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Completely unfanciable. I'm going to top myself.
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if you just want to shag, then you're not looking in the right places. They really can't be that hard to find.
But you can't just click your fingers and expect someone to walk into your life, you're only 23.
Hmm, whereas I'd love to be able to have some female friends to go out with in this way (just so happens I don't right now). I'm quite happy just to have fun with girls - going out on a 'date' doesn't have to mean theres going to be a relationsip or even a second date - just have a bit of fun..one of them might realise you're not for her but she's got a mate who'd be perfect for you!
You need to get over the fact that you're single - that's how it is and no matter what you do it won't change until you're comfortable being you (and for the most part, it sounds like you are comfortable with your life, job, degree etc.) - once you're comfortable with that and it's no longer ruling your thoughts (as it sooo is right now - and I know what it's like but you're still young) then you'll almost certainly be luckier
Just go out and have some fun and don't see every girl you like as a potential girlfriend...
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Can you please appreciate I'm pretty sensitive right now and your insults are only undoing people's useful advice.
No-one deserves a girlfriend. In order (IMHO at least) to get a girlfriend you do need to very confident around girls.
Sounds like you actually need to experience life. Get youself out to Thailand/OZ get some experiences under your belt and meet some people outside of the group you normally socialise with.
If your as shit hot as you claim you can easily get a good job when you come back.
I find it strange that your focusing on the "I can't get a girlfriend" part of your problems! I would be very much more worried with the whole wanting to kill yourself thing...
Get yourself sorted!
try different clubs that you haven't been to before? Tbh i don't see how losing your virginity to a random lass from a club is any different from losing it to an escort.
Maybe you're over confident? It can be very intimidating.
what about man boobs?
easy dude... while 50 sound alot, some people get rejected 4 times a night. It's just an attitude problem if you're not butt-ugly. If I were you I'd really chatted up the one girl who posted in here, why not? That's your opportunity.
It isn't even that easy to woo for girls, there is certainly a little hook to it. All I can recommend is, trying to find out what you do different as people esp. girls on here suggest. You need to take a very careful and close look, however.
Like I stated before, if you expect a girl to go out with you and fall out of the clouds because she rejects you, because you are oh so brilliant, then your self-esteem will only suffer and suffer. It didn't take me to pull a girl to realize that and change my attitude (as I never pulled in the sense of a one-night-stand).
It's like in the karate-kid movies. Crying to the sensai won't help, you need to pull yourself together and work on what's not running smooth now, because there isn't any kind of black curse on you.
Hiya mate, the only way in which that post differs from my life to date is that I have a shit job and minimal education although I probably not quite as sociable though thats not to say I'm not sociable, I am. Oh and I'm 23 in October.
I can't offer any advice but I do understand your problems. This post is different to your last one, things are genuinely concerning you and you're not coming across and someone who thinks they deserve a girlfriend/shag because they're successful.
Just this Saturday gone, I found myself dancing and grinding with a few girls but got nothing and that's always the case yet my mate who I was with pulled in the first 20 minutes.
It's getting me down as well. I'm not just after sex, I'm after a real relationship. But, when you've never been kissed, shagged or been in a relationship, you find you'll do what you can to do any of them.
This week has been exceptionally hard because all these feelings have got me down, along with seeing a girl I've REALLY fancied for AGES this weekend but being unable to do anything because she's so far out of my league it's unreal.
Feel free to PM me.
So what do you talk about? Maybe your choice of conversation topic is the problem? If you talk to girls about yourself, your high flying career, your money, then I'm not surprised you're single and lonely.
What do you talk about in the real world?
When I said, hey crap on that, let's just go out sans pulling and have fun, and took some random girl from my study or whoever with me, it was so much more fun, and there was much more proximity (physically or mentally wise), even tho that was not my intention.
I know it's hard to tell you, to lean back and relax, that's like telling someone who crawled through desert sahara not to drink so hastily.
I just want to give you food for thought, that you realize the issues. If you come on too hard/desperate, just with the sole intention it's hardly going to work, except you are really asking every girl you meet through the night until someone finally agrees. Once again one of thise stupid populistic sayings, "You won't find love if you keep looking for it." Well, screw them whoever tells you those to put your mind at ease, but it somehow defends my points up there.
what? how often did this happen to you? I never heard of such indiscrecy, especially if they know you are single too....
maybe a whole different and more important question: what kind of girls do you focus on?
Yea, but they fortunately the alcohol wore off soon enough that I remembered I had standards.
I wish I could have forgotten my number though.
You sound like a fat ugly bloke I know, only he paid a whore to relieve him of his virginity.
Well what usually happens? Do you try it on and they knock you back? Do you meet up just as friends and then nothing develops? Do these girls who call you up everyday to talk about other guys know that you fancy them? I can't imagine they would, surely they would have some tact.