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Re: Q&A with Kate - a counsellor at The Mix
independent_ wrote: »What should you do if your school aren’t taking action on bullying? My old school were terrible for this, you’d report bullying and nothing would be done. It happened to my sister and it happened to many of my friends.
Thank you, independent, for your post. Being in an unsupportive environment is demotivating and demoralising. One of the first things we are told, when confronted with bullying, is to tell someone of responsibility, someone who can make a change. If, when we do this, nothing changes, we start to lose faith in the systems that are in place to support us.
Alongside offering support for those suffering the bullying (directing them to services such as The Mix, Childline, Kidscape) it could be a case of investigating beyond the school. According to the government's website (search: bullying at school government) all state schools should have a policy in place for preventing bullying. Should it be experienced that the policy is not being implemented, you can contact the Department for Education, or Ofsted.
It may not be an easy step to take, however for schools to be effective in their role of educating members of our society, they need to be safe places for all of us.
I do hope that your sister and your friends received, or are receiving, the support that they need.
Re: Q&A with Kate - a counsellor at The Mix
What would you suggest someone did if bullying was happening within their friendship group? Especially if the person who was being bullied didn't recognise it as bullying?
Thank you, Emma, for your post. Friendship groups can provide such incredible support and sense of belonging. However, they can provide the absolute opposite, and cause such hurt and feelings of isolation and exclusion.
Should this situation be taking place in a school setting, I wonder if maybe a teacher could be informed (anonymously) who could then offer a mini-lesson to the class discussing what a good friend is. Kidscape has a page on defining what a good friend is.
It could be that some of us have never had experience of a positive relationship, and have not developed the self-belief and respect needed for demanding a positive friendship. Through demonstrating and supporting those offering such a friendship, we can lead by example and show others how to be a good friend.
I do hope that this person learns the true value of friendship and the wonderful qualities that a good friend can bring into their life.
https://youtu.be/81QqHUpyBhgRe: What are you listening to right now?
More of the happy cheesy 90s buzz
Guaranteed to make you fall in love (with the piano)
https://youtu.be/JIXnAmHXADk
Guaranteed to make you fall in love (with the piano)
https://youtu.be/JIXnAmHXADk
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Re: What are you listening to right now?
This is what I used to last to as a teenager. Feel good, happy , cheesy music.
It’s a bit special. “You’ll be in my dreams tonight”
Sub Ace & Aura - My Dreams
https://youtu.be/EkPIqiy2a5M
It’s a bit special. “You’ll be in my dreams tonight”
Sub Ace & Aura - My Dreams
https://youtu.be/EkPIqiy2a5MSkive
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Re: Q&A with Kate - a counsellor at The Mix
What should you do if your school aren’t taking action on bullying? My old school were terrible for this, you’d report bullying and nothing would be done. It happened to my sister and it happened to many of my friends.
Re: Do I have feelings for them
This sounds like a really difficult situation to be in @villanelle and I just want to say it's very brave of you for putting your feelings into words and talking about what you're going through here. 
It's always really confusing when you realise you might have feelings for someone you're friends with, like you mentioned there's always the fear that things will change or your friend might not feel the same way.
In my experience it's always been best to open up and be honest with people, even if it's scary or it changes things getting those things off your chest can be a huge relief. You might find that talking through these things helps you figure out how you're feeling and might even help your friend in the same way!
But at the end of the day it's your life and your decision one way or the other, I hope you feel able to keep us all updated with how things go for you from here.
It's always really confusing when you realise you might have feelings for someone you're friends with, like you mentioned there's always the fear that things will change or your friend might not feel the same way.In my experience it's always been best to open up and be honest with people, even if it's scary or it changes things getting those things off your chest can be a huge relief. You might find that talking through these things helps you figure out how you're feeling and might even help your friend in the same way!
But at the end of the day it's your life and your decision one way or the other, I hope you feel able to keep us all updated with how things go for you from here.
Re: Archived tutorial convo
Hunnbadger wrote: »I’m getting very angry now. How do I get to the discussion boards. I was told to go there to talk to someone and I can’t find a regular chat or soemthing.
Hiya @Hunnbadger you're on the discussion boards just now, welcome!! Elle here, I think I know you from chat. If you go to https://community.themix.org.uk/discussions you'll be able to see all the threads that are active at the moment. Or the 'whats new' button or 'recent discussions' will take you to the same place
https://youtu.be/AQhN4OKENFI