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And my mum recieves Housing benefits, Carers' allowance, low rate incapacity benefits, child benefits and extra for me because I'm over 16 and we're on Income Support. Loads really! Might have missed one or two..
And yeah, I might be going to Uni, if I get a place.
She is forcing me to write a letter of resignation soon. Even if I do go along with this and quit, does my mum really think I will speak to her after this? I'll want to move out after this..
So what's it really benefitting?
I'm so upset
To be honest though, I understand what will happen if I keep on working. I can either declare it or not. My mum can either declare it or not. Both will probably have bad consequences
I'd really recommend contacting them though - as katralla says there may be things that mean your income has no relevance to what your Mum gets in benefits. It's just good to make sure.
Even if I do quit this job, I want to leave anyway. I can't live here knowing my own mum has made me unhappy. You might say it's only a job, but jobs are hard to come by, I've settled in, I love the people, the money is okay etc.
I would say "It is only a job" however that does not make it anyless important, your right, jobs are hard to come by, your settled and you enjoy it, most of all your being a responsable adult instead of doing what a lot of people can do and sponge/not work (and no that isn't aimed at anyone, just a general comment)
I have a lot of respect for how your handaling this situation, I think (even though I see her point) your mum is being unfair about this. and I would love to say I hope you continue to have a good relationship with your mum after this as family is important, however from the sounds of it, it may be difficult,
Do you have anywhere to go if you did move out? other family, aunts/uncles/grand parents?
Obviously, your mum is also worried as when you turn 18 she will receive NO benefits for you whatsover (as far as I am aware) and if your working she will have to pay rent (by the sounds of the way it is going) so it is kind of a trap as her "money in" will decrease but her "money out" will increase.
May i ask, out of curiosity, how much/how often do they do these "odd jobs" obviously it is personal and feel free not to answer, it's just purely for my own curiosity that someone can get away with earning/working and claim benefits.
Quite.
See what the advice people offer you. Your parents are being completly unreasonable here, and it is a rubbish situation. I suppose now is the time that you have to make some tough decisions about what sort of person you want to be. Do you want to go through life having to compromise your integrity because your mum wants to claim some more free cash, or do you want to establish yourself as a decent person, and break a declining circle.
I know which I'd do, but it's an easy decision from the outside.
And my mum sometimes does part-time cleaning work. Only for no more than £30 a week, but still..
And I suggested to her today that I move into a flat. But she wants me gone by Monday.
unfortunately when living with your parents you have no legal rights like a tenant to have a minimum notice period for her to kick you out, so she can unfortunately kick you out on Monday if she wishes.
Legally once you've reached 16 your parents can ask you to leave
So unfortunately you only have a few options, please, i have asked a few times and if you wish not to answer just say, but do you have anywhere to go,
Have you contacted shelter?
Obviously, correct me if your wrong but is this your situation (once you get a job?)
Single (as in unmarried, living on your own)
Part time work,
Full time education,
You may be eligible for some benefits. maybe help with housing, low income benefits etc.
I wish you the best of luck but I suggest contact (as said before) Shelter or the CAB to find out what your eligible for.
Of course, I never said otherwise, but just because your working doesn't mean you will not be entitled to help.
If you move in somewhere as a lodger, you might find you get on well with the family and won't have to feel worried about being lonely or not being able to deal with things like spiders and there'll be someone to ask how to do the laundry etc. Also, as a lodger you would only have one bill to pay, your rent probably every week. This will make the transition from living at home to on your own easier as it's a difficult task to pay all the bills that come with a flat.