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Completely unfanciable. I'm going to top myself.
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I hope you do take the advice everyone has posted..we’re just trying to tell you to concentrate in building yourself esteem:)
I know people chatting can be irritating, they do at my work too lol, but that’s why your gonna have to find an interest away from these people cos in away your automatically thinking, oh she’s gonna say you’re your sweet but I just wanna be friends.
Namaste is right, body language is key, we all interact using it. Just staying stuff to a girl is half the battle, you have to act it too, believe in yourself.
Anyway, Coldplays Chris Martin didn’t lose his til he was 21. I’m sure there are guys at work/Uni who had no clue but brag to make themselves feel better.
Qutoing a old friend: allow it! do your own thing!
This doesn't mean that you have some sort of 'automatic right' to a girlfriend. Yes, it's nice to be with someone who is successful (not being shallow here but it is nice to be with someone who has actually done something with their life) and has an ambition.
Yup.
OP - the more importance you place on this, then the more miserable you're going to become about this. To be perfectly honest, it really isn't that big a deal. The fact that you're making out that it is the be-all and end-all of existence is exactly the reason why you're feeling so bad about this. God knows I feel for you but your quasi-obsession over this one act is the sole reason why you're like this.
The fact that you would derive no small pleasure from Facebook surely shows that you're taking this too far.
Please don't think I'm being cruel in my probings but sometimes to chance we need to realise a few humbling truths about ourselves.
That, I think is the problem. Are you perchance a mysoginist? Perhaps it's how you view women that's causing problems.
Tbh you come across as being one of these work-a-holics who want to build a perfect life for themselves - perfect grades, top degree, top job and so top partner and then throws a tantrum when they don't get what they want. Sorry to be harsh, but that's the impression i'm getting.
TBH I find that pretty off putting. Maybe you come across as too desperate..I certainly wouldn't want to go out with/sleep with someone who confessed that they would happily fuck most girls and wasn't that fussy...a girl wants to feel special! At least fancied, not just an available female.
I think I agree with Ballerina in this- it does come across to me as well as a little boy who's used to getting his own way having a tantrum because in one thing he can't get what he wants by either buying it or clicking his fingers. A lot of high-achievers I know are total control freaks, and the thing about a relationship is that you can't control the other person- you can't make someone like you with cash.
The reasons why you have trouble were very apparent in your previous thread- you seem to be treating women as a chattel to be won, a reward for your hard work. If you buy them a dinner then they will suck you off. If there's one thing that puts women off its being considered a prize, something to be bought.
well this is pretty much a repeat of his 1st thread...
oioioi! wrong mindset dude... girls smell that compulsive behaviour of "I need a shag" a 100 kilometres against the wind.
hard to make an opinion out of that. It's always how you see yourself and how others see you. I was like you, always defending myself, specifying my good feats, to counter every criticism I got, but still something wasn't working smooth there. You seem to be pretty constrained and angry as if you'd shout a girl in the face "WHY WON'T YOU GO OUT WITH ME." if she doesn't sleep with on the first meet.
either you fool yourself, or you really can't be helped.
Is it really 'wasting time' if you enjoy yourself on the date and get a friendship out of it? And you never know, one of these friendships may develop...it's very hard to tell with just one date.
You need to stop thinking too much about it and concentrate on enjoying life.
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Firstly, I can't believe all this socialite crap, because your being a right miserable twat.
And nobody wants to know if your going to blow your head off mate, post your problems no lame threats designed to get you attention.
I agree with others, it seems Daddy hasn't been able to buy you a girlfriend so its 'so unfair' - bollocks. If all what you say is true, especially if your not fussy, i find it really hard to beleive you havnt found a shag. Don't get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with being a virgin, but if your that desparate..
If your that desparate mr socialite, get off the internet and bell an escort. Becuase, all the advise you repeatedly get on here aint gonna help third time round.
Im guessing your not a samaritan
Lol, not really.
Not if theres nothing wrong wit ppl anyway. Dont think it would go down too well at the smaritans 'i wanna shag an i cant get one'.
Well you've seen fit to respond to it - so there's your reason, nearly everyone has an opinion on this kind of issue and like's to have their say. Which is fine of course, that's what a forum is about.
I think you need to ease off there. There's a difference between airing your opinion and resorting to full-on insults.
I do think there's been some excellent advice given so far and do wonder myself whether Jomery has taken note, as the responses seem to be more defensive than anything. Jomery, I don't think I can add anything that hasn't already been said, so the best I can offer is to really spend some quality time just reading back over this thread and some of the things people have said. I hope you've found it all helpful as you're genuinely getting responses from a fair few people who know their stuff when it comes to relationships. Just take your time and try not to put so much pressure on yourself.
Why don't you give him some really useful links?
http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/singles/singlelife/singleandhappy
http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/singles/singlelife/unrequitedlove
http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/singles/onthepull
http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/singles/onthepull/howtopull
http://www.thesite.org.uk/sexandrelationships/singles/onthepull/wheretopull
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(teasin')
Its a really good article (promise)
http://www.howtobecooler.com/virgin
Its honest so be prepared to accept what you read.
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Guess I was just wary of repeating myself: http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showpost.php?p=1902469&postcount=89
Imitation is the highest form of flattery ...
Seriously doubt it.
To the OP - you really do come across as desparate and this will really put someone off going out with you.
Don't mean to sound harsh, but the only reason why (IMHO) this is a problems for you is because you're obsessing over it.