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Want pizza with flatmate. Shouldn't have cos had McDs and a bit of BK last night and supposed to be losing weight.
Part II: Can't stop over-analysing whether this thing I have on Thursday with this guy is a kind of date or not - and do I ask him if it is? How annoying.
We don't have this "date" thing here. You go out with someone/meet someone, but there is no official outspoken difference. And it makes it just easier imho. A good "hanging out" is better than a crappy "date", just make the best out of it, get him drunk and bone him.
Anyway: About my situation. Yes, that's what I suppose too. I am actually not hurt at all, I was just a bit cynical/pessimistic in the post. Which might be a good or a bad thing. Good, because I can easily let go, if it doesn't work out, bad, because it was recently always easy for me to let go, which might mean that I just don't give a damn anymore, which prevents me from really going into a relationship with someone.
I don't know. We'll see.
this is what makes me think she's insecure.
well, yea. The German word I was translating into "unsure" can mean insecure as well, according to the dictionary
But how will a boyfriend be obstructive to her goals or the solution to her problems?
I have a slight suspicion that she's insecure, because she hardly ever was in the situation she's now in, and is a bit afraid that things might change out of the daily routine of just working your ass off and chilling with a few episodes of a series on the computer in the evenings.
Like some people are afraid of moving out or planning a huge holiday and going to a foreign country by themselves.
And she's just shields herself with the 'problems' she has so she doesn't have to bother with it. Which is, very detrimental in it's own way, because then - even if she likes me back - a relationship would not really be possible/healthy.
yikes, I guess there is just one way to find out.
then again she said she wouldn't be unhappy if a situation occurs.
I liked your answer that being in a relationship ought to not to be a burden. Maybe if she's worried about things, being able to open up to you about them will mean that you two are in a place where you like and trust each other enough to have a go at a relationship.
But then, maybe the first thing you should do is coax her into doing something fun with you. And then give her some reassurance afterwards that you're not expecting her to be perfect.
I will let you know how it panned out.
Yeah, we don't really 'date' here either, so thanks, for kinda putting it simply for me. A good hanging out with no expectations.
I will feel different again tomorrow
All I can say is don't bend over backwards for her, lay down your thoughts fully and if she doesn't want to try anything then don't weep over nothing lost IMO.
Yes, that's what I was planning to do.
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:no: I sort of covered it up... my friend goes "Is it true he grows weed and has taken heroin?" and it is true... and my mum goes "WHAT?" and I went "Oh, people think he is on drugs... but he isn't..." Woops.
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He goes to my school, I've known him for ages! Love him! He is an utter legend, so I'm still going to see him 5 days a week anyway even if it's not out of school.
He is such a nice lad, and he isn't a bad influence at all.
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Meanwhile, my brother can get away with doing nothing all day.
It's not that simple - a friend of mine has been waiting months to get rehoused. When it was time to move, the house was damp. He then had to wait another 3 months before moving.
i was in 42 degree weather yesterday.
today i'm in 9. booooo. coldcoldcold
I think I might have to either become a lesbian and hope I have better luck with women or become celibate....
I hear ya
Ohh, I am very tempted by that offer :flirt:
I have come to the conclusion that boys officially suck :yes: :rolleyes:
Ace
Not all boys suck though...just thought I'd point that out before we get TheSite's male contingent up in arms
Haha, oh gosh yes, apart from all the boys on Thesite who certainly do not suck :yes: