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My teacher said something to a friend of mine that made me have flashbacks and get really angry.
My best friend has been struggling with her mental health for a while. I've been in her place, and what she's told me is incredibly relatable. On Friday, she had a breakdown in a school corridor, and our form tutor was walking past. It was bad timing, and I could tell he was angry and in a hurry. He stopped and started firing questions at both of us, but the substitute had come out and was asking questions as well. It was overwhelming for both of us, and when I kept pausing because I didn't want to tell anyone anything without her permission, my form tutor got even more annoyed. He thought I didn't know what was going on, and told her to come talk to him at break because he was on duty.
Then at break, when I was dropping off my bag in form before I went to get something to eat, he asked me what was going on. Obviously, I wasn't going to tell him without her permission, because breaking her trust could make her more unstable (Me and another friend have managed to get her to talk to several trusted adults, and I've been there for two of them, so I know they won't let her get hurt)but then he told me that if I didn't know, I should just say that, and let her talk instead. The fact is that when you're having a near panic attack, it's not that easy, so she wasn't going to be coherent if they were firing off questions like it was a quiz.
I couldn't say that to him, obviously, so I just kept my mouth shut. Then, when I came back from getting food, my friend was standing by the side while he talked to some other kids. She said she didn't know what to say or how to explain, so I helped her go over a few things she could start with. Obviously, the teacher saw us, but when she tried to start speaking, he waved her away and said 'Oh, it's ok, I don't have time for (insert my name here's) wording' and 'oh (insert my name here) if you don't know what's going on just don't say anything and let her explain instead' and then he dismissed us both.
That had me absolutely fuming, because he'd not only just dismissed a child under his care who was asking for help, but he'd also seen her break down and say he didn't have time for it. That gave me awful flashbacks, because the first time I ever told anyone I was struggling with mental health (after a teacher had verbally abused me, talking about how he knew about all of the trouble I'd been involved in, even though he 100% knewI was the victim in all of them and how maybe that was why I had no friends blah, blah blah,) the adult who'd seen me hyperventilating and panicking because I'd been mentally destroyed in front of my entire class, told me i was 'making a mountain out of a molehill'.
That stayed with me for the rest of my time in primary school (this took place in year five) and my self-esteem was rock bottom for three whole years. I'd been told to go to an adult if something happened, but what the hell did that do? I can't find it in myself to trust him now, because that was strike three for him. He'd already said some pretty nasty things. How do I deal with it, when all I can see is an endless cycle of adults telling me to trust them, and then letting me down all over again?
Then at break, when I was dropping off my bag in form before I went to get something to eat, he asked me what was going on. Obviously, I wasn't going to tell him without her permission, because breaking her trust could make her more unstable (Me and another friend have managed to get her to talk to several trusted adults, and I've been there for two of them, so I know they won't let her get hurt)but then he told me that if I didn't know, I should just say that, and let her talk instead. The fact is that when you're having a near panic attack, it's not that easy, so she wasn't going to be coherent if they were firing off questions like it was a quiz.
I couldn't say that to him, obviously, so I just kept my mouth shut. Then, when I came back from getting food, my friend was standing by the side while he talked to some other kids. She said she didn't know what to say or how to explain, so I helped her go over a few things she could start with. Obviously, the teacher saw us, but when she tried to start speaking, he waved her away and said 'Oh, it's ok, I don't have time for (insert my name here's) wording' and 'oh (insert my name here) if you don't know what's going on just don't say anything and let her explain instead' and then he dismissed us both.
That had me absolutely fuming, because he'd not only just dismissed a child under his care who was asking for help, but he'd also seen her break down and say he didn't have time for it. That gave me awful flashbacks, because the first time I ever told anyone I was struggling with mental health (after a teacher had verbally abused me, talking about how he knew about all of the trouble I'd been involved in, even though he 100% knewI was the victim in all of them and how maybe that was why I had no friends blah, blah blah,) the adult who'd seen me hyperventilating and panicking because I'd been mentally destroyed in front of my entire class, told me i was 'making a mountain out of a molehill'.
That stayed with me for the rest of my time in primary school (this took place in year five) and my self-esteem was rock bottom for three whole years. I'd been told to go to an adult if something happened, but what the hell did that do? I can't find it in myself to trust him now, because that was strike three for him. He'd already said some pretty nasty things. How do I deal with it, when all I can see is an endless cycle of adults telling me to trust them, and then letting me down all over again?
Party update
So got that party on Saturday and honestly I'm trying to not worry about it
I've got my outfit sorted and travel arrangements
I've got my outfit sorted and travel arrangements
BensonE
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Re: Happy Mental Health Awareness Week! 💛 #MHAW
For once This is a theme I really don’t agree with. Physical movement isn’t something everyone can do and for it to be a theme of an awareness week I just think isn’t right.
For example when someone’s in crisis one of the favourite things they like to say is “Go for a walk”. For someone who’s in a flare of deep depression or chronic pain movement may not be an option for them.
For wheelchair users … the world isn’t exactly accessible for them to be getting out and moving. They might not have access to a blue badge or suitable housing to be able to get out etc.
I dunno if it’s me just being pedantic but this years theme just feels like it’s potentially bordering on ableism.
For example when someone’s in crisis one of the favourite things they like to say is “Go for a walk”. For someone who’s in a flare of deep depression or chronic pain movement may not be an option for them.
For wheelchair users … the world isn’t exactly accessible for them to be getting out and moving. They might not have access to a blue badge or suitable housing to be able to get out etc.
I dunno if it’s me just being pedantic but this years theme just feels like it’s potentially bordering on ableism.
Re: I need a hug (v2.0) 💚
The problem with everything in my situation is that I feel so incredibly numb and it's destroying everything
Re: I need a hug (v2.0) 💚
I feel so lost, ive never felt this low. My heart feels like its been torn up and glued back together a billion times and is now unfixable
Rose113
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Re: I need a hug (v2.0) 💚
This work searching is getting to me a lot at times, it's so stressful
Re: I need a hug (v2.0) 💚
Feel like I’m just annoying everyone
I think it’s just my anxiety
I think it’s just my anxiety