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Re: Coping with Procrastination
Need a pep-talk to help you begin a task you're procrastinating? We've got you covered......
Okay, deep breath.
You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're not "bad at focusing."
You're a human—a very capable one, by the way—facing a hard thing. And sometimes the brain tries to protect you by pushing you toward comfort. That’s procrastination. But you know what?
You don’t need to finish everything today. You just need to start.
Start small. Really small.
Open the book. Type one sentence. Set a 5-minute timer. That’s all.
Because action creates momentum. And momentum? That’s your secret power!
The resistance you're feeling right now? That’s the sign you're close to something that matters. It means the task is worth doing.
You’ve done hard things before. You are so capable.
So let’s go. Not perfectly. Not all at once.
Because, this isn't about perfection.
This is about commitment.
To your goal. To your future self.
You’re not too late.
You’re not too far behind.
You’re exactly where you need to be—to begin.
Just forward.
One tiny, brave step at a time.
Okay, deep breath.
You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're not "bad at focusing."
You're a human—a very capable one, by the way—facing a hard thing. And sometimes the brain tries to protect you by pushing you toward comfort. That’s procrastination. But you know what?
You don’t need to finish everything today. You just need to start.
Start small. Really small.
Open the book. Type one sentence. Set a 5-minute timer. That’s all.
Because action creates momentum. And momentum? That’s your secret power!
The resistance you're feeling right now? That’s the sign you're close to something that matters. It means the task is worth doing.
You’ve done hard things before. You are so capable.
So let’s go. Not perfectly. Not all at once.
Because, this isn't about perfection.
This is about commitment.
To your goal. To your future self.
You’re not too late.
You’re not too far behind.
You’re exactly where you need to be—to begin.
Just forward.
One tiny, brave step at a time.
Sian321
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Re: changing doctors surgeries
Hey @shannon_164 , I just came across your post, and it sounds like you've really reached a point with your GP practise where you have had enough of feeling dismissed and you want something to change. That is so, so valid, and it sounds like you are being very proactive in looking for alternatives here and ways to recieve better care.
I have found the following link which walks you through the complaints procedure for GP practises in Northern Ireland if helpful: https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/how-complain-or-raise-concerns-about-health-services.
I have found the following link which walks you through the complaints procedure for GP practises in Northern Ireland if helpful: https://www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/how-complain-or-raise-concerns-about-health-services.
Sian321
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Re: im starting therapy 🥹
Ahhhh @eylah , I have the biggest smile on my face right now reading your post. This feels so positive, and I hear how its giving you hope. That's wonderful. And we'll be here for you as you begin your therapy journey!
Sian321
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Re: im starting therapy 🥹
@eylah Good job, we're all really happy for you!! And we will be here for you during your journey through dbt toooo
Leyla
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Re: Should I tell my GP or the nurse what's going on?
Hey @Lottie5433
I know how much you are debating this. It seems as if there's things in placee for you by having these checks to allow then to review and check how things are for you but at the same time you are feeling overwhelmed by it all. Am I right in understanding that yoy feel the less you'll disclose and "pretend things,are okay" the less apots that will then happen avoiding this overwhelm and constant checks? But also because your wiry if what next and that your less deserving. Firstly though you deserve support like everyone else!! You matter.
Please don't turn these people away, they are there to help you and I do think you have a good relationship with nurse and the ladt I messaged you the gp was okay as well, so pleas try not to turn them away, let thrm support you.
These symptoms your having, while it could be they go away as you feel like they may goubg by past, it's slwayd best to be open with then. What the symptoms you experiencing cannot be pleasant and so nebtion to get the support you need to aid in these symptoms getting better treated leaving it could create more discomfort which neither you or we want and impact on work and you life- which is important to you!
Know we care and you deserve support!!, 💛
I know how much you are debating this. It seems as if there's things in placee for you by having these checks to allow then to review and check how things are for you but at the same time you are feeling overwhelmed by it all. Am I right in understanding that yoy feel the less you'll disclose and "pretend things,are okay" the less apots that will then happen avoiding this overwhelm and constant checks? But also because your wiry if what next and that your less deserving. Firstly though you deserve support like everyone else!! You matter.
Please don't turn these people away, they are there to help you and I do think you have a good relationship with nurse and the ladt I messaged you the gp was okay as well, so pleas try not to turn them away, let thrm support you.
These symptoms your having, while it could be they go away as you feel like they may goubg by past, it's slwayd best to be open with then. What the symptoms you experiencing cannot be pleasant and so nebtion to get the support you need to aid in these symptoms getting better treated leaving it could create more discomfort which neither you or we want and impact on work and you life- which is important to you!
Know we care and you deserve support!!, 💛
Re: college
Hey Shannon,
This sounds really positive, I'm so glad that you are liking the vibe of the new collage and that the lady you met today was lovely! You seem to be taking some really pro-active steps to ensure you are getting the support you deserve.
It is also equally valid to feel anxious about transferring to a new college. It can feel scary going to a different collage, especially with the difficulties that you have expressed with your current collage, it is natural to feel anxious. I hear your anxiety around not being able to choose you placement, I'm curious to know if you feel you could express this anxiety with the collage and explore how they could support you? And how are feeling about all of this now?
Take care,
Lily and The Mix Team
This sounds really positive, I'm so glad that you are liking the vibe of the new collage and that the lady you met today was lovely! You seem to be taking some really pro-active steps to ensure you are getting the support you deserve.
It is also equally valid to feel anxious about transferring to a new college. It can feel scary going to a different collage, especially with the difficulties that you have expressed with your current collage, it is natural to feel anxious. I hear your anxiety around not being able to choose you placement, I'm curious to know if you feel you could express this anxiety with the collage and explore how they could support you? And how are feeling about all of this now?
Take care,
Lily and The Mix Team
Lily
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Re: changing doctors surgeries
@shannon_164 Hey, I get why you’ve had enough it sounds really frustrating. Since you’re in Northern Ireland, maybe try contacting the Health and Social Care Board or your local Trust they can sometimes assign you to a different GP outside your area if there are exceptional circumstances. It’s worth explaining your situation to them. Hope things get better soon ❤️
