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Sunshine
we give a shit *hug*
have you got anything to do today or are you having a day in? maybe they were trying to suggest that you do something to distract yourself (although not in the most sensitive way)? what did you want them to say? maybe they thought that if they did something drastic and sent round an ambulance or something you'd panic and harm yourself?
I was having a day in, had a list of things to do and wanted to get some work done. I got up, had a shower, did some hoovering and things from my list, had lunch and then just crashed again. I tried for at least an hour to distract myself (reading a book, watching TV, talking to SM) and then thought I was doing the right thing by calling them. I know the drill when it comes to distracting myself, I had already tried
I went out on my bike. Didn't crash *sigh*. And my gears have broken which sucks. Some lady also decided to shout at me for riding the ALL OF TEN METRES on the pavement between my house and the cycle path. Even strangers hate me.
Don't think that strangers hate you- she's probably having a grumpy day. As long as you didn't run her over then don't worry about it. People love to hate cyclists... pedestrians: they shouldn't be on the path, they should be on the road. Drivers: cyclist shouldn't be on our roads- they don't pay road tax and don't go as fast as cars... get on the pavement. It's a vicious cycle (no pun intended!) for the poor old cyclist and you can't please everyone. From experience broken gears do indeed suck, do you know if yours are fixable?
And seconding omg hi, we care and give a shit *hug*
You did really well looking after yourself today though.
XX
Yeah I think I will do. It's been useful in the past because the out of hours people have info on me. But the last few times that hasn't really made a difference, they've just given me generic advice. Thank you xxx
If really what you're wanting is to talk to someone who will simply acknowledge that, yes, things are shit for you then I can't recommend the Samaritans enough.
I give a shit.
:yes: This. I found that when I was told to call them in a crisis their answer would simply be, "What do you want us to do about it?" The Samaritans have all the time in the world and will listen for as long as you like. They won't give solutions.
For practical help, call out-of-hours.
For listening, call the Samaritans. Every time.
i hope you're okay.... i can actually relate a lot to this too
when i'm alone and everyone's out at the shop or something.. i'm always thinking, okay- grab the nearest thing and let's just do this... and also it gives me more of a chance to come on boards like this to try and discuss my feelings
hugs
that really is anoying when people do that... i've got it a lot myself
"awww, well, which is your fave dvd?. go watch that and you'll feel better"
okay... first, it goes a lot deeper than that- i don't think people realise that their feeble attempts at trying to calm the situation, can actually lead to something worse (very possible i've known it to happen!)
and secondly i'm not 2 years old?
"awwww what is your fave dvd?"
they could just say go watch a dvd without all the questioning like that
The crisis/out of hours team are not a listening service. They're there to take active steps to help. "I want to kill myself, come and get me" is something they can deal with. "I feel a bit shit" is not, because their inevitable question will always be "what do you want us to do about it?" It's not being unkind, it's just they deal with the practical side of things, they're neither a counsellor nor a listening service. If you don't need them out to save you from killing yourself then it probably can wait until morning.
Yup. It's really hard to hear but it is true. The problem is that people (GPs and even CPNs) just blithely say, "Oh if you feel bad call the crisis team", without fully explaining their role.
Saneline are also a really good listening service. If you need intervention but don't have access to a crisis team, you can go to A&E and ask for the duty psychiatrist.
Sorry to go slightly off-topic, ysh. Glad you're feeling a little better despite everything. *hug*
but still- someone standing beside me saying all that to me like i'm about 2... so imtimidating!
In a bit of a state tonight. Called my ex. He has fallen to pieces and I feel so bad for not being able to make any of if better. Yet I still hate him for what he did. And I know I'm shooting myself in the foot again and again by talking to him. But meh.
wow?
if that was directed at me, not sure i like the language..
but i can be just as bad if you want me too. so.
Why would it be directed at you? Did you read yellow's post above that one?
Yellow - Arctic is right. He's made his choice and it's not your responsibility to pick him up anymore.
why on earth would that be directed at you?
And yeah, Arctic you're right. I shouldn't be phoning him - I shouldn't be giving him the chance to cry down the phone.
:thumb:
It's true. He left you, you are not responsible for the emotional repercussions he is feeling.
I don't really have anyone (IRL) to talk to about my struggles. I don't necessarily want to pour my heart out to anyone, just wish my 'friends' were supportive. Don't want to feel like I'm all alone.