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Re: Dont want to go work- autism/ lunch food
shannon_164 wrote: »hey @Invisible_me 🙂
i hear you. it sounds like you’ve got so much on your plate, and i completely understand why we’re dreading this shift - between the long hours, the admin-heavy workload, the sensory challenges, and the discomfort with supervision, it makes total sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed!
first off, it’s okay to acknowledge that this job might not be the right fit for you long-term, and that doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it just means you’re learning what works for you and what doesn’t. if the job isn’t accommodating your needs properly, especially with the sensory overwhelm and the discomfort around supervision, that’s something worth addressing. if you haven’t already, is there a way to ask for reasonable adjustments?
with the sensory overwhelm, please don’t feel bad about how you self-regulate. stimming is not something you should feel ashamed of, and you shouldn’t have to suppress it just because others don’t understand, but i totally get that being watched or questioned about it makes it worse.
i know this is a lot to navigate, and you’re doing so well just by recognising your limits and trying to find ways to cope. if this job continues to drain you, i really hope you allow yourself to reassess whether it’s worth it. you deserve work that doesn’t make you feel like you have to fight through every shift just to survive.
whatever happens, we’re all here for you. you’re not alone in this, and i truly admire how hard you’re trying despite all the challenges. i’m really proud of you
Hi @shannon_164 ,
Thanks for replying back!
I know it's okay to kike not fibs the ideal job but when 5 tears after graduating your still not in a job properly, abs not abke to say to yourself or othwrs I work here uts disheartening!
- the sensory overwhelm only the nusic is job related which they wer supposed to have made thr adjustment of it being away from me but I dont think its being implemented as such. Food lunchtime uoy take own food and this is a constant issue I have in every job, so I'm forced into not being able to work full-time. I'm trying to push myself because I want hi work and I'm struggling to get a job part days.
- it's also important to note in only working here employee on a 0hr contract basis, obviously because im still in training I'm going in once a week I was hoping to increase it and they were advertising for 15hr contract but I chose not to.
- discomfort around supervision- I have a line manager who is of the opposite gender to me and that makes me feel v.uneasy ive always felt uneasy about this (even as a student in school having a teachwr of the opposite gender mace me uncomfortable snd will behave differently even when there'd like 20 other students, this I'm in a room in my own with thrm). Also like its verbally saying stuff, knowing whst to say, what they think, then this added stress if 'my autism, reasonable adjustments etc.. ". He obviously picked up I'm very nervous and now that makes me feel incapable if doing the job when I am capable. Me messing with a bobble well that's normal at her mental health charity I volunteer at I'm always grabbing stressballs from there. But then at the same time It's good that he obviously has the inkling that I'm not exactly 'fine'. It also feels like what's the point he asking for adjustments as likr I'm only there once a week to prob may then 0hr basis, so it feels pointless making a whole 'song dance out of it'. But his in leave now for1 month. The service manager (person who ive had mire contact with as she managed all my recruitment, books me in on the rota etc..) however is calling me Wednesday to discuss 'pay review ' apparently as she texted today. So thay could be an opportunity to discuss some things maybe??
It's difficult because if how much is my autism related and how much is eployment related where they can do something about it).
Sorry this is long!
Re: How to stop BPD rage (urgent)
hey @bignosegirly0 🙂
that all sounds incredibly overwhelming, and i’m really sorry you’re going through this. it makes complete sense that you’re feeling anxious about work, especially given everything that’s happened. no one should have to deal with harassment, and it’s awful that those guys are still finding ways to make you feel unsafe. the fact that they’re getting away with it just because they’re customers is really unfair, and i can imagine how frustrating that must be. you deserve to feel safe at work, and it’s horrible that this situation is making you feel so on edge.
i think reaching out to kelly’s heroes is a really good step, and i really hope they can provide you with some support and guidance. it’s a shame that samaritans web chat isn’t available at a time that works for you, i know how important it can be to have someone to talk to in the moment when you’re struggling.
on top of all that stress, dealing with extreme arm pain sounds exhausting, especially when it’s affecting your sleep. lack of rest definitely makes everything feel harder to cope with, and i can imagine that’s only adding to your anxiety about today. have you been able to find anything that helps with the pain? i hope it eases up soon because you definitely don’t need one more thing to deal with right now.
i completely understand why you’re dreading going into work today. it’s so disheartening to feel like you don’t fit in, especially when the environment is already difficult to navigate. the way your coworkers have treated you in the past is really unacceptable, and i hate that they refused to take responsibility when you spoke up. that kind of treatment would wear anyone down, and being autistic and hypersensitive just means that you’re more aware of it, there’s nothing wrong with that. it just means you deserve to be in a workplace where people respect you and make you feel comfortable, rather than one where you constantly feel on edge.
i really hope you hear back about that job interview soon because you deserve so much better than this. even though waiting is frustrating, it’s good that you’re taking steps toward something new - i’m proud of you for that! in the meantime, please be kind to yourself today. if things get tough at work, remind yourself that this situation isn’t permanent, and there are better things ahead for you.
you’ve got this, i believe in you
that all sounds incredibly overwhelming, and i’m really sorry you’re going through this. it makes complete sense that you’re feeling anxious about work, especially given everything that’s happened. no one should have to deal with harassment, and it’s awful that those guys are still finding ways to make you feel unsafe. the fact that they’re getting away with it just because they’re customers is really unfair, and i can imagine how frustrating that must be. you deserve to feel safe at work, and it’s horrible that this situation is making you feel so on edge.
