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Anxiety experience
Hey everyone. I've struggled with my anxiety for the past few years. At my worst - i could barely leave the house and would calculate how long it would take me to do daily errands. For example, needing to post a parcel at the post office. i would mentally calculate how long it would take me to walk to the post office, how long i could possibly be in the post office and then how long the walk back home would take me. Eventually convince myself to leave the house, so ... coat on, shoes on. and then i would look in the mirror and not be able to leave the house. It was such a dark and frustrating time for me as i was suffering with low self esteem.
Along this journey, i have learnt some tricks that help me deal with my anxiety and thought id share my experience and tips i've learnt for anyone else struggling.
1. MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY
Sometimes life can be so serious - soemtimes too serious. To eliminate that doom and gloom but i used to sometimes pretend that my life is a game, just to take the seriousness of everything away. I am the main character in my favourite show called MY LIFE. and once, im in this mode that its a game, if i make a mistake i can TRY AGAIN this immensely helped me. it did alleviate a lot of anxiety, fear pent up inside of me. and its just a fun way to release negative thoughts
2. SHARING MY THOUGHTS
It can be an extremely isolating experience so speaking about it with friends and family did help and took the pressure off me having to 'pretend' like everything is fine when in my mind i was freaking out
3. SPEAKING TO GP
GP have access to a wealth of resources such as counselling, useful websites. Everyone has different needs but i just think discussing with GP is important.
If anyone has any anxiety experiences or tips/tricks which have helped them please feel free to share
i'm interested to know and learn lots of love
Along this journey, i have learnt some tricks that help me deal with my anxiety and thought id share my experience and tips i've learnt for anyone else struggling.
1. MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY
Sometimes life can be so serious - soemtimes too serious. To eliminate that doom and gloom but i used to sometimes pretend that my life is a game, just to take the seriousness of everything away. I am the main character in my favourite show called MY LIFE. and once, im in this mode that its a game, if i make a mistake i can TRY AGAIN this immensely helped me. it did alleviate a lot of anxiety, fear pent up inside of me. and its just a fun way to release negative thoughts
2. SHARING MY THOUGHTS
It can be an extremely isolating experience so speaking about it with friends and family did help and took the pressure off me having to 'pretend' like everything is fine when in my mind i was freaking out
3. SPEAKING TO GP
GP have access to a wealth of resources such as counselling, useful websites. Everyone has different needs but i just think discussing with GP is important.
If anyone has any anxiety experiences or tips/tricks which have helped them please feel free to share
i'm interested to know and learn lots of love 
Re: The Need and Want Dilemma
Gosh, I cannot begin to express how thankful I am that you have shared your story and situation with us, I cannot imagine that this was easy. You sound like such a sincerely compassionate person who deserves so much love, especially given that you're clearly putting so much love out into the world.
The fact that you were so willing to give him time, and that within that you could so clearly see how none of this changes the beautiful moments. You are beyond right about how relationships are about more than merely the 'stereotypical good times' and that it's made up of all the parts.
Once again, thank you and I wish you the utmost happiness, honestly
The fact that you were so willing to give him time, and that within that you could so clearly see how none of this changes the beautiful moments. You are beyond right about how relationships are about more than merely the 'stereotypical good times' and that it's made up of all the parts.
Once again, thank you and I wish you the utmost happiness, honestly
Re: Help me
Hi @Shaunie
Sorry to hear you are struggling. Would you like to talk about why you are feeling this way?
If you or anyone else has been affected by any of the topics discussed here, please feel free to contact Samaritans or Papyrus. I have listed their contact below in case anyone benefits from this.
Samaritans (24/7):
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight)
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Hope you are feeling better soon
Sorry to hear you are struggling. Would you like to talk about why you are feeling this way?
If you or anyone else has been affected by any of the topics discussed here, please feel free to contact Samaritans or Papyrus. I have listed their contact below in case anyone benefits from this.
Samaritans (24/7):
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight)
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Hope you are feeling better soon
Re: If you could have any power (superpower or otherwise) what would you choose and why?
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Re: The Mix's free elearning courses
Nope! If you're old enough to be a member here, you're old enough to take the courses.@Kasa2103 said:Am I too young to do these? I know that the consent one is not exactly appropriate for people my age.
Up to you if you're not comfortable doing the consent one, though. Totally understandable if so!
JustV
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Re: What does it mean to not feel your gender?
This is an interesting discussion. Personally, I do believe that sex and gender are different things and that gender is largely a product of what society expects a boy or girl to be like.
I think not feeling like a girl, not feeling like your gender, mainly means not feeling like you are what society expects a girl to be like. I do think that there are some people who are less concerned with societal expectations and are more concerned with their own bodies- for example, a girl feeling that having periods and breasts is wrong to them.
I've never been 'girly' but I also agree that it is really difficult to define what 'feeling a girl' actually feels like. We all experience our sex/gender differently and it depends on so many different variables- from how we feel to our life experiences, both good and bad.
I watched an interesting documentary by Louis Theroux on transgender kids. It was difficult to say whether it was parent or child led, though it did look like some, not all, parents seem to take that if their son wanted to wear dresses then they were trans. They don't seem to think that maybe he just liked the feel of a dress (spinning around in it) or that they liked the colours of the dress (sparkly). I don't believe that such things would make a child trans.
Also, there is an overlap between being autistic and feeling like you don't belong or don't match your gender and being transgender. The problem is when autism is undiagnosed and someone thinks that because they don't feel like their gender, then they must be trans. When that's not necessarily true. That's not to say that all autistic people are trans or all trans people are autistic or that there are no trans people. Just that it's quite a complex and emotive subject. I definitely agree with letting kids be kids!
I think not feeling like a girl, not feeling like your gender, mainly means not feeling like you are what society expects a girl to be like. I do think that there are some people who are less concerned with societal expectations and are more concerned with their own bodies- for example, a girl feeling that having periods and breasts is wrong to them.
I've never been 'girly' but I also agree that it is really difficult to define what 'feeling a girl' actually feels like. We all experience our sex/gender differently and it depends on so many different variables- from how we feel to our life experiences, both good and bad.
I watched an interesting documentary by Louis Theroux on transgender kids. It was difficult to say whether it was parent or child led, though it did look like some, not all, parents seem to take that if their son wanted to wear dresses then they were trans. They don't seem to think that maybe he just liked the feel of a dress (spinning around in it) or that they liked the colours of the dress (sparkly). I don't believe that such things would make a child trans.
Also, there is an overlap between being autistic and feeling like you don't belong or don't match your gender and being transgender. The problem is when autism is undiagnosed and someone thinks that because they don't feel like their gender, then they must be trans. When that's not necessarily true. That's not to say that all autistic people are trans or all trans people are autistic or that there are no trans people. Just that it's quite a complex and emotive subject. I definitely agree with letting kids be kids!
Maisy
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