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Getting doubted
People have started criticizing me again. I thought it had eased off a few weeks ago, but the situation has escalated once more. I am still not where I want to be, and on top of that, people keep judging me, comparing themselves to me, telling me what I should have done, and expressing doubt about me. I really hate being doubted and criticized. It makes everything feel heavier. Today, some comments were said to me that brought dark thoughts into my mind, even if only for a short while. I have been feeling like this for so long, dealing with the same thoughts over and over, trying to hold on, but when I keep getting comments, doubt, and criticism from others on top of my own self doubt, it is so hard. I do not feel supported, and there are not many people I can turn to. Most of my days are spent at home, leaving me mentally and physically drained from it as it is. I know I am on my own path, but it often feels like everything I do fails. I have been trying small changes like reducing screen time, being more assertive, avoiding overthinking, and actively looking for work. Despite setbacks, I am persisting and looking for a breakthrough, even though nothing I have tried so far has worked out as I had hoped.
Feeling Alone During Christmas
As Christmas is coming up, I just wanted to remind people that you aren’t alone if you find this period hard. Christmas and the festive period often seem like a happy time on the surface, but I get that it isn’t always like that for all of us. I can relate myself, as I also find it difficult at times.
Christmas can be tough for many reasons. It can be hard seeing families getting together, dealing with money worries, loneliness, the cold weather and dark days, or even the end of the year and a new one approaching. It can also feel like time just flies past, and we might find ourselves thinking, “It’s Christmas already?” We might also find ourselves comparing our lives and families to others who seem happier, have bigger get-togethers, appear closer, or are more financially better off, and that can make things feel even heavier. It’s okay to have these thoughts and feelings.
For some of us, it can feel like another year has gone by where we’ve failed again, and we start questioning whether we’ve achieved enough or where the year has gone. I know that feeling myself, and I understand it actually can be common.
I just want to remind you that it’s absolutely okay to feel like this. Acknowledging that you’re not okay, or that the festive period is difficult for you, doesn’t make you weak. If anything, it takes strength to recognise it.
Most importantly, you’re not alone in feeling this way, even if it feels like it right now. To anyone struggling, you’ve been brave to get through another year and you should be so proud of yourselves. It does get better.
Here is some mental health support services for you all if you need:
Christmas can be tough for many reasons. It can be hard seeing families getting together, dealing with money worries, loneliness, the cold weather and dark days, or even the end of the year and a new one approaching. It can also feel like time just flies past, and we might find ourselves thinking, “It’s Christmas already?” We might also find ourselves comparing our lives and families to others who seem happier, have bigger get-togethers, appear closer, or are more financially better off, and that can make things feel even heavier. It’s okay to have these thoughts and feelings.
For some of us, it can feel like another year has gone by where we’ve failed again, and we start questioning whether we’ve achieved enough or where the year has gone. I know that feeling myself, and I understand it actually can be common.
I just want to remind you that it’s absolutely okay to feel like this. Acknowledging that you’re not okay, or that the festive period is difficult for you, doesn’t make you weak. If anything, it takes strength to recognise it.
Most importantly, you’re not alone in feeling this way, even if it feels like it right now. To anyone struggling, you’ve been brave to get through another year and you should be so proud of yourselves. It does get better.
Here is some mental health support services for you all if you need:
https://kellysheroes.org.uk/ – Normally open 6 pm–10 pm Monday to Friday, and 6 pm–11 pm on weekends.
https://knus.io/ – Peer-to-peer support service. Someone will set you up with a peer, and chats are done through WhatsApp.
Shout – Text messaging service, open 24 hours. At night it can take a while to get through. Text 85258.
Phone service / Samaritans – Call 116 123. They also have a text service, but it only works for some: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
https://www.thecalmzone.net/get-support?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23334298930&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIx-aIycy6kQMVK5hQBh0pshfHEAAYAiAAEgL4CPD_BwE – Open 5 pm–12 am
https://www.papyrus-uk.org/contact-us/ – Open 24/7
For people under 19s: https://www.childline.org.uk/
https://knus.io/ – Peer-to-peer support service. Someone will set you up with a peer, and chats are done through WhatsApp.
Shout – Text messaging service, open 24 hours. At night it can take a while to get through. Text 85258.
Phone service / Samaritans – Call 116 123. They also have a text service, but it only works for some: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/
https://www.thecalmzone.net/get-support?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23334298930&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIx-aIycy6kQMVK5hQBh0pshfHEAAYAiAAEgL4CPD_BwE – Open 5 pm–12 am
https://www.papyrus-uk.org/contact-us/ – Open 24/7
For people under 19s: https://www.childline.org.uk/
Re: Christmas Gift Ideas
I love this! As someone yet to finish my christmas shopping I needed to read this lol
If you’re buying for any kids and don’t know what’s “in” at the moment, think about puzzles. I’m getting my 10 year old niece a Rubik’s cube. Makeup is good for a lot of teenage girls, and chocolate is good for anybody.
If the person is an adult and you know for sure they drink alcohol, a nice bottle also usually goes down well.
If you’re buying for any kids and don’t know what’s “in” at the moment, think about puzzles. I’m getting my 10 year old niece a Rubik’s cube. Makeup is good for a lot of teenage girls, and chocolate is good for anybody.
If the person is an adult and you know for sure they drink alcohol, a nice bottle also usually goes down well.
Christmas Gift Ideas
As Christmas is getting closer, I thought I’d start a thread to share some gift ideas. I’ve had a few in mind and wanted to post them here — feel free to add your own suggestions too! Hopefully this helps anyone who’s stuck on what to buy this year.
🎮 Tech & Gadgets (reasonably budget-priced options)
• Nintendo Switch – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7129874
• JBL Speaker – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4637754
• Samsung A17 – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7716452
• Asus Laptop – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7637696
• Sony Headphones – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1993312
🎮 Games & Gaming Gifts
• JBL Speaker – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/4637754
• Samsung A17 – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7716452
• Asus Laptop – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7637696
• Sony Headphones – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1993312
• EA FC 26 (PS5) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706929
• EA FC 26 (Xbox Series X) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706967
• EA FC 26 (PS4) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706943
• EA FC 26 (Xbox One) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706936
• EA FC 26 (Nintendo Switch) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706950
• PlayStation Gift Card – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1359042
• GTA 5 – still a great pick if they haven’t played it yet
• GTA 6 is scheduled for release on 19 November 2026, so GTA 5 remains a solid gift
• Assassin's Creed Shadows
• Hogwarts Legacy
• The Outer Worlds 2
• Call of Duty: Black Ops 7
• Ghost of Yōtei
• Sonic Racing: CrossWorlds
• Super Mario Party Jamboree
🍫 Sweets & Chocolates
• EA FC 26 (Xbox Series X) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706967
• EA FC 26 (PS4) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706943
• EA FC 26 (Xbox One) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706936
• EA FC 26 (Nintendo Switch) – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/7706950
• PlayStation Gift Card – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1359042
• GTA 5 – still a great pick if they haven’t played it yet
• GTA 6 is scheduled for release on 19 November 2026, so GTA 5 remains a solid gift
• Assassin's Creed Shadows
• Hogwarts Legacy
• The Outer Worlds 2
• Call of Duty: Black Ops 7
• Ghost of Yōtei
• Sonic Racing: CrossWorlds
• Super Mario Party Jamboree
⚠️ Allergy reminder: Selection boxes may contain nuts, dairy, gluten or traces of allergens. Always check ingredients if you’re unsure.
