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there is a good chance that you wern't actualy the architect of the bubble ...
until that environment can no longer sustain you for some reason.
it will be a very troubled and sad life if you continue to wallow in it for as long as possible ...your taking the comfortable root at the moment.
but only you realy know why.
why is it so difficult to pop?
inside are the answers ...a good councilor would get you to relate how that bubble came to be and why it's so comfortable or so all encompassing ...you have the key.
you don't seem to have even the basic skills needed to apply for a job.
your social skills haven't been developed.
why?
what went wrong?
what was happening to you when you should have been developing ...?
what was your home life like?
what kind of people make up your family?
what don't they do?
are they quiet people?
depressed people?
exciting daring people?
have you ever had any role models?
heroes?
if so ...why were they?
if not ...why not?
what intriqued puzzled fascinated you as a kid?
what does now?
The problem goes back a very long way, probably further than your accessible memory can access. Your behaviour is programmed by your environment when you were a child, and your behaviour now reacts to the memories of this programming.
Later experience reinforces the behaviour learned when young.
Was your mum happy? Was your dad happy? Were they lonely? Argumentative? Did they shout at you if you cried? Did they ignore your cries of pain? Did someone close in the family die? Did your family move?
It doesn't have to be much, just enough.
if not ...you better start building one.
it's YOU ...who has the key.
but you don't seem to have much idea of WHO you are.
my fear is ...your comfort and reliance will be the death of you.
MORROCAN ROLL: "my fear is ...your comfort and reliance will be the death of you."
I wish I was dead, Rolly.
You probably can't remember what it was that caused you to retreat into yourself, but in your childhood, probably early childhood, you have learned that it is better and safer to be in the bubble than out of it. Later life has continued to prove this to you, though as much as anything this is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Nobody coming to check on you is one thing, but even that is probably not it. You probably don't remember it in your memory, but you DO remember it in how you behave now.
and if you continue like this you wont have anything. You gotta start trying more. simple as
The only way to get out of the bubble is to realise that whatever the danger was is not there now, and that the only thing keeping you there is your own mind, your own memories.
Any more news for the therapy?
Of course you can avoid it. Your just not trying. PMA = positive mental attitude, whereever their is a negative think of a positive, you'll be surrpised how much it can actually work.
What i see is so many people on this site genuily trying to help you, but every time someone makes a suggestion or gives you advice you simply dont accept it, not really. Coming on here isnt going to help you when it comes to the real world you just have to get out their and do it
I think he's actually convinced himself deep in his mind so much that nothing anyone says on here is actually going to make a physical difference.
You have so much negative thinking going on inside your head its holding you prisoner. Kermit's right with what he says above.
I know all about negativety being that i myself am a very negative person, actually i take tha tback i used to be very negative but i've managed to change that side of me quite a bit,anyone who chats with me on msn would tell you that.You've honestly got to start thinking more positively and start taking cotrol of your life, and your depression.
I think everyone has done as much as they can to help you SG its time for you to act now on your own for yourself.
off the site for Careers Wales.
WTF?! WHY DO YOU NEED A CREDIT CARD OR CHEQUE ACCOUNT FOR UNI??
and for the record you could easily get a cheque book.
QUEENMAB_ROO: The number for Careers Wales is not one I'll be needing. Services like that appear to be only for ultra-confident people who know exactly what direction they want their careers to go into. Just looking at the website for that place intimidates me. As for university, what I meant was I need a credit card to be able to apply online for university.
GIRL_GUNNER: I blame only myself for my problems. I am entirely to blame.
* On another note, people who barely know me on MSN are always telling me that I am perfectly capable of being able of getting a job. They tell me it's the truth. Yet, I honestly don't understand how they see this. What is it in me that they see and I don't?
2moro's goal is to have them all sent out, or as many as possible. Not a few days, 2moro!
I'll be honest with you SG, i couldnt have become more confident were it not for a small ( well 3, Rachie004 helped me a great deal ) group of people i met online, who when i ffelt down or negative showed me the error of my ways and set me on the right path. I'm a very shy person by nature and coupling that with being negative well you can imagine what that is like but with the help of others i have become more positive.
You say you dont know how to accept the help that is being offered, isnt it obvios, ashard as it may seem you take it all in, break it down into small goals to reach and start working towards then. It is simple to do you just have to get the ball rolling.
Stop making excuses now and start acting.