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I understand and appreciate all the comments you've made however I have to say even with your BF paying half the bills, I doubt you'd be able to afford half a flat on the £80 a week you said you earn.
Please understand people are only trying to help however I know my monthly bills if it were for me alone would run into about £1200-1400 per month,
remember as well as rent you've got utilities, council tax, tv licence, a phone if you have one, etc etc. it is very expensive to get your own place
Obviously if you've budgeted it well and belief you can do this then great
true, but you could always keep on top of the cleaning.
It also might not be as bad as you think, and it wouldnt have to be long term. Renting an entire flat is a bit of a luxury at your age. Most people share out of necessity when theyre starting out, and put up with the bad bits because its so much cheaper. A lot of people actually find they enjoy it. Surely there are time limits on your bathroom at home too, living with your family?
:yes: Yes, I agree, I didn't want to mention as it was part of a seperate thread but I went through that with my wife and it was hell trying to find somewhere to live while expecting a child.
And I should be earing over a hundred pounds a week by the time I'm eighteen.. it will still be tough though.
I think I might get banned.....
PLEASE... Please for the love of all that is sane... tell me you are not going to have a kid to get money/a home etc etc...... or your even considering it in your situation...
I think moving out is the best option for me though.
The whole point of me moving out is so I can keep my job.
I work full time with my wife as a full time mum, I earn 14k per year, I take home after tax £220 per week, I'll be the first to admit I get Tax Credits, I get £120 (including CHB)
£340 per week pays my bills, I am lucky I have VERY good family connections and Free rent basically. otherwise I'd be fucked harder than a nun.
if your only working part time, you do not get working tax credits, you need to be full time, you "may" get child tax credits, but not much more than £60.00 per week I wouldn't have though, you'd get some sort of housing help but not a full amount, also remember you'd have to have time off work to look after the kid, maternity leave, then pay for a babysitter (yes you can get benefits for that) which will only cover a fraction, so tbh unless you can get over £1300 a month after tax, which FREE rent you'd be very hard pressed to raise a kid (and then you can forget about getting anything for yourself.)
I do not mean to be mean, I am being a realistic. This is what I live with, I was 18 when my wife fell pregnant, YOU will have to grow up fast, enjoy going out on friday nights? saturday nights? forget that, enjoy drinking a lot? forget that, enjoy being a teenager? forget that
Your life will change more than you can imagine, do not rush to grow up, enjoy your teen life, take your time. be a kid.
I really do understand and appreciate what you're saying but what can I do when my parents are forcing me to quit my job? The only way is to move out..
Thats fine Lyric, honestly I agree moving out may be best, It just comes across that you imply you are considering having a child/baby
My priorities atm are my new place (getting on my feet etc) and my birthday plans, as well as trying not to fall out too much with my family..
Good, I am glad, it is just when you were asking about having a job, claiming benefits and while having a child it comes across as you were considering it, I am glad to hear
I'm still living at home atm but I will have to move out soon.. it's a big step.
And thank you
Its not much, but 30 more pounds could do alot
ah ha ha ha ha, and you think it's ok to tell people not to have children on benefits?
Actually yes I DO because even so I STILL WORK over 48 hours a week, I WORK full time and support my family, except jobs these days pay very little, surely the whole point of the benefits I get is FOR people with children,
the benefits I get are working tax credit (can only get at my age if you've got children in full time work) and child tax credit due to what we earn.
YOU do not know my situation, IF you really want to know something I would get MORE now if I quit my job than what I get from working 50 hours a week.
Im not ashamed to be on benefits, Because unlike most on benefits I WORK, I work fucking hard so don't you dare comment or imply im a Piece of shit benefit scum..
Ah - geneve made two statements, the first that she didn't feel Lyric would be able to afford it, the second that it wasn't fair for geneve to pay for Lyric's baby.
I think it was the former that Hellfire was agreeing with, and supporting with his example, not the latter.
i dont think either are immoral
Brainfart
Hows things going lyric? have you found a place?
:thumb:
The comprimise we came to was that I would pay the rent and council tax and not pay my mum any board and lodge.
Prehaps you could discuss this with your parents as it may work out much cheaper for you to do this than move out xxx