• Cadbury Roses 700g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/cadbury-roses-chocolate-tin-700g/9003873
• Haribo Selection Box 182g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/food-to-order-2/haribo-selection-box-182g/9003936
• Aero Festive Selection Box 360g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/aero-festive-chocolate-selection-box-360g/9298564
• Cadbury Heroes 550g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/cadbury-heroes-chocolate-tub-550-g/9003840
• Quality Street 550g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/quality-street-chocolate-tub-550g/9307155
• Celebrations 500g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/celebrations-milk-chocolate-tub-500g/9293028
🎁 Extra Gift Ideas (affordable, practical & trusted stores)
• Cadbury Roses 700g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/cadbury-roses-chocolate-tin-700g/9003873
• Haribo Selection Box 182g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/food-to-order-2/haribo-selection-box-182g/9003936
• Aero Festive Selection Box 360g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/aero-festive-chocolate-selection-box-360g/9298564
• Cadbury Heroes 550g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/cadbury-heroes-chocolate-tub-550-g/9003840
• Quality Street 550g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/quality-street-chocolate-tub-550g/9307155
• Celebrations 500g – https://www.asda.com/groceries/product/boxes-of-chocolates/celebrations-milk-chocolate-tub-500g/9293028
• JLab GO Air Pop True Wireless Earbuds – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1188567
• Anker Nano Power Bank – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1279330
• Classic Backpack – Black – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111111
• Smash Stainless Steel Travel Coffee Cup – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111112
• Cranium Classic Board Game – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111113
• Exploding Kittens Board Game – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111114
• PlayStation Gift Card – https://www.smythstoys.com/uk/en-gb/gaming/gift-cards/playstation-store-gift-card/p/1111115
• Belkin Power Bank – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111116
Why these work:
• Earbuds and headphones – practical for music, gaming, videos, commuting
• Power banks – handy for phones and tablets, perfect for everyday use or travel
• Backpacks & travel mugs – useful and versatile, great for daily life
• Board games – social gifts that encourage fun with friends or family
• Gift cards – flexible, easy to use, and appreciated by almost anyone
• Anker Nano Power Bank – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1279330
• Classic Backpack – Black – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111111
• Smash Stainless Steel Travel Coffee Cup – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111112
• Cranium Classic Board Game – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111113
• Exploding Kittens Board Game – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111114
• PlayStation Gift Card – https://www.smythstoys.com/uk/en-gb/gaming/gift-cards/playstation-store-gift-card/p/1111115
• Belkin Power Bank – https://www.argos.co.uk/product/1111116
Why these work:
• Earbuds and headphones – practical for music, gaming, videos, commuting
• Power banks – handy for phones and tablets, perfect for everyday use or travel
• Backpacks & travel mugs – useful and versatile, great for daily life
• Board games – social gifts that encourage fun with friends or family
• Gift cards – flexible, easy to use, and appreciated by almost anyone
International Persons with Disabilities Day (Dec 3rd)
(I am aware that this post is slightly a bit delayed but this day shouldn't just be for a day, it should be celebrated all year round)
December the 3rd is International Persons with Disabilities. A day to acknowledge and recognise people who have visible and non-visible disabilities. Let's take a moment to acknowledge our fellow peers this month.
Feeling included is an important thing that everyone needs. But quite often this isn't always the case. With workplaces often being unaccessible, to public spaces lacking inclusive facilities. It's important to be aware of this so we can become an adaptable and better inclusive society for everyone to live in. It's why accessibility is so vital in today's age so everyone can feel like they belong.
It's also important to remember that not all disabilities will be visible and will look different. I think of it like a rainbow and each individuals disability will be different. No two people will be alike. Quite often in the media the portrayal of disability is often done to the extreme and often stereotyped heavily especially with hidden disabilities like autism for example. These extreme portrayals can lead to often harmful views of the disabled community overall.
Did you know that your entitled to reasonable adjustments? But what are reasonable adjustments? Picture this, you want to go out in your car, but you forgot to add petrol into the car. The car won't be able to start without fuel. Reasonable adjustments are like that but are adjustments that can made to make the person feel more accommodated and supported. For example these adjustments can vary from person and can look different, such as dimmer lighting to having extended deadlines on projects and tasks. Having reasonable adjustments can mean the difference of someone enjoying working or feeling like they aren't being valued.
Never be afraid to speak up or ask for reasonable adjustments if you have a disability whether visible or non visible, your entitled to having support. But how do I ask for reasonable adjustments? It can feel quite daunting asking for something but here are some easy steps on how to ask for adjustments.
