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hmm... whenever i've said something like 'i'm not sure i want a relationship right now' it's been because i'm too chicken to say that i didn't like the guy as much as they liked me basically
There has been the time when i said that, but i went on to explain exactly why i didn't want a relationship (was not over the ex bf, didn't think it would be fair to anyone else)
So i would try to get her to explain, in plain language, what she means- it's the only way to understand what she is thinking.
Oh man, this even sucks more than straight out rejection.
Tell me about it bro.
RE: AThiefAWhore... - I would go in and demand a huge WTF explanation.
Yes. I did some thinking over the weekend and I came to the same conclusion. Yes, I do want a relationship with her and not just anyone. Actually I am quite picky and I just like her that way, but I decided to not get in contact with her that much, after all, she contacted me after a few days without a word exchanged after our convo that I said I resign from this, because I can't see a way of that happening.
I will just focus on my work life. It's my last week of bachelor lab project so I got a lot of work to do (I shouldn't even be on here
Anyway, in June I get my own flat and will live in her vicinity, so it's easier to just invite her over after work, cook something and "watch a DVD".
For the meantime I am actually doing quite good (not heartachy) and I'll see how things fold out without putting any pressure on it, because I think that's what actually drives her off. I am confident that she likes me enough for a relationship, but we'll see if this is enough after all.
Thanks for your relpy.
I've been pretty hormonal and I just burst out crying after the phone call. I feel like a loser although I know I can only gain by waiting and getting two more week's worth of experience.
Oh well, at least I feel slightly better by writing this out.
You won't be able to just blow all your cash like that - there are rules about deprivation of capital.
Why is it unreasonable to be expected to use your savings?
You cant have different rules for different people, if someone needs money then they need it. If they have enough to get by, then its a shame.
I know I sound like a horrible person for saying this, but benefit is just that, a benefit with rules attached. It isnt an entitlement, its a benefit.
Exactly! They can't just give benefits to someone who has a load of money sat in the bank.
Sounds shocking, but id rather have a benefits system with a little bit of abuse, than no benefits system at all.
Id prefer to have no abuse of the system at all, but due to human nature that sadly will never happen.
Shall we just leave people to fend for themselves with no money?
Try saving money when you're on £13.5K (2003) £14.5K (late-2009) over a 7 year period, while paying a mortgage. Isn't going to happen.
But is it really a choice? Not everyone can be bankers earning £100Ks per year.
Using what exactly? At two points during the last 6 years, my parents have had to struggle by because dad has either not been able to work or has had no job through no fault of his own.
They were both on minimum wage before that happened and neither could (and still can't) to save anything.
*falls about laughing* Is that really how you think the world works?
That not everyone here deserved to go to university? That someone who needs help from the state simply hasn't grown up yet?
If you can't understand why what you are saying, in the context of this thread is going to be hurtful then I'm not sure you ever will.
But regardless, if you want this discussion please do it in the appropriate forum, we'll be removing anything else that isn't on topic.
That its always achieveable to get the job and earn the money you want, when it isnt.
If you are that misguided to not realise how you may have offended someone, I think you need to take a long look at yourself in the mirror.
How is it possible for everyone/anyone to be working for more than minimum wage?
Then i realised some cow had put a size 16 on a 14 hanger :crying: