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Can someone please please help me?!
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Incidentally, I know someone who became pregnant, and her ex soon made tracks. He (and his parents - by the way, this guy was in his mid 30s) started harrassing her, sending her long emails pressuring her to have an abortion, how she would be an unfit mother etc. She went to the police, they were very supportive. In the end, they were under no circumstances to contact her, they did once again, the police went round and she heard nothing from them after that.
I can't believe the shit you've been dealt with, I want to give you a hug. Something tells me this will be the making of you :yes:
Regarding the money - you need to work out what you've got left and make a budget of how much you need going forward. If you do go ahead and have the baby and assuming your mum still refuses to support you - you will have £90 per week to live on - thats to buy stuff for you and the baby and to pay bills electricity etc - so its probably worth getting some practice in now.
Do it.
As for the money, I have a grand total of £83 left. I am not a big eater (bad I know) and I brought some food on Saturday so hopefully it will last a while.
she is really fucking stupid as well as twisted. The obvious thing is keep the messages to call the police and let them listen to the messages. That is what I would do. Get an injunction against her.
You really should get as much help as you can here. Getting abusive and threatening calls and messages etc is not going to help you in the slightest. If she thinks she can play games like this, I think she needs showing that it isn't on in the real world.
If the Jessica thing carries on then I will do something. But I really don't want to.
My year head doesn't know about these messages, only the ones on msn and on here. She seemed to think the matter had been dealt with and that was that. By no means I am accusing her of not taking it seriously, because she did, but it was clear once they had been suspended that was the end of it all. I will tell her about this tomorrow, if I go into school, but I don't know if I will. I am exhausted after everything that has happened and a day in bed seems like a wonderful idea. I will see in the morning. I am guessing Jessica's parents will have gone pretty mental at her though.
It sounds so stupid but it would be so nice if someone said something nice down the phone to me instead of abusive messages. Same with messages on msn.
Sounds like a good idea to have a day to yourself to have a rest away from everything, reckon it'll do you good after hospital and everything.
By the way, i'm sure other people will say the same but if you ever want to add me on msn for a chat just gimme a shout xxx
My year head has just been round to make sure I got home ok. I told her about the messages and she listened to them. She was trying to get me to go the the police but I said no. There is going to be a meeting at school tomorrow with my year head, the head teacher and Jessica & Ashleigh's parents, because there have been rumours that they have been making threats about me to other people and trying to get more people to join in with their "hate campaign". Makes me feel so good about myself. My year head will also be coming with me next week to my scan. I swear she is more excited about it then me. I am trying so hard to be positive, for my sake and the baby's but it isn't working.
Agreed.
You ve be extremley brave and very mature, having been through so much your bound to be exhausted, try and make sure your resting.
Its a good idea to keep hold of all messages from jessica and to keep your MHN and year head informed, so they can support you with what you decide to do.
A bit of practical advise,
There is a grant that all expectant mothers are entitled to after giving birth after April 6th, it is worth £190.00. It is called a baby bonus The goverments new health in pregnancy grant , its to encorage mothers to eat healthy, but you can spend the money on what you want for the baby,this is just practical info for you to have what ever you decide is your decsion.
You can ask your mid wife for the form around your 25th week and you recieve the grant 1 month later. You do not have to pay it back. Also seek advise from the job center with what you may be entitled to , if you recieve some benifits you may be entilted to other grants.
You say you have your 12 wk scan next week, here you will recive a picture of your baby, it may be emotional so its better to take someone with you. your MHN and year head sound very supportive.
Good luck :thumb: , let us know how the scan goes.
So, is your mum coming back or not? If so, when? £83 isn't going to last very long. And the bills. She's still paying the bills, right?
Dealing with the police can't be more stressful than dealing with this Jessica witch and her cronies, surely? I agree with everyone else, in regards to logging any form of harrassment, including the time and date of when it occurred. You may want to go to the Citizens Advice Bureaux. They might be able to draw up a letter of harrassment to send to the relevent parties. As it stands, Jessica at least, has fallen foul of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997, and so, can actually be prosecuted.
I'm so sorry you don't have much support but i think you're being brilliantly brave and doing what you feel is right regardless of what others say is something to be admired. Please remember that they're the ones with the problem though, not you. Would you rather be you or the bully that thinks she's clever by being cruel and making someone feel so bad they don't want to be here. No matter how terrible life seems just now, you will get through it. These girls will be defined by their actions and that's nothing to be proud of.
I agree with the others that you should have these things on record with the police though, at least think about it.
Stay safe, good luck with the scan x
Honestly this is the reason why you should go to the police - I really think that a visit from the police will give them the short sharp shock they need to stop and will make anyone else think very long and hard before joining in with them.
Plus if going to the police doesn't stop them straight away they will end up going to court to stop them from doing this again not only to you but to other people as well.
TBH it looks like its reach the stage where not even your school can handle them and it needs to be reffered to a higher authority!
I agree. It might not be the easiest thing to do, but it's definitely the best thing to do. Don't worry about the repercussions - your year head and the police will help look after you and make sure you're okay!
Just to let you know I'm going to close this thread now. After much discussion we feel what's gone on here is not something that we should continue to revisit and it has escalated past its original focus. We'd like to draw a line under it at this point.
That's not to say we wont all continue to support Amilie in what she's going through but we feel this particular thread is no longer the best place as it has been somewhat tainted by what's happened. Hope you understand, thanks