1) let your tutor, teacher or even manager know that you need extra support via reasonable adjustments
2) Explain what kind of adjustments you may need
3) Work together on creating these reasonable adjustments
How you can look out for your peers this month:
1) Before assuming someone's disability or needs, If unsure you can always ask them and they may be more than happy to explain their disability and needs to you. It's good to ask questions as long as they are not harmful or hurtful.
2) Read up on disability history month and learn as much as you can. There's lots of free courses out there on disability, discrimination and neurodiversity. Sometimes the best way to understand things is by simply learning and taking the time to understand.
3).Raise awareness and acceptance in your workplace, school, college, university even social media. The more you speak and show support we are moving towards becoming more inclusive.
Together we can break down barriers and stigma to create a better neuroinclusive future.
December the 3rd is International Persons with Disabilities. A day to acknowledge and recognise people who have visible and non-visible disabilities. Let's take a moment to acknowledge our fellow peers this month.
Feeling included is an important thing that everyone needs. But quite often this isn't always the case. With workplaces often being unaccessible, to public spaces lacking inclusive facilities. It's important to be aware of this so we can become an adaptable and better inclusive society for everyone to live in. It's why accessibility is so vital in today's age so everyone can feel like they belong.
It's also important to remember that not all disabilities will be visible and will look different. I think of it like a rainbow and each individuals disability will be different. No two people will be alike. Quite often in the media the portrayal of disability is often done to the extreme and often stereotyped heavily especially with hidden disabilities like autism for example. These extreme portrayals can lead to often harmful views of the disabled community overall.
Did you know that your entitled to reasonable adjustments? But what are reasonable adjustments? Picture this, you want to go out in your car, but you forgot to add petrol into the car. The car won't be able to start without fuel. Reasonable adjustments are like that but are adjustments that can made to make the person feel more accommodated and supported. For example these adjustments can vary from person and can look different, such as dimmer lighting to having extended deadlines on projects and tasks. Having reasonable adjustments can mean the difference of someone enjoying working or feeling like they aren't being valued.
Never be afraid to speak up or ask for reasonable adjustments if you have a disability whether visible or non visible, your entitled to having support. But how do I ask for reasonable adjustments? It can feel quite daunting asking for something but here are some easy steps on how to ask for adjustments.
1) let your tutor, teacher or even manager know that you need extra support via reasonable adjustments
2) Explain what kind of adjustments you may need
3) Work together on creating these reasonable adjustments
How you can look out for your peers this month:
1) Before assuming someone's disability or needs, If unsure you can always ask them and they may be more than happy to explain their disability and needs to you. It's good to ask questions as long as they are not harmful or hurtful.
2) Read up on disability history month and learn as much as you can. There's lots of free courses out there on disability, discrimination and neurodiversity. Sometimes the best way to understand things is by simply learning and taking the time to understand.
3).Raise awareness and acceptance in your workplace, school, college, university even social media. The more you speak and show support we are moving towards becoming more inclusive.
Together we can break down barriers and stigma to create a better neuroinclusive future.
Amy22
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Apology- May leave.
At the moment I feel like I am doing terribly on here.
I am messing things up and keep on making ridiculous mistakes.
I apologise to everyone regarding my stupidity and my horrible brain constantly causing problems and misunderstandings.
I am messing things up and keep on making ridiculous mistakes.
I apologise to everyone regarding my stupidity and my horrible brain constantly causing problems and misunderstandings.
(tw) eating disorder
i've never rly been able to talk to anybody abt this as nobody rly takes me seriously. for as long as i can remember ive struggled with eating. i don't rly know what to do anymore as nobody will take me seriously. i did try going to my gp but they won't do anything other than tell me that the physical pain i exist in constantly is just imaginary. cmht wont help me because im not dangerously underweight. i know there is beat but they dont rly help as ive done all that they've asked like visit my gp so they wont offer any support now. ive had support from first steps ed in the past and even they contacted my gp abt their concerns but still no help. cmht said they could reconsider the referral after beat contacted them IF the gp does new bloods, ecg and other phsyical health checks however the gp has said no to this as they can only action requests for this from hospitals for oncology patients.
