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Completely unfanciable. I'm going to top myself.
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fuck them. they are not friends. I wouldn't spend any time with them. this might be a bit unrelated, but I have a great and big circle of true friends and hanging out with them makes me often forget that I am single and desire to be in a relationship as well. If I'd be only on my own or with 'friends' like you have them I'd be miserable all the time. Going out with my homeys getting wasted and doing crap as if we were still 17 beats going out with a girl (on a few areas at least
my thoughts...
Personally, a guy just trying it on with me would really put me off.
How about getting to know girls as friends first then see where it heads?
not despite of, exactly THEREFORE they aren't.
not be friends with them because they're not interested in you? Jeez you need to get this chip off your shoulder.
Though i think sleeping in the same bed and stuff is pushing it.
Maybe if you tell them to stop doing this you, they might stop doing that? Or just ignore them - they'll get the message soon hopefully...
From what you've described, your girl-friends seem to see you as their gay guy friend who they share their innermost secrets with and share beds with, but don't worry about it because "you're gay" to them?
(I'm not accusing you of being camp or anything, it's just a possibility as the whole thread has pretty much ruled out every other possible explanation!)
once again, stop associating with those people, or have a serious word with them.
"Yea, sucks to be single huh? Now tell me why I should listen to your sulking when I am single and miserable about it myself..."
can I just clairfy with some of these posts here.
basically a lot of peoplel are syaing "go out, cluubing an dwhat not and try with all the girls, even if its 10 girls in a night or more, eventually you will get one"
is that right?
doesn't THAT come across as desperate?
Wouldn't girls see you trying with other girl sin a club and when you fail , see it and know your only after a girl rather then them?
please clarify.
To me it would come across as being desparate.
I think you should join a club of some sort (like a sports club) so that you can meet new people.
So shooting yourself is an option but quitting the job isn't?
I think the problem is that you just need to relax - you seem to be the kind of person who thinks only in terms of targets...go to that uni, get that degree make so much in my first year, sleep with x many girls by the time I'm 25 etc etc
Some things you can't get from drive and ambition. Stop thinking of every party/night out/new female in your life is a chance to get laid and have some fun mate!
Being that ^^^ target driven is bad, and very off putting. Having a rough plan is fine, but if you do it in fine precision its even worse If you come across as desperate, which you seem to be, puts women off even quicker. If you cant leave your job try at least a couple of weeks holiday and a quick bit of travlling may help.
Tell them to fuck off. Or say "just the one...your mum" - it rhymes, its big and its clever.
what kind of dickheads do you associate? I have never been asked that, except my girlfriends and they did not effing care, or just the occasional tipsy-in-the-pub-chatting-with-a-girl-and-taking-convo-a-tad-under-the-surface-thing.
Who the heck cares about that stuff? fuck them.... those are not your friends. those are buddies to go out and drink or ask any random chitchat crap, but not friends.
I really do think you need to get a new set of friends or make contact with your old ones, your true friends cos these people don’t appear to define the word friendship. Try to limit they time you socialise with these people and find other interests. Just find new people, different from those at work, likeminded people who wont make you feel inferior.
I was in the same position when I was at Uni, just wanted to get laid (only cos the people i was around made me think this way). It almost happened once cos I wanted to get my own back on one of my house mates and her friends cos they all like this guy and I was the only one he would pay attention too and could relate with. Don't wanna go into too much detail but we were gonna do the friends with benefits thing but I realised that having sex to prove how fancy able I was, wasn’t gonna solve anything. But I guess your gonna have to find that out for yourself cos know amount of posts is gonna convince you otherwise (tell me if I’m miss judging you).
Eventually you well find a girl at a club who is just looking for sex, then what?.. Oh you wont be a virgin, yeh, then what?... Are you gonna win a trip around the world, are your favourite band gonna play live in your front room?
Im sorry I don’t want to seem heartless here cos I do understand but your gonna have to set better goals for your self than just getting laid.
1) GET RID OF THOSE NEGATIVE PEOPLE
2) ENJOY BEING SINGLE IT CAN BE SO MUCH FUN!
umm I asking for clarification on the subject, not saying I did it or anything.....
I dont think there are many clubs for people in their 20's to join tho lol.
After a long (and I mean loooooong) dryspell I had a mindblowing partner, but 3 days after it ended I was like "I don't feel any different from before."
Of course you cannot tell that to someone who has never experienced it, but still... a demonic circle, the more you desperately crave for it, the harder it is to achieve.
oh and I think it's wasn't a joke to PM noangel and ask her out,... that's not even coincidence, that's omen, dude.
Tell me about it. Im in the same position, i think its one of the most important articles i have ever read about the subject.
There are loads more articles to read, read em all. It made me feel better.
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