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How many times do I literally have to beg for someone to listen?
How many more times will I not matter?
You bring so much positive light to The Mix, the threads you create to facilitate conversation and the support you give is so unbelievably important to everyone! I love being able to come on here and have a chat with you because you make it so enjoyable and your such a lovely person. It breaks my heart to know that you are hurting!
I admire how self-aware you are, reaching out when you need support! It's not an easy thing to do but it's so important and by doing it you give others to confidence to do the same. You know my inbox is always open to you if you need a chat and I will be there to listen
You matter to me and that's enough, I have faith in you and I know you will bounce back from this even if you have to hit a little deeper first. Your strength and your courage will pull you through this, I know it will.
You deserve to be heard and supported, that is not something that will ever be taken away from you. Negativity and mental illnesses take and take and take so I want to give you back some of your positivity because you deserve it and let you know that you make this community a better place everyday
I think that people here, especially the people who have commented on this thread have acknowledged and heard that you are not okay right now.
I'm struggling with my mental health and have no where to turn, my anxiety is so bad it feels constant. It feels like it never goes away, I'm constantly twitchy, shakey, stuttering and finding I have to gasp to catch my breath.
I'm really struggling with past truama. I keep seeing and hearing things that triggers thoughts about it, memories and smells. It's so fucking hard. Every day I have to live with this shit and I've begged and begged for help and never got any.
I feel so frustrated and overwhelmed with self hate and knowing everyone hates me hurts. Knowing people bitch about me behind my back, write things on social media about me. It knocks me down so much. Some nights I want to take my life so everything stops and I can be at peace. Some nights I just cry and cry. I have graphic thoughts about suicide. I can't even keep myself free from self harm.
I am at breaking point and literally begging constantly for someone to listen and everyone turns their backs. I don't feel safe posting a lot of stuff going on here, this is only a small amount of shit going on.
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I know you’ve been here before many times, and you are an exceptionally strong person because every time you pull through. I’ve heard the saying before that so far, you’ve made it through 100% of your worst days. That is very true and it means you are really strong and you’ll get through this too. I, and others, will acknowledge that it’s going to be really really hard, but you will get through this too.
I care, we all care. You matter to us. I know you’re not ok right now, it’s ok not to be ok and to reach out for the support you absolutely deserve, 110%!
You're mental health is so important so if you need to talk to your manager about possibly wearing something that makes you feel more comfortable, then do so. I'm sure they will be understanding
We will never turn our backs on you so don't worry about that!
Body image is a tough one and it sounds as though you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself. I think that you are perfect in every way and I wouldn't change a thing about you. I know we don't know each other in person but that doesn't matter to me. Online people can be more honest or more authentic because of the anonymity and I love this @GreenTea just the way you are!
My words may not mean much but I hope that you can also hear me in saying that you are cared for on here and we all value you
For example, I feel anxiety in my chest. So I tend to sit and listen to my body and ask myself what do I need? I let myself know that it's okay to be anxious and I don't have to change that if I don't want to. Once I've acknowledged this I help myself by putting one hand on my chest and focusing on my breathing. That way I can feel my heart rate slow down and see the progress I am making. When I feel calm again I still take a moment to sit and process what I am feeling know and that I am in control of my body if I choose to be.
You don't even need to know how to fix it, as long as you acknowledge that the feelings there and you welcome it. Often pushing it away can make it worse.
I hope that you are able to take something from this post, it's okay to feel fed up and broken. After all, there can't be a rainbow without the rain!
How I feel won't settle soon. It's thunder and lightening bad here
Just jumping in to echo what a lot of the community have been saying, you are showing incredible strength and honesty in opening up with how things are for you right now. Being real about where you are right now is so much more courageous than just saying things are okay when they aren't. It may not always feel like it, but these can be incredibly important steps on the path forward and will show others in the community that is okay to be completely open and honest within this space.
I know you mentioned earlier in the thread that you didn't feel able to reach out to 1-2-1 support because of a recent bad experience of doing so elsewhere. It can be hard to continue to reach out about difficult topics when you are finding it hard to trust how they will respond to you when you do open up. Whilst I don't know the details of what exactly happened with the other service, generally speaking, most organisations will have a confidentiality policy on their website that outlines what they will and won't do when people share things with them. This can help when choosing who you want to talk to, should that be something that you want to look at. For full disclosure, our policy is here, which is applied consistently across all of our services. Perhaps if you did want to try and reach out to a 1-2-1 service again, you could ask them a few questions about what their processes are, and what they may do in certain scenarios. This may make you feel more confident in trusting how they will respond.
There are a number of services that can provide support 1-2-1 support when you are feeling in a dark place. You may know some or all of these options, but I wanted to make sure they were readily available if you ever needed them:
We are all here for you GT, hopefully the responses to this thread show that the community will always provide a space that will listen and show support care and kindness
Ed
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Honestly I don't trust using 1-2-1 services anymore. They don't feel safe or comfortable. Where as public spaces others can see what's going on and to me that feels safer right now.
I'm just sat crying and feel so alone
My anxiety is so high and I hate it
Sending you such big hugs
Just had such a crap week in general. Really finding things difficult.
I've got people constantly checking up on me and I feel like I'm just burdening them, they shouldn't have to keep checking on me. It's not fair. They have lives too.
I'm finding things really hard, I feel really low and ready to just end things. (Am safe) there comes a point things are too much.. too much to cope with, to much to handle..
Knowing certain people hate me too..that hurts..I know I can be challenging sometimes but I feel like nobody bothers to actually get to know me of understand me. Everything feels very one sided. I make all the effort and others don't and it hurts.
When does it stop? When do things slow down enough to manage safely? When does it end..
Aww, I’m sorry to hear you’re not feeling much better today.
Sending you hugs
I feel like I do have to put up a front here. I have the whole time on the chitchat thread. I'm starting to slip and struggle this afternoon. Not sure what to do to help myself as a lot of options I've tired but I just can't grasp the distraction or anything to help