tw for this part:
i've been rly thinking abt it lately and how much worse i feel it's becoming but nobody rly cares or takes it seriously.
tw for this part:
i've never rly talked abt how bad it is before. i grew up surrounded by talk abt diets, weight, calories etc. ive always struggled with food textures and foods touching etc which doesn't help either as i have very few foods i feel able to eat. worrying abt how many calories are in foods or whether ive done enough to earn the food is always on my mind. its so exhausting.
i remember when i was much younger, in primary school, we had our family photos. one of my siblings and i had the same top just different sizes as we're different ages and my mum had laid out what we were wearing, she accidentally put my siblings top out for me so when i put it on, it didn't fit. i thought it was funny and so did my sibling but my mum immediately reacted badly saying how i need to stop eating so much. reflecting on that now im older, my first question is, why couldn't she use logic and realise that all my other clothes fit fine so i clearly haven't gained weight to an extent my clothes no longer fit? it still rly upsets me.
we often went swimming then for food afterwards, i remember always hoping that we went to subway as its healthier than other places like mcdonald's etc. i know this bit is silly now that im older, but when i was younger, whenever we would have went for food after swimming, i always would've picked sprite / 7up as my drink as it looked like water so me (under 11 at this point) just assumed it must be healthy then.
ever since i had my first phone, i've had calorie counting apps, weight loss apps, exercise apps. i always said i'd get lunch in school whenever it came to secondary school as i could just pretend i did eat lunch. i've often made meal plans and counted calories etc but then still been really anxious abt eating because it's too much in my mind.
i remember when i was much younger, in primary school, we had our family photos. one of my siblings and i had the same top just different sizes as we're different ages and my mum had laid out what we were wearing, she accidentally put my siblings top out for me so when i put it on, it didn't fit. i thought it was funny and so did my sibling but my mum immediately reacted badly saying how i need to stop eating so much. reflecting on that now im older, my first question is, why couldn't she use logic and realise that all my other clothes fit fine so i clearly haven't gained weight to an extent my clothes no longer fit? it still rly upsets me.
we often went swimming then for food afterwards, i remember always hoping that we went to subway as its healthier than other places like mcdonald's etc. i know this bit is silly now that im older, but when i was younger, whenever we would have went for food after swimming, i always would've picked sprite / 7up as my drink as it looked like water so me (under 11 at this point) just assumed it must be healthy then.
ever since i had my first phone, i've had calorie counting apps, weight loss apps, exercise apps. i always said i'd get lunch in school whenever it came to secondary school as i could just pretend i did eat lunch. i've often made meal plans and counted calories etc but then still been really anxious abt eating because it's too much in my mind.
i've been rly thinking abt it lately and how much worse i feel it's becoming but nobody rly cares or takes it seriously.
eabhax06
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Community Secret Santa 2025

Hi everyone, how are you doing? How are we finding December this year so far?
I'm reaching out to announce our plans for our first ever Community Secret Santa this year, and to ask if you'd like to be involved!?
What's 'Secret Santa'?
So a 'Secret Santa' is a festive gift exchange game where participants randomly draw names and anonymously give a present to the chosen person. The identity of each giver remains hidden until revealed, adding fun and mystery to holiday celebrations for friends, families, or colleagues taking part.
How will our's work?
So we're going to do our own Secret Santa a little differently.... essentially, if you choose to take part the Staff Team would DM you the name of your chosen person and then you would 'gift' that person some lovely and thoughtful responses on their latest X3 Boards threads / posts to show them some appreciation, encouragement, and care!
Because of this, it wouldn't be very 'secret' because of course, when you reply to their Boards posts etc., they'll see your name!!
Buuuuut hopefully this would mean that all members taking part will see a really beautiful boost of engagement and support on their Community posts this Christmas!
Sounds great - how do I get involved!?
If you would like to become a 'not-so-secret Santa' for one of your fellow Community members this Christmas, please reply to the Boards thread below letting us know you're taking part.
On Monday 22nd December the Staff Team will then DM you with your chosen person's username so that you can go and show them lots of support on their latest posts.
Got any questions? We're here to answer below!
Sian321
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