. She obviously means a lot to you, however you can't MAKE her stop self harming. She has to be ready to do it herself. You can be there for her though for both distraction and listening. I don't know if you have read our self harm section on TheSite but it has a lot of good advice and linkage within it as does the rest of this thread.
http://www.thesite.org.uk/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm
Young Minds Parent's Information Service - A telephone service providing information and advice for anyone with concerns about the mental health of a child or young person. Young people can also phone for information on self-harm.
Helpline: 0800 018 2138 (Mon and Fri 10am - 1pm & Tues, Weds, Thurs 1pm - 4pm)
Make sure you take care of yourself too. If you need a listening ear for how you are feeling about your mate you could try and calling the folowing confidential helpline:
Careline:Telephone counselling service for children, young people and adults on any issue, including relationships, depression, mental health, child abuse, addictions, stress etc.
Web: www.careline.org.uk
Tel: 020 8875 0500
Look after yourself,
Susie Xx
*GURT HUG* wooot!
Glad you're feeling more positive xx