i think reaching out to kelly’s heroes is a really good step, and i really hope they can provide you with some support and guidance. it’s a shame that samaritans web chat isn’t available at a time that works for you, i know how important it can be to have someone to talk to in the moment when you’re struggling.
on top of all that stress, dealing with extreme arm pain sounds exhausting, especially when it’s affecting your sleep. lack of rest definitely makes everything feel harder to cope with, and i can imagine that’s only adding to your anxiety about today. have you been able to find anything that helps with the pain? i hope it eases up soon because you definitely don’t need one more thing to deal with right now.
i completely understand why you’re dreading going into work today. it’s so disheartening to feel like you don’t fit in, especially when the environment is already difficult to navigate. the way your coworkers have treated you in the past is really unacceptable, and i hate that they refused to take responsibility when you spoke up. that kind of treatment would wear anyone down, and being autistic and hypersensitive just means that you’re more aware of it, there’s nothing wrong with that. it just means you deserve to be in a workplace where people respect you and make you feel comfortable, rather than one where you constantly feel on edge.
i really hope you hear back about that job interview soon because you deserve so much better than this. even though waiting is frustrating, it’s good that you’re taking steps toward something new - i’m proud of you for that! in the meantime, please be kind to yourself today. if things get tough at work, remind yourself that this situation isn’t permanent, and there are better things ahead for you.
you’ve got this, i believe in you
Re: How to stop BPD rage (urgent)
you deserve support @bignosegirly0
there’s a place called kelly’s heroes - their wait time is quite literally a few seconds and they are super supportive too - they open at 6pm until 11pm so maybe you could give them ago if you felt comfy with that? they are also completely confidential too and can only involve emergency services etc if you give them your information, as i know that’s a worry for many.
website: https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
samaritans also have a webchat available at 6pm too, the queue closes at 10pm
website: https://www.samaritans.org
i hope you’re ok - always here for you
there’s a place called kelly’s heroes - their wait time is quite literally a few seconds and they are super supportive too - they open at 6pm until 11pm so maybe you could give them ago if you felt comfy with that? they are also completely confidential too and can only involve emergency services etc if you give them your information, as i know that’s a worry for many.
website: https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
samaritans also have a webchat available at 6pm too, the queue closes at 10pm
website: https://www.samaritans.org
i hope you’re ok - always here for you
Re: today
Hi Shannon, we hear you and are sorry. We agree that communicating these things ahead of time would be best practise. We fully acknowledge its not ideal and we don't mean to continue this way. We're doing as best we can at this stage, but realise the need for improvements.
Thank you for baring with us, and again, we're really sorry for the stress and uncertainty caused.
Thank you for baring with us, and again, we're really sorry for the stress and uncertainty caused.
Sian321
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Re: (TW self harm) How can I prevent myself from relapsing?
@Sian321 I wanted to do more research on how to regulate my emotions.
Generally speaking, I struggle with emotional regulation. My mindset is very extreme and it’s often difficult to snap out my episode.
A few posts ago, I mentioned being on a waiting list to receive therapy. A part of me wonders whether I suffer from petulant BPD. I haven’t got a diagnosis, but I feel I relate to a lot of the symptoms.
So while I wait to receive therapy, I want to see if I could do research on how to help myself.
Generally speaking, I struggle with emotional regulation. My mindset is very extreme and it’s often difficult to snap out my episode.
A few posts ago, I mentioned being on a waiting list to receive therapy. A part of me wonders whether I suffer from petulant BPD. I haven’t got a diagnosis, but I feel I relate to a lot of the symptoms.
So while I wait to receive therapy, I want to see if I could do research on how to help myself.
Re: Support Thread Today- Stress
Hopefully chats are better next week, hoping we can return to 7 days a week for them because it not being on Monday especially can be a bit harder because of the Monday blues and new week, can be a bit overwhelming so would be good to have the chats to unwind and talk about struggles
Re: (TW self harm) How can I prevent myself from relapsing?
@eylah thankfully, I’m relieved and nothing bad happened on my shift. Thank you so much for your support ❤️
Re: The Mix and Mental Health Innovations come together to supercharge digital mental health support
Hi @shannon_164 , thank you for clarifying here, and I can assure you that we're certainly not accusing you of trying to create issues here. You were worried, and that is valid.
We're mindful there have been a lot of changes to navigate, as discussed in this thread above, and we see the stress and frustration that some of these changes (including our communications around the changes) have brought up. We want to take accountability of where we can be doing better.
And that's why, we felt curious about where news of a ban on emojis had come from as it hasn't been a part of our official training or internal talks with our volunteers. It's okay that you don't remember which chat this was shared it. We just wanted to make sure we were being clear
Rest assured that our emojis remain!
Hope that helps!
We're mindful there have been a lot of changes to navigate, as discussed in this thread above, and we see the stress and frustration that some of these changes (including our communications around the changes) have brought up. We want to take accountability of where we can be doing better.
And that's why, we felt curious about where news of a ban on emojis had come from as it hasn't been a part of our official training or internal talks with our volunteers. It's okay that you don't remember which chat this was shared it. We just wanted to make sure we were being clear
Rest assured that our emojis remain! Hope that helps!
Sian321
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Re: (TW self harm) How can I prevent myself from relapsing?
its been a few hours since you posted this hru now? im sending you so many hugs 🫂. im here on community today if you need anything .
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eylah
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