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July 2025 achievements!
Happy August everyone! 
So sorry that this is a little late — but I’d really love to hear anything you’ve done in July that you’re proud of! As always, feel free to write down as many achievements as you wish
Here are my achievements:
- I graduated!
- I replied more to my friends and opened up to them a bit more about how I’m really feeling
- Had a job interview, and although I didn’t get the job in the end, the employers told me that I was part of the 4 that got shortlisted for the interview out of 26 applicants, which I’m extremely proud of!
Well done for getting through July everyone! Hope you all have a lovely August
So sorry that this is a little late — but I’d really love to hear anything you’ve done in July that you’re proud of! As always, feel free to write down as many achievements as you wish
Here are my achievements:
- I graduated!
- I replied more to my friends and opened up to them a bit more about how I’m really feeling
- Had a job interview, and although I didn’t get the job in the end, the employers told me that I was part of the 4 that got shortlisted for the interview out of 26 applicants, which I’m extremely proud of!
Well done for getting through July everyone! Hope you all have a lovely August
kaii
5
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 04.08
I guess even tho I've left i just needed to put this somewhere and I didnt want a massive thing or a massive post etc so here it is i guess...two cancer/loss
I found out last night that my Oma (i call her that as its grandma in german and she lives in germany) has cancer. They found 3 tumors on her brain and 2 on her lungs and they're inoperable. Shes really not well and its stage 3 but progressing rapidly so basically she doesnt have long left at all. Its just hard because like although she lives in germany and ive not seen her for years it still just makes my heart ache because all the memories are coming up that we did make with her in germany and like we arent going to get to see her to say goodbye nor go to her funerala once she passes and i dont know. I guess its also bringing up things like how much loss I've had since 2022. It feels like once I lost my stepmom its just never stopped. My stepmom, cat, nan, friend, other cat, aunt, Nora (dog) and now it's going to be my Oma. Like im still not over losing Nora. It's just not stopping
My sister is also blaming me about my oma having cancer saying that I jinxed it and manifested it all because I had camhs yesterday morning and i said id spoken about how we have had too much loss and rhat i didnt want anymore and like even tho i know it physically cant be my fault it still hurts coming from my sister
My sister is also blaming me about my oma having cancer saying that I jinxed it and manifested it all because I had camhs yesterday morning and i said id spoken about how we have had too much loss and rhat i didnt want anymore and like even tho i know it physically cant be my fault it still hurts coming from my sister
Chloe234
5
Summer holidays and home...
This time of year has come and I hate it! It just seemd to be gettibg harder each time... i can't cope!!! Im literally crying 😢 😭 please....
Dad's at home from work. Mum dad argued yesterday badly, mum was therr crying dad just went to temple.
Today mum feels like she looks ugly, fat etc.. dad's re ebforced that. Mum said you alwaysput me doenfl domt support me , dad starts swearing, spamming furniture etc... . said to mum you need to control, and gave example of someone lost weight through weights loss shakes/meds by docs, nums lke well I dont have that, I'll stop eating. She's now over exercising up to point where's she's aching in pain and feeling sick dad's tjerr laughing at her! Seriously! Im scared 😱!
No ome helps, dad just makes the situation worse.
Dad's at home from work. Mum dad argued yesterday badly, mum was therr crying dad just went to temple.
Today mum feels like she looks ugly, fat etc.. dad's re ebforced that. Mum said you alwaysput me doenfl domt support me , dad starts swearing, spamming furniture etc... . said to mum you need to control, and gave example of someone lost weight through weights loss shakes/meds by docs, nums lke well I dont have that, I'll stop eating. She's now over exercising up to point where's she's aching in pain and feeling sick dad's tjerr laughing at her! Seriously! Im scared 😱!
No ome helps, dad just makes the situation worse.
Ranting sorry.
I am still really fustrated that I am on a fine line to loosing one of my jobs, i keep trying to think of what I have done for this to happen, I am probably one of the most hard working staff there, I even turn up after having medical episodes and do my job as if nothing ever happened.
Going to these meetings all the time to help change things for young people in the future, regarding 2 different topics. It's hard work and some of these meetings have personally got to me but I just move on as I am doing this for a reason.
I have actually been feeling awful, my dizzy spells are still really attacking me at the moment, I am doing everything I can to try and get them to stop but I still get them and it's actually really annoying.
I am currently also looking out for someone at the moment as their mental health isn't the greatest right now.
To be honest I am part of the reason.
I also have not been able to regulate my emotions that well at the moment which is awful as I hate feeling out of control.
I am still failing at life which isn't fun.
My PTSD has also been attacking me at night lately which isn't that big of a problem as I don't sleep anyway but having the moments awake with my PTSD at it's worse is not great.
I'm also feeling like absolute crap because I have been told I need to take breaks from the gym which I absolutely do not want to do as its not going to help anything at all.
Going to these meetings all the time to help change things for young people in the future, regarding 2 different topics. It's hard work and some of these meetings have personally got to me but I just move on as I am doing this for a reason.
I have actually been feeling awful, my dizzy spells are still really attacking me at the moment, I am doing everything I can to try and get them to stop but I still get them and it's actually really annoying.
I am currently also looking out for someone at the moment as their mental health isn't the greatest right now.
To be honest I am part of the reason.
I also have not been able to regulate my emotions that well at the moment which is awful as I hate feeling out of control.
I am still failing at life which isn't fun.
My PTSD has also been attacking me at night lately which isn't that big of a problem as I don't sleep anyway but having the moments awake with my PTSD at it's worse is not great.
I'm also feeling like absolute crap because I have been told I need to take breaks from the gym which I absolutely do not want to do as its not going to help anything at all.
I fucking give up
This shit ain’t Aimed at the mix!!!
If people just want me fucking gone why can’t they just say why drive me away and push me out, I can’t fucking stand it so I’m done I lost my ability to fight so people can be happy because I’m out. I’m just going to shut the world out I can’t deal with it anymore I got to much crap I don’t need people adding to it when I’m fucking trying my hardest. Sorry I have bad days and can’t just fucking be cured to be able to help others sorry I’m fucking human.
If people just want me fucking gone why can’t they just say why drive me away and push me out, I can’t fucking stand it so I’m done I lost my ability to fight so people can be happy because I’m out. I’m just going to shut the world out I can’t deal with it anymore I got to much crap I don’t need people adding to it when I’m fucking trying my hardest. Sorry I have bad days and can’t just fucking be cured to be able to help others sorry I’m fucking human.
River
5
Re: Updated Community Guidelines (Please read!)
I was also going to ask what exactly has changed. A summary of the specific changes would be really helpful, I see there’s new bits been added about DMs but it would be handy to know what specifically has changed from before
Edit: having another look, this looks pretty much like the unwritten rules have simply been written down. There are sections added about discussions of sex, alcohol etc, which were already guidelines, but you had to have been around for a while (or have broken them by accident) to know they were guidelines.
I see also that multiple accounts are no longer permitted under any circumstances. I think before they were allowed with approval for posts which could be sensitive in nature. If it’s been approved and the community team are aware of it, I don’t see how this has a major impact on safeguarding - if it’s known who’s account it is, surely it’s the same whichever account they’re using?
Second edit (I will stop after this i promise) if you’re not allowed to use the community while impaired by alcohol, i feel a similar statement should be added in the section below on drugs. At least the illegal ones, because they can change your behaviour even more than alcohol can so could be even more of a risk than being drunk.
Third edit (i know I’ve already broken the promise) might also be worth adding some clarification that you can’t directly DM the staff team on here unless they DM you first. At least for new users, they might try to DM before a thread is set up and feel confused as to why they aren’t able to.
Edit: having another look, this looks pretty much like the unwritten rules have simply been written down. There are sections added about discussions of sex, alcohol etc, which were already guidelines, but you had to have been around for a while (or have broken them by accident) to know they were guidelines.
I see also that multiple accounts are no longer permitted under any circumstances. I think before they were allowed with approval for posts which could be sensitive in nature. If it’s been approved and the community team are aware of it, I don’t see how this has a major impact on safeguarding - if it’s known who’s account it is, surely it’s the same whichever account they’re using?
Second edit (I will stop after this i promise) if you’re not allowed to use the community while impaired by alcohol, i feel a similar statement should be added in the section below on drugs. At least the illegal ones, because they can change your behaviour even more than alcohol can so could be even more of a risk than being drunk.
Third edit (i know I’ve already broken the promise) might also be worth adding some clarification that you can’t directly DM the staff team on here unless they DM you first. At least for new users, they might try to DM before a thread is set up and feel confused as to why they aren’t able to.
coping techniques for when you may need them. 💞
i hope when you’re needing ideas to help yourself in the moment that this post helps you. remember. never give up and keep going! you got this ❤️🩹
grounding techniques:
- take a bath or shower ( use your favourite shampoo or shower gel! )
- read write draw or paint!
- go take a walk surround yourself with nature and fresh air!
- 5-4-3-2-1 Technique ( 5 things you can see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.)
- hug or scream into a pillow!
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distraction techniques:
- watch a movie
- art or music!
- write a poem or write a story! ( or write down your thoughts )!
- scribble down on paper the emotions you’re currently feeling/experiencing.
- draw a picture or colour in a drawing!
- paint an art piece!
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calming techniques
- meditation or try breathing exercises like box breathing!
- hug a friend or family member!
- write a letter to someone!
- meet up with a friend or family member!
try muscle relaxation, ( try tensing your fists and then relaxing them! )
- positive self talk ( try challenging your negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations)
- social support ( talk to trusted friends or family )
- self compassion ( treating yourself with kindness and understanding yourself during difficult times. )
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self care techniques:
paint your nails ( or get them professionally done!)
do your makeup
do your hair ( Maybe do a different style you’ve never tried )
have a warm bath ( and have some bath salts or bath soother in the bath!)
have a snack and some water! ( hydration is key!)
pls know im here for you all. you’re not alone.
grounding techniques:
- take a bath or shower ( use your favourite shampoo or shower gel! )
- read write draw or paint!
- go take a walk surround yourself with nature and fresh air!
- 5-4-3-2-1 Technique ( 5 things you can see 4 things you can touch 3 things you can hear 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.)
- hug or scream into a pillow!
——————————————————————
distraction techniques:
- watch a movie
- art or music!
- write a poem or write a story! ( or write down your thoughts )!
- scribble down on paper the emotions you’re currently feeling/experiencing.
- draw a picture or colour in a drawing!
- paint an art piece!
——————————————————————————
calming techniques
- meditation or try breathing exercises like box breathing!
- hug a friend or family member!
- write a letter to someone!
- meet up with a friend or family member!
try muscle relaxation, ( try tensing your fists and then relaxing them! )
- positive self talk ( try challenging your negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations)
- social support ( talk to trusted friends or family )
- self compassion ( treating yourself with kindness and understanding yourself during difficult times. )
———————————————————————————
self care techniques:
paint your nails ( or get them professionally done!)
do your makeup
do your hair ( Maybe do a different style you’ve never tried )
have a warm bath ( and have some bath salts or bath soother in the bath!)
have a snack and some water! ( hydration is key!)
pls know im here for you all. you’re not alone
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eylah
5
I feel lost in life
Im nearly 24 still live at home no job still reliant on parents I know it’s not the best and need to change and trying to its just hard im just looking for a daytime job I can manage. I don’t have the money to move out, Im currently trying to diffrent thing to get a job. I should be working at this age, I should be working full time like every other adult. I just am trying to sort it all out but I get hopeless sometimes, I have been an adult for a while now. Ive been trying for such a long time but not getting there yet.
Rant on creativity and my lack of it
So lately I want to get into colouring again and doing art like I used to. But I feel bad when I have to use tutorials to help me eventhough I'm aware that's what they're for. I used to reference things including artwork all the time because of my old to the point it restricted my routine. I'm on medication for my OCD and anxiety, I'm on a double dose of fluoxetine. It helps but I don't think it fully removes all of my worries. I gate having a brain that is always switched on, there's no off button for me at all. I try to relax but I can't.
So this is going to sound down right silly but the other day I had a thought that I needed to double check I referenced a youtuber colour with Claire who coloured in a book and I think I followed it for how to colour water as well as Johannesburg Basford but I can't remember now. So the other day I double checked twice. But now my brain wants me to constantly double check everything again I'm scared I'm going back to square one all over again and I've made no improvements. I've talked to my parents about it and they have been supporting me, it's just I feel like im having a low moment right now you know.
Right now I want to double check but I'm telling myself not too in the hopes my grain gets bored and gives up. Sorry for wasting time as usual I should be more worried about what's happening in the world yet I'm worried about tge tiniest tiny things I've done.
So this is going to sound down right silly but the other day I had a thought that I needed to double check I referenced a youtuber colour with Claire who coloured in a book and I think I followed it for how to colour water as well as Johannesburg Basford but I can't remember now. So the other day I double checked twice. But now my brain wants me to constantly double check everything again I'm scared I'm going back to square one all over again and I've made no improvements. I've talked to my parents about it and they have been supporting me, it's just I feel like im having a low moment right now you know.
Right now I want to double check but I'm telling myself not too in the hopes my grain gets bored and gives up. Sorry for wasting time as usual I should be more worried about what's happening in the world yet I'm worried about tge tiniest tiny things I've done.
Amy22
5