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Can someone please please help me?!
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Exactly - understatement of the century.
There's momentary anger and then there's calling his own girlfriend a cheap slut presumably for sleeping with him when he wasn't using protection
This.
It's akin to burying his head in the sand = it will go away.
I had to talk to my year head today, in a meeting that went on two hours. But it was really good to speak to someone who wasn't closely involved. She said that no matter what I decided to do, there was always going to be a place for me at this school. She has referred me to the school counselor and i might talk to her.
Loads of people have found out at school already though. And I am guessing that may have something to do with my "boyfriend" as his mates have been spitting at me all day. Funny...he wasn't in school. Most of my friends dont want to know anymore, and called me scum and a slag.
And it sounds so stupid and I know I'm not and it is in my head etc but i feel fat already :S which is impossible surely?
Wow - you tend to forget just how nasty teenagers can be as you get older. Here is a timely reminder.
I am just amazed at the reactions of these people, and do feel for you. The fact that you're the one in the wrong... It's not like you got pregnant by yourself FFS.
I feel so confused.
Such a shame - ALL your friends should be there for you. You've not done anything wrong, bar being a bit daft and not using contraception.
*despairs*
Are you absolutely 100% sure you want to go through with the pregnancy?
No I'm not 100%. One minute I want to, the next I am freaking out about how I will cope.
And I do really worry about how I will cope. If I do keep the baby, something could go wrong, I could get depression. And I think more than anything this scares me. I think I said in another thread, but I have been really unhappy before, not knowing what to do. If I kept this baby something could go wrong and it could be taken into care etc and then what?
That was a massive ramble of nonesense. I think I have just realised how scared I now am.
I'm not surprised you're scared. As people have said, whatever happens, the decision is yours. I think taking a good bit of time so look at the bigger picture is very wise with regards to how you will cope: financially, if you have a genuine support network etc. How you see the future etc.
I feel that you are very young for this, and that it will change your life completely. I'm sure you're more than aware of this. I don't think it's often a case of 'are you ready for it' when you're in this situation...
It sounds stupid but everyone is expecting me to have the answers already. I only found out yesterday and i haven't thought about anything else but that doesn't mean I know what I want.
And I think 8 weeks. The nurse at the doctors talked to me yesterday and said that the baby was due at the end of September. But I will find out more when I have a scan. ARGGH. the date of contraception is stuck in my brain.
And she has spoken to my dad (who lives in France, they are divorced) and he spoke to me and said that I would be throwing my life away if i kept it, and that it would be the biggest mistake I ever make.
:S
I've some more to type but i'm out now
x
Also I know that you haven't decided what to do but in case noone has told you yet you should go to the chemist and get some folic acid to take as this is really important. You also might want to invest in some streach mark cream as a preventative measure as well - the theory being it probably doens't prevent all streach marks but it cant' do any harm to slap it on and the sooner you start the better.
But I had a scan, and I couldn't look at the screen. It made it all seem to real. I can't pretend that this is a bad dream anymore.
Hi hun how are you now?.How far are you?.And are you sure it's what you want?
I don't know anymore. I thought I knew what I wanted, but I am even more scared now.
I was due 24september with my first had her 5week early.It sounds like you really really need to think about it and your options are still avalible.If it not the right time in your life and youre not sure you can still do something x p.m me anytime x
what do you think you want to do?
I really feel for you.
Ive got 3 children, but ive also had an abortion before when I was around your age. Its not an easy decision to have to make. If you want to get anything off your chest or have a chat, or even want some advice, please PM me.
Do you have anyone you can talk to about this?
If I wasn't pregnant I would chose this moment to get majorly drunk and as I never drink that won't be hard. No worries, I am not going to get hammered.
This is such a mess.
I hope you feel ok today. Its a big thing contemplating having a new life inside you and what to do. I had an abortion just after I turned 17 so I know exactly how it feels.
It sounds to me that you have a really supportive family which is fantastic. Regarding the so called friends of yours and the ones of your boyfriend please just ignore them one day they will be older and wiser but for now they obviously need to get some life experience under their belts. If you feel you want someone there to support you when you your boyfriends parents then I would ask a relative or older close friend you can trust to go along with you.
Regarding the baby, I know it seems a huge thing that you are deciding and you are right to think so, but as long as you are positive about whatever you choose to do you will be just fine. My friend got pregnant at 18 and decided to keep her baby she now has a teenager, a pre-teen and a young toddler and still has a life and friends. I don't have any children yet, through choice, and I feel fine too. There are moments when I think about what happened in the past but I know for me it was the right thing to do.
Whatever you decide to do dont let anyone else try to change your mind. Life can throw suprises at us all, sometimes they can be the best thing that ever happened to us.
My first reaction to finding out i was pregant for the first time was to drink a bottle of vodka - i think that confirmed to me that i wasnt' ready to become a mother - so i think your handling this far more maturely than i did.
I'm so glad that your mum is talking to you - hopefully you can work out together what is best for you - I didn't tell my parents when i found out and still dont' know if that was the right thing or not....
big hugs like nearly everyone else has said PM me if you want to chat more