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Re: Feeling hyper and paranoia
Hey @Amy22 I just wanted to agree with the above - you don't sound silly at all and it is so valid for you to share your thoughts on here and receive support It can be hard not to compare our problems with others but everything is so relative to each person - and your anxiety is still worthy of help It sounds great that you are so self-aware and realise that that book could be worsening your thoughts. Good idea for trying to stay in the present - deep, slow breaths may be useful for staying calm and centred. Have you tried approaching your GP about your anxiety?
amy02
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Re: [OLD] The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
Relapsed but what's new there 🙄
Rose113
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Re: [OLD] The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
Apparently when I join the conservatoire next year I'll have the opportunity to play in orchestra during an opera - can't wait
Re: Having a parent who hoards
No way!!! I can’t believe someone gets it! @Siena I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had to deal with all that. Things break in our house and we can’t get them fixed, but the house isn’t literally falling apart! I’m so sorry you had to live like that.
No way your mum sleeps on the sofa as well - sounds like self neglect to be honest especially with your mum not showering.
What you said about your dad resonates so much with me. I don’t understand why my dad hasn’t just left, and how he puts up with it.
My mum is like aware that she has a problem but not fully? She sees it as a family problem to some extent, and I get what you mean about the defensiveness. I read somewhere that a hoarder’s possessions are like an extension of themselves, so insult the stuff and they feel attacked. It’s so incredibly frustrating to deal with.
Just wanted to add I think your mum’s starting point would be to get professional help with the ocd, if she’ll ever admit that she needs it.
Sending big hugs, thank you so much for sharing your experiences
No way your mum sleeps on the sofa as well - sounds like self neglect to be honest especially with your mum not showering.
What you said about your dad resonates so much with me. I don’t understand why my dad hasn’t just left, and how he puts up with it.
My mum is like aware that she has a problem but not fully? She sees it as a family problem to some extent, and I get what you mean about the defensiveness. I read somewhere that a hoarder’s possessions are like an extension of themselves, so insult the stuff and they feel attacked. It’s so incredibly frustrating to deal with.
Just wanted to add I think your mum’s starting point would be to get professional help with the ocd, if she’ll ever admit that she needs it.
Sending big hugs, thank you so much for sharing your experiences
Re: did anyone move out at 16
@JustV thanks so much for your advice
to answer your questions no i dont like my social worker but i do act like i get along with her and there is no family that i can trust and friends they know the situation they know how dangerous my parents can be soo they dont want to get involved well not them but their parents thank you
to answer your questions no i dont like my social worker but i do act like i get along with her and there is no family that i can trust and friends they know the situation they know how dangerous my parents can be soo they dont want to get involved well not them but their parents thank you
Re: did anyone move out at 16
That sounds harrowing @Maria2008 what an ordeal. Being at home when it's an oppressive or unsafe space for you can be so trapping, especially if you don't have anywhere else.@libbystrawberry hey the controls got worse im not muslim anymore which made them even more mad i wore a skirt a jumped out the window told my social worker i wasnt going home slept on the streets for about 3 night before i got caught by police and after they still took me home and if im not lying i want to kill myself
Do you have a good relationship with your social worker? Are you still in touch with them?
If you do want (or need) to move out, it might be worth contacting Shelter. They're a charity that supports people with homelessness and should be able to give you the info you need. The Mix also has an article on moving out which might be worth reading.
Additionally, is there a friend or family member you could live with for a short time? I know by the sounds of it your parents would be opposed to that, but if there is a safe adult or a friend you trust to stay with, it might be worth exploring that as an interim arrangement.
My sister moved to our neighbours' house at 16 because she didn't get on with my mum at all, and that was (as far as I know!) legally fine.
You also mentioned wanting to kill yourself (which is understandable under the circumstances ), and while I didn't get a sense from your post that you're actively planning to do that, there are some crisis services you can contact if you reach breaking point. I've popped the details below:
Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
JustV
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Re: [OLD] The 'I need a hug' thread - please read first post before posting :)
My sister is giving me nightmares about my bully
Re: Having a parent who hoards
The difficulty is that I’ve struggled with hopelessness anyway, and I’ve been so afraid that my life will be controlled by anxiety forever. But at least in that case I could fight for it to improve, you know? I could keep trying to get help, trying to help myself, making the small steps, etc.
This is different. I can beg my mum to get help or to throw things away, but she just shuts it down. If she’s not willing / able to get help and help herself, then there’s no hope. No matter what I do. I don’t have control over it and I feel so defeated. I want to fight it. I want my mum to just let me help her. I want her to care. She says she does but I don’t think she cares enough. I’m gonna have to just cut her off forever one day. I don’t want to, but that’s the only way to escape this for good. The only way to take control.
This is so confusing. I long for like an older sibling or just someone who knows what this is like, and can make sense of it for me.
I’m stuck in a hoarder home with no money and no escape. And nobody’s ever gonna care because I’m an ‘adult’. Yeah I’ll go to uni but what about after? I don’t want this for my life. But I have no fucking choice.
This is different. I can beg my mum to get help or to throw things away, but she just shuts it down. If she’s not willing / able to get help and help herself, then there’s no hope. No matter what I do. I don’t have control over it and I feel so defeated. I want to fight it. I want my mum to just let me help her. I want her to care. She says she does but I don’t think she cares enough. I’m gonna have to just cut her off forever one day. I don’t want to, but that’s the only way to escape this for good. The only way to take control.
This is so confusing. I long for like an older sibling or just someone who knows what this is like, and can make sense of it for me.
I’m stuck in a hoarder home with no money and no escape. And nobody’s ever gonna care because I’m an ‘adult’. Yeah I’ll go to uni but what about after? I don’t want this for my life. But I have no fucking choice.
Re: TheMix Book Club!
Late to the party but such a great idea! Ive been reading the all our hidden gifts srs at the minute and would highly recommend.Its quite different and thers a lot of magic/tarot card chat if anyone is into that.
I did read Almond and I honestly did learn a lot from it
I did read Almond and I honestly did learn a lot from it