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Re: mock exam

@toffuna101 i wish you luck, you’ve got this

stardust444

Re: Why me.

Animalloverb wrote: »

I broke down today which was awful, I really hate when it happens. I hate crying. I broke down in tears and couldn't calm down. It was awful.

@Animalloverb it's human to break down. What you've been through and are struggling through is horrific, and whilst it's difficult to break down and cry, it's also important that you let yourself feel what you are feeling. You aren't a robot, you need to be able to express those emotions somehow rather than just stoically bottling things up, which never works well long term.

I wish i could give you some better advice than that mate.

Nathan

Re: account deletion

@shannon_164 gonna miss you a lot and want you to promise you'll take care of yourself, and for you to know your deserving of the same kindness you give others. You're an angel of a person, don't ever forget it.

Nathan

Re: account deletion

Awww @shannon_164 i hope you’re ok. Thank you for being so lovely. I’ll miss you. Take lots of care

AnonymousToe

Re: account deletion

@shannon_164 I hope you're doing ok. You are such a kind person and I know I haven't been on the mix for that long but your comments have meant so much to me, thank you so much for them, I really can't tell you how much your kindness has meant to me even though I haven't been here long, and I'm sure many others as well. I'm going to miss you, please take care, you deserve so much kindness. I understand you may not want to be on The Mix anymore, but the community is always here for you, and please don't forget how much you matter, you deserve the same kindness you have given to everyone here. I'm wishing you all the best @shannon_164, and once again please do take good care

Jack25

Re: Why me.

I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling like this @Animalloverb, you deserve to feel supported and loved. We're all here to listen and support you in any way we can

63marie

Re: Why me.

Just want to also say you don't deserve the hard things you're going through. You are such an amazing and incredible person who deserves nothing but happiness and good vibes.

Sending you the biggest of hugs @Animalloverb

sinead276

Re: Can't comment in Ghostly Gatherings

Hey @sinead276 ! Very strange - I have had a little look and don't see anything wrong in the settings, I tried resetting a couple of things so maybe now try to sign out and in again, and see if anything has been fixed? If not then I can raise it to the tech team!

Leyla

📆 Weekly Schedule w/c 13.10

Hey there folks,

Here is this week's schedule which outlines all the different support activities we've got on this week. We'll aim to post these schedules every Monday.

Disclaimer: These are also subject to change based on mod and supervisor availability. If we make any changes, this post will be updated ASAP.

Note: To access our chats please head here, and to access our threads they happen right here on the boards!

Monday: Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4.30pm) and JD-Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Tuesday: Support Chat and Support Circle (8pm-9:30pm)
Wednesday:General Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Thursday: Support Chat (8pm-9:30pm)
Friday: Afternoon Support Chat (1:30pm-3pm)
Saturday: Saturday Topic Thread on Conflict, Arguments, and Resolutions(3:30pm-5pm)
Sunday: Sunday Support Thread (11am-12:30pm) and Afternoon General Chat (3pm-4:30pm)

Leyla

Re: Breakup

LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »

i even feel quilty for actually relaxing and not worrying about the thoughts but as i spoke to him not long ago he doesn't care about me anymore but i always feel quilty

@LolaPumpkin13 It's okay to feel guilty. Sometimes, guilt is okay to have. Not everything was perfect, yes could have done things better in the relationship. everybody in life could have done things better. It's okay to feel guilt over things. But you shouldn't feel guilty for relaxing and not worrying anymore. That's called moving forward and trying to move on, and most importantly, looking after yourself, which should be number 1 priority.

And it's completely normal as well to have thoughts that scare you and make you question how you feel. But i will just remind you that you actively tried to get support when you were in the relationship, actively tried to research why you were feeling the ways you were, and were open and honest. If you didn't love them, why would you put all that effort in? Also, why would you feel guilt if you didn't love them. Fleeting thoughts and fears, don't always reflect reality. If that makes sense?

Right now, letting yourself enjoy your game, distracting yourself, and giving yourself a break from worrying is the single best thing you can do for your mental health. You are doing the best you can, you are taking efforts to see a GP to talk about things and possibly get CMHT's support, so well done.

Nathan