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Re: Involuntary reaction at work
Hey @One-in-a-million
I'm really sorry to read about your experience! Thank you so much for opening up to us, I understand how difficult this can be. I just wanted to say that trauma affects everyone differently, so it's important to understand that this isn't always in your control. Trauma massively impacts our bodies, so it's understandable that you reacted that way. I think we can often overthink a lot when under distress, particularly after trauma has caused a specific reaction, that may lead to further ramifications for you. However, be kind and gentle to yourself, this isn't something you could've controlled, and it's important to be kind to yourself whilst dealing with this.
If you're very worried about your manager approaching you, it may be best to approach them firs if this is something that is possible for you, of course don't do anything that will cause you further distress or upset. They may be able to refer you to some sort of therapy or something where you can be listened to in a safe and non-judgmental environment, allowing you to work through this and find ways to recognise triggers and reactions to these.
I wonder, as Laura has already asked, if you've ever been offered support or spoken to any professionals about this past trauma i.e. GP's, they may be able to refer you to some services that can help you cope with these.
For now, please be kind with yourself, you're doing the best you can, sending you lots of love
I'm really sorry to read about your experience! Thank you so much for opening up to us, I understand how difficult this can be. I just wanted to say that trauma affects everyone differently, so it's important to understand that this isn't always in your control. Trauma massively impacts our bodies, so it's understandable that you reacted that way. I think we can often overthink a lot when under distress, particularly after trauma has caused a specific reaction, that may lead to further ramifications for you. However, be kind and gentle to yourself, this isn't something you could've controlled, and it's important to be kind to yourself whilst dealing with this.
If you're very worried about your manager approaching you, it may be best to approach them firs if this is something that is possible for you, of course don't do anything that will cause you further distress or upset. They may be able to refer you to some sort of therapy or something where you can be listened to in a safe and non-judgmental environment, allowing you to work through this and find ways to recognise triggers and reactions to these.
I wonder, as Laura has already asked, if you've ever been offered support or spoken to any professionals about this past trauma i.e. GP's, they may be able to refer you to some services that can help you cope with these.
For now, please be kind with yourself, you're doing the best you can, sending you lots of love
Re: Having trouble finding a job
Hi @zaynab_5
Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out.
What is a good sign is your dedication and persistence.
You are using all of the websites I would recommend (especially Indeed).
Unfortunately, summer jobs will be very competitive at the moment.
Are there other types of jobs you would consider? Once you get into university, there will likely be lots of causal and student jobs available if that provides some reassurance.
The only things I can suggest within summer jobs are to target your CV to the individual post and to keep trying!
By targeting your CV I mean to put the job criteria and description in a document. Based on this, you can highlight and annotate it according to the points you have fulfilled based on your experiences and studying.
I hope this helps
Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out.
What is a good sign is your dedication and persistence.
You are using all of the websites I would recommend (especially Indeed).
Unfortunately, summer jobs will be very competitive at the moment.
Are there other types of jobs you would consider? Once you get into university, there will likely be lots of causal and student jobs available if that provides some reassurance.
The only things I can suggest within summer jobs are to target your CV to the individual post and to keep trying!
By targeting your CV I mean to put the job criteria and description in a document. Based on this, you can highlight and annotate it according to the points you have fulfilled based on your experiences and studying.
I hope this helps
Re: Stay alive and woebot app
Hi @ellie2000
Yess, you have raised a really important point. In your game, if you lose, you can indeed click reset. In life, if you lose, there is a similar button. It is called try, try and try again! I don't believe you ever lose, you just learn more ways of how not to do something which moves you closer to how to do something
Yess, you have raised a really important point. In your game, if you lose, you can indeed click reset. In life, if you lose, there is a similar button. It is called try, try and try again! I don't believe you ever lose, you just learn more ways of how not to do something which moves you closer to how to do something
the laddering exercise
Take any three things and ask, ‘In what way are two of these the same and the other different?’
Kate_20
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Re: What are your best tips for safe drinking?
• Don't mix liquors! It can make your hangover or that sick feeling so much worse. So if you've been drinking pornstar martini's all night and need a switch, go for something vodka based.
• I agree with know you're limit and stay hydrated. If I'm feeling extra poorly the next day, I'll have my water with some hydration salts.
• Sleep on your side when you're drunk and/or feeling a little sick.
• If you're a lightweight, pace yourself. You might get drunk quicker than someone who isn't so you can take your time. Also this means you can spend less on drinks to get drunk
• I agree with know you're limit and stay hydrated. If I'm feeling extra poorly the next day, I'll have my water with some hydration salts.
• Sleep on your side when you're drunk and/or feeling a little sick.
• If you're a lightweight, pace yourself. You might get drunk quicker than someone who isn't so you can take your time. Also this means you can spend less on drinks to get drunk
Re: Teen pregnancy
Hey @annas
It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about having a baby. Is there anyone in your family or close circle that you feel safe and comfortable around to help start the conversation around this? In terms of morning sickness, have you been in regular contact with your GP, they may be able to help ease this a little.
It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about having a baby. Is there anyone in your family or close circle that you feel safe and comfortable around to help start the conversation around this? In terms of morning sickness, have you been in regular contact with your GP, they may be able to help ease this a little.
Re: Teen pregnancy
Hey @annas I wonder with your parents if it is worth having a go at writing down what you would want to say to them? That can sometimes help you to work out exactly what you want to say, and then you could either give them the letter to read in their own time, or read it out to them. Often with sharing news you are worried about how they will react, it is the surprise that drives people's reactions, so giving them time to process it may help them to then talk to you about it when they have processed everything.
Equally, focusing on what you want them to help you with can give them a clear focus on how to respond. You mentioned that you had told a friend about this, do you think they may be willing to be with you if you choose to tell your parents about this?
When thing feel scary, it can be easy to focus on the worst case scenario, however have you spent much time thinking about what it could be like if your parents reacted in a supportive way? When it comes to pregnancy, it is likely that there will be a point where people find out whether you want them to or not, so it can be worth thinking through how you would want to tell people on your terms
Finally, have you been to see a doctor yet about being pregnant? It can be important to get medical advice as they can do some checks to make sure you are okay, and can give you some guidance on things like morning sickness.
You are doing really well to talk this through with us, we are all here for you
Equally, focusing on what you want them to help you with can give them a clear focus on how to respond. You mentioned that you had told a friend about this, do you think they may be willing to be with you if you choose to tell your parents about this?
When thing feel scary, it can be easy to focus on the worst case scenario, however have you spent much time thinking about what it could be like if your parents reacted in a supportive way? When it comes to pregnancy, it is likely that there will be a point where people find out whether you want them to or not, so it can be worth thinking through how you would want to tell people on your terms
Finally, have you been to see a doctor yet about being pregnant? It can be important to get medical advice as they can do some checks to make sure you are okay, and can give you some guidance on things like morning sickness.
You are doing really well to talk this through with us, we are all here for you
Ed_
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Re: What do you think about straight actors playing gay roles?
I think that would be perfectly ok @AislingDM. Providing the bi man wanted to play the gay character and the story given. I think choice is super important! Hearing everyone's opinions is so valuable
Re: Are you a film lover? Join our NOW watch clubs THIS WEEK!
Hi @Emma_
Thanks for posting about this great opportunity. It looks like great fun. I hope loads of people see this post and join! Enjoy everyone
Thanks for posting about this great opportunity. It looks like great fun. I hope loads of people see this post and join! Enjoy everyone