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Goodbye from me ❤️

Hey everyone! I hope you are all doing okay. I just wanted to pop a message up here to let you know that I have made the really difficult decision to leave The Mix.

I have been a part of The Mix for around 4 years and have absolutely loved it! I started out as a chat mod and more recently a chat supervisor, and have absolutely loved getting to know those of you who use chats. I have seen so many of you grow so much over my time here and it has been great to celebrate all of your achievements, big or small, with you.

You guys have taught me so much- whether that is small things like recommending me new tv shows to watch or showing me endless pictures of your pets (which always make me smile), to much bigger things like how to feel confident being yourselves and to keep going, no matter how difficult things may be. Every single one of you who I have spoken with has inspired me and I am really going to miss chatting to you all.

I wanted to leave you with the reminder that the community you guys have built here is really special- you show each other so much care and support and I know how special it is to be a part of that. Keep being your amazing selves, supporting each other and smashing life🩷 I will miss you all!

Natalie x

NatalieG19

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Re: Can you gaslight yourself into feeling better?

This is actually a good question lol . I don’t really know the answer but I kinda like the idea of it working.

I know some people repeat positive affirmations , which is essentially the same thing . I just did a google there to see if they work and here’s the answer -

According to research, yes, positive affirmations can work, particularly when used consistently and when they align with your existing beliefs, as they can help to improve self-esteem, reduce stress, and potentially influence behavior by creating new neural pathways in the brain; however, their effectiveness can vary depending on individual factors like self-esteem levels and the specific affirmation used.
Key points about positive affirmations:
Neuroplasticity:
Repeating positive statements can potentially rewire the brain by strengthening neural pathways associated with positive thoughts and beliefs.
Self-esteem impact:
Studies suggest that affirmations can be particularly beneficial for people with high self-esteem, while those with low self-esteem may experience negative effects from using affirmations that contradict their self-perception.
Important factors:
To be effective, affirmations should be stated in the present tense, be specific to your goals, and be believable to you.

That said, I think there’s a fine line here between trying to heal and suppressing how you really feel. If you’re feeling insecure when people hurt you, those feelings are more than valid and it’s okay for you to talk about that rather than lying to yourself .

Maybe worth try the positive affirmation thing instead of dismissing your own feelings , there’s loads online, even some based around bullying in the workplace

For example

Instead of “ I’m happy and don’t care”

Try

“I am worthy of respect, I am valuable to my workplace and I am entitled to be here”

Or something like that anyway 😅

Faolan

5

Have I been fired

I was meant to be working on Monday night (2 days ago). I messaged my manager on Sunday to let him know I was unwell and wouldn’t be in and he said no worries. He then messaged me on Monday afternoon to say he really doesn’t appreciate me making up lies and would like a meeting to discuss this.

I told one of my friends at work I was going away to stay somewhere as our electric had been off since Friday and it was making me feel worse.

My mum came into the shop I work in on Monday and my friend was serving her and said she didn’t blame me for going to away. My supervisor was standing behind her and I’m thinking she heard I was going away and told my manager when I was meant to be unwell.

But our electric was off.

I sent my manager a reply explaining why I was away and he has read it and not responded. So I don’t know where I stand.

I’m meant to be working on Monday and I’m already really uncomfortable about going in on Monday and don’t know what I’m walking into. I don’t want to have a bad reputation from being fired. Should I send my manager a follow up message? I’m really worried and I don’t know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?

I don’t want a warning on my record either.

user123

5

When was the last time you tried something for the first time?

Yesterday evening I was really craving some time away from my laptop / phone, so my housemate and I got out some old magazines and sat on the living room floor and did collaging for a few hours! I've never done it before, but it was so peaceful! We played music in the background and just enjoyed each other's company in silence. It felt really lovely to do something creative and helped me to properly rest. I hope I can continue collaging this year!

I'll share what I created below

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When was the last time you tried something for the first time? Is there anything you've been meaning to try and this year you want to finally give it a go?

I feel nervous, but I would love to try joining my uni choir this year. It's free, and there are no auditions (thankfully!). I think that would be really fun!

Sian321

5

Re: January 2025 achievements!

i feel like this month i've got the courage to do things i had been putting off and also simply managed to get through the month (because for me it feels like it has been January FOREVER).

congrats to everyone on their January acheivements - even if it is just as simple as staying strong and still being here. proud of you all

sinead276

5

Re: Support Chat is open tonight!

Rose113 wrote: »

Tech gremlins

The mods must have put up a good fight in stopping the tech gremlins. Why do I imagine the tech gremlins looking like this

Amy22

5

January 2025 achievements!

Hello everyone! How has everyone's January been?

I'm back again with the monthly achievement threads for 2025 this time! I started doing these threads because I think we can all benefit from reflecting on our victories - it helps us feel great about ourselves, and I find that our achievements serve as little reminders that we're doing the best we can to get through the challenges of life

I'd like to hear what things the community have done during this month that they are proud of! You can mention as many achievements as you like

Here are mine:
- I managed to persevere through a stressful exam period (it's so challenging to study during the winter where lots of things are happening!)
- I've developed confidence in driving on my own - I'm very thankful for my family supporting me with this

- I started to get back into doing mindfulness meditation and journalling! I've also started scrapbooking and I'm really looking forward to continuing
- I've made good progress with my psychology dissertation
- I've been completing training for my volunteer role in a hospital which I'm so excited to start soon!

Well done for always doing your best, I'm so so proud of you all

See you for the next achievement check-in in February!

kaii

7

Interview tomorrow

I have a job interview tomorrow, and I made it to the next stage after a telephone interview. Honestly, I’m feeling a bit anxious because the location is big, and I’m scared about not finding it. It might sound stupid, but I was even a bit hesitant for a minute, even though I’ve been venting a lot here about how much this whole situation has been getting me down. It just sounds so fucking stupid that I was even just a bit hesitant, even though I do really want to get into work. The hesitation feels silly, but it’s mainly the location that’s stressing me out. I’ll be taking a tram since it’s easier to access, and if I get the job, I’d be able to drive with free parking. The interview came up on short notice, but I’m hopeful I’ll manage to find the place. If I don’t get the job, I’ll keep applying and looking for support to find something else suitable soon.