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Can someone please please help me?!
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I hope that she came and gave you lots of support. If you do end up being sectioned which i really think is unlikely then they cannot force you to have an abortion and i'm sure they won't try and persuade you to much either but instead they might provide someone who is actually willing to sit down with you and talk through all of your options in a non judgemental way (i.e. not stropping if they don't get thier own way).
I can honestly say that I can empathise with how you feel but killing yourself and your baby is not the answer.
Still here and still living. I haven't been sectioned.
My mental health nurse stayed most of the night. There isn't much to say. She has removed everything alcoholic from the house. She isn't going to section me, yet, because she thinks I am still mentally aware (which I don't really understand but who cares.) She kept trying to get me to talk. I was too scared about what would happen and I was crying too much. It is easier not to talk.
I didn't go to school today. What is the point? My year head came to see me in the lunch hour because the school didn't know why I was off and I wasn't answering the phone. She tried to get me to go into school because she didn't want me by myself but I wouldn't go.
So I am still at home, by myself. I feel like crap. I can't eat without being sick. Everytime I move my head starts spinning so badly. I want to say I am glad I haven't killed myself. But I am not.
:crying:
You dont have your mum as support, but you need some support. Youve got your mental health nurse - USE HER. She has shown she wants to help because she stayed with you when you needed her. Be honest with her. ASK HER for support and help. If you ask for it, you will get it. Its not your mum but its all youve got. You need to start empowering yourself here and not curl into a ball of self pity because having this child is YOUR choice.
There can only be ONE child in a mother and child relationship.
Dont hide how you are feeling to your mental health nurse or social workers. ASK for help in keeping your baby. You sound quite mature for your age in lots of respects, so i think you CAN do this, but you will need lots of support, so youve got to get it from somewhere
:yes: I agree. At the moment it's understandable that you're seeking a mother to help you. But she's not being a mother at all. There's no sense in hoping and waiting for her to do something just because she's your mum because at the moment it looks like it's futile. You are still young, and that might be difficult, but you really need to find someone else to support you. Forget your mother, she's being incredibly unfair and nasty. You can do this without her, but you do still need support.
*hug*
I am considering moving out. Obviously I can't make that decision right this moment, but I can't carry on living like this and my mum clearly doesn't want me around. I am going to talk to my mental health nurse about it and see what advice she can give me. I've also got an appointment with social services next week.
You say it shouldnt be up to them, but why not? They are showing they actually care.
I hope the SS appointment goes well
And there is only so much they can do for me.
omfg you evil piece of work. Actually people DO care. Everyone who has answered here cares. Anyone with a heart and a brain cares.
what on earth are you trying to do here?
The fact is Jessica, I did try and kill myself and it didn't work. And I am so sorry you feel how you do now. And maybe I won't be the best mother in the world, but I know one thing. I can honestly say I want what is best for this baby.
I hope one day something like this happens to you then you can see what it's like.
You spiteful cow.
Who needs enemies with friends like you. Amilie ignore this stupid girl (yes a stupid little girl, judging by this post).
Please leave me alone.
That sounds like YOU are the psycho tbh, and a bully. I think this is absolutely NONE of your business. It is nothing to do with you so just leave it.
Youre obviously friends with her ex judging by the so why do you think Amelies done something wrong yet he hasnt?? Fancy him a bit yourself perhaps? Maybe he could do the same and fuck you over like hes done to her.
Youre a sad excuse for a human being with no compassion and I bet you anything you will look back in the future at how you acted here and feel ashamed.
Amilie, there are plenty of people who can get you support, social services, local charities, your mental health nurse will have more connections. It important that you set up a support network around of people who aren't being negative, closed minded and who utterly haven't a clue like you're so called friend has shown here. If you have this support, and you believe you are capable of doing it, you will be able to do it. Do ask for help don't struggle alone, and walk away from people who are being unhelpful.
I'm not a young single mum, but i have had to rebuild my life after having to leave home at 15 and having a break down. Some people say its bollocks, but if you can muster some inner strength and get the people around you that can support you, then you can sort things out.
Jessica, this is cyberbullying. Not only does it make you a poor excuse for a human, but it also shows you have no empathy. let me tell you something... THE REAL WORLD IS FUCKING TOUGH AND WITH YOUR ATTITUDE YOU ARE GOING TO CRUMBLE AND HAVE NO FRIENDS! asking for help and advice, and talking through your problems is a mature thing to do. following people to forums and personally attacking them is not...which possibly just shows i'm a reactionary twat, but still...
Keep talking to us Amilie, we're still listening and we'll do our best to point you in the right direction of help.
It takes two to tango, and it certainly does seem like SCC has the right idea about you maybe having a little crush on amilies ex?
I've been reading this whole thread, and Amilie, it sounds like despite going through a really difficult time, you have a good head on your shoulders and are sensible. You don't need people like that horrible little cow in your life. I really don't miss being a teenager when I read things like that. Reminds me of the days when you were either a "slag" or "frigid"..:rolleyes:
Jessica, please go away and leave me alone. Like other people have said, why are you here if you feel so strongly against me? I know you want a reaction from me and you are not going to get one. Not now, not ever.
I would like to make a few things clear though. I didn't try and kill myself the minute things got a bit tough, as you put it. Jessica, you don't know the half of what was going on and you cannot hold it against me for not telling you. I am perfectly aware that other people have problems and no where in this thread have I said that they don't.
Also, I have not pushed my ex away. He ran. If he wanted to give his support I wouldn't have stopped him. I can't comment on his behaviour at school or out of school at the moment, but what has happened between us has nothing to do with anyone.
Jessica, you clearly feel very strongly about the matter of my ex. If you do fancy him then go and shag him for all I care. Maybe then you will have half the understanding of how I feel now. I don't care if you feel like you have wasted the past 5 years, so stop being so immature and pathetic.
And the people I talk to on here, are not my crew. They are people who chose to reply to my post, I didn't force them, they chose to. And for you to come and criticize that is so immature, when all they are doing is helping me. I don't care what you think of me, Jessica. But if you think so little of me, like everyone else has said, get out, because I don't need or want your opinions.