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Completely unfanciable. I'm going to top myself.
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Only because you choose to define yourself by the amount of sex you've had.
That's right, if you, Jom, are modest (what I still doubt somehow, just about how you went into detail about the 100k you had with 22), and how you and all the other good feats you or others allocated to you, then it would be already the right thing. But I think you try to impress girls too hard, and were NOT yourself as in the laid back, chilled out, witty, funny, "I am just doing this to entertain my friends" and not "I am doing this, because I want to dive into your panties tonight." guy.
Make more male friends and go out with them, and fuck being on the pull. It sounds to me you driven the females into the corner with an attitude that screams with "what? are we going to fuck tonight or not? Am I wasting my time here?"
the attitude makes you pushy and therefore fail and therefore miserable and frustrated and therefore more pushy, obsessed etc. Well I know you read this thread religiously, but I do hope I am not typing my fingers black and bruised for nothing... There are very useful hints in there what you are doing the wrong way and it doesn't seem to me you had the "Oooooohhhhhh!"-moment already and just read them and say "yes, yes, yes... but now give me the cookie cutter strategy to get them in bed plz!!"
I know you would answer with that. But... well, there are hardly any ways with telling anyone that you are very wealthy without giving the impression you feel superior through it... Better not mention it at all, or do not go that much into detail.
Well, a bit offtopic, it's just never good to impress with it, me thinks...
:yes: Someone with this attitude would really put me off going out with them. (And yes, I've been in the situation where I've had someone constantly ask me for sex and wonder why I won't go out with him...)
ever stop and think sex is kind of over-rated?
Don't like it when people say that....:mad:
I believe this has been pointed out quite a few times during this thread.
the act itself is probably cool but the way people talk about it after is like if you don't have sex you die. its the buildup that makes people go mad.
I don't really care TBH. more to life then sex after all.
But when you are, feels worth making a big deal of - if only in your own head! (Because it's not like I run around shouting about it or anything...)
Im just saying, good for you if you getting laid is all.
I just wonder whats all the buildup about, I mean you tool isn't going to turn into solid gold when your done is it. I reckon its all the stuff with American Pie and The O.C. Nip/Tucks probably a culprit. good TV shows though
And thanks.....:)
my 2 pence is: its not a big deal if your not having sex.
There is soo much more to life then sex, they way some people go on about it (never mind the media) you'd think that the was very little else of any impotance in their life.
I've heard all sorts of stories about going to uni and getting sex nearly every night and when I went I thought it was like that, it aint. Mate, you're what, 23 or 24? Got your whole fucking life ahead of ya, wise up, your time will come, don't let any cunts pressurise you into thinking your a failure. Many a cunt who's got women and sex and are pure fuck ups, you've made something of yourself so stop dwelling on things de fuck!
So why are you moaning about it then?
See my above comment.
I don't understand you - one minute you're moaning that you can't get a girlfriend/sex so that you're going to kill yourself and then next you're like 'I can live without a relationship'.
He was explaining it in his last post. You should read it again if you missed it. Yes, he's rather over the top at points but the problem isn't about not having a girlfriend, it's being unable to get even close to getting one.
I'm really loving all aspects of my life, and know I can be on my own. However, not being able to pull still affects me. It doesn't weight me down that much anymore, but when faced with people I like the look of, and not knowing what to do or what I'm doing wrong, that brings me down. It doesn't mean that I really NEED a relationship or some sex.
I imagine it's the same in Jomery's case.
This is a bit like asking people to explain to you how to walk or bike. Most don't really know what exactly they're doing and thus it can be shit having them explain how easy it is to a person that doesn't know how to do it.
Anyway,I have to comment on this post (even though I havent read it all cos Im kneeling and getting cramp:eek2: )as I have been through all this and am fine.......:D
Iv done all the "I`m useless,ugly,shit gonna die alone" whining and then realised that because of all those thoughts that people in general and especially women would react negatively towards me as I was always sending out negative signals abd body language.The only way I got over this was by going inside myself and fixing myself as a person and improving myself.You may have read here and other places that women while not ignoring looks go more on personality and the way you make them feel not just what job/money/car you have.(Please ladies,correct me if Im wrong:thumb: )So you have to think what you have to offer not just women but everyone in the way of feelings and emotions.If you make someone feel warm and good inside they will like you and the opposite is true with making them feel down and depressed.
As for pulling,shagging and a relationship the most fun with those parts is the flirting and antagonising fun and friendly teasing plus feeling the sexual tension when its building you can have with women.....
Also,everyone keeps going on about confidence but I feel thats a confusing "concept" shall we say,as in my opinion it makes me feel I have to be the centre of attention and making everyone laugh etc.A better way to be is just totally comfortable in your own skin,beliefs and who you are and what you want.Walk tall,hold your chin up and for fucks sake stop buying women dinners and loads of drinks as your just an ATM.Expecting incoming from that but we all know girls in clubs will get what they can out of a guy and anyway,challenging girls by not giving them what they want and teasing them when they get huffy is great fun!!!!!!!:hyper:(But not in a nasty way,like they way you tease your little sister so you get the "you are such a pain" look where they are fighting the smile...if that makes sense:chin: )
PS I have only slept with 1 girl last may and Im not a pulling machine.Plus,Also By joking around with women like this I have never had a bad reaction and by focusing on just having fun and not looking for anything from them the fear of going to chat goes away and I feel much freer and looser as if I was chatting to my mates.Dont focus on a specific outcome because when you get it you`ll be disappointed.Getting kills wanting dudes.
I may have just written a load of waffle there but if theres anything of help or interest I will feel validated(especally from any girls......I crave womens approval,its almost as appaling as my physical appearance.
Later on.