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Am i a boy or girl?
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I am a 17 year old boy but i feel that i should be a girl as i get older this feeling is getting stronger, i am slim and keep my hair shoulder length people often think i am a girl even when i am not trying to look like one all my life i have liked girls things and have been wearing my sisters clothes whenever i could because then i felt calm and complete for a while i even have small breasts and am not that well developed down there :rolleyes: maybe i have some kind of hormone inbalance im not sure. This has always been known by mum but she just treated it as a joke and thought i would grow out of it, anyway it all came to a head a while ago and she realised how sad i was so agred to let me have a few things that i could wear now and again whaich was great and i felt really happy, over xmas though i was able to spend loads of time as Louise and because of the snow i was home alone for a week so i spent whole days being the real me, but now i really miss it and am finding it hard to cope i know now that i need to be Louise for ever if i am going to happy but i dont know what to do or how to talk to mum about this.Dont know if i am a cross dresser or need to change sex Anyone else with same feelings or know anyone in situation
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You may well be transgendered, have a X/Y chromosome imbalance or whatever but the sooner you get professional help, the sooner you can be diagnosed and, if a sex change is the way to go, then the appropriate wheels can be put into motion to get this treatment going sooner rather than later.
Psychology and medicine has come a long way and I am sure that with the right support, you can be the person that you really are. *hugs*
Gender stereotypes are also playing a part here. So you grow your hair long; big deal.
I think you should defo speak to your GP, and as others have said, you aren't alone. Good luck
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From what you've said, you may be a Klinefelter's (XXY) - it's not that rare a condition.
The OP is uncertain of their gender identity, a counsellor will be able to help them think through tthe issues. If gender reassignment is desirable, the earlier it is identified to prevent ongoing development in the "wrong" role the better - even if it's just halted while further decisions are made.
What a load of unsympathetic bollocks! Doctors and psychologists are only for ill people? Very often they are there to confirm that you are NOT ill.
:yes: Exactly.
I can't speak for your parents because I don't know them but most parents really just want you to be happy, it's all we ever want. Sometimes we don't get that across very well...
As for your GP, I doubt that will be the case. You aren't alone there are thousands of people like you in the UK. The support and, should you wish to go that far, surgery are NHS treatments. They will help you get to the point that you are happy with and will not force any solution on you.
Good luck and I hope you find the happiness you seek.
You sir, would do better to learn something about Gender Dysmorphia before making any further comments, otherwise you come across as a fool.
Doctors and phychologists deal with a great range of problems. Some are medical but many are social. In this case the OP seems to be struggling with both. Rather than suggest that they shouldn't seek help, it is actually their best course of action and the support they will get from the professionals who deal with this on a daily basis would do them much more good than your ill informed comments.
Keep us informed! :thumb:
Could be the start of the rest of my life or the start of a long battle.
Remember to be as honest as you can to the GP, and I hope you find happiness.
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Hope it goes well, and that it is the start of a new life for you :yes:
Welcome to the site, Im sorry that you are feeling low and confused at the moment, I have looked up some information on Transvestism and Transsexualism for you to have a look at in your own time. Is there anyone you feel you can talk to and express how you are feeling at the moment ?, you may find this a big help and relief to confide in somebody.
I hope this has been useful,
Let us know how you are getting on,
Keep posting,
B:)
Going to scream now hope you dont mind arrrrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh
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i think you are being really brave.
have you had your GP appointment yet?
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I saw my gp on Monday and it went ok i think, i was in there for nearly 30 minutes she weighed me, measured me and generally poked and prodded me till i had no dignity left lol. She agreed that i was'nt developing as i should but then quizzed me on how much i ate etc. She wanted to know if i thought that had i developed "normally" did i think i would still have these feelings, i explained to her that i felt i was a girl from a very young age way before puberty and then we had a long chat about what i wanted to happen and what my options were. She thinks i could have a undiagnosed chromosone or hormone problem at this point i became tearful as i felt she was syaing "oh dont worry a few injections and we can make these feelings go away" but she said it was just something to look at and i shouldnt worry about it at this stage, ( well i am worried lol )
She called my mum in after my examination and had a chat to her and i was amazed how my mum spoke for me she was really supportive and said she would stand by me whatever the outcome was ( more tears lol )
Anyway i have to go back next tuesday to see the nurse and have blood taken then about ten days later return to see my gp and find out where i go from here. She has said that if i am serious i need to spend much more time as Louise i need to start going out more and interacting as a female and that from now on if i see her it must be as Louise i guess she wants to see how serious i am for herself. So in a few weeks i go back and see her as Louise so not nervous about that at all lol, just hope she thinks i look the part.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/body_mind/everyone/gender_dysphoria_transgender/ theres some good links at the bottom too under "further help and advice"
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Trying to find the courage to get my ears pierced now (ouchhhhh)
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