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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 15.09.25
Thank you @Sian321
I appreciate it.
I appreciate it.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.09.25
Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »@Redemption hey bro, you mentioned it was the wrong thread in the other one. Just wanted to let you know I'm here if you want to chat a bit about stuff.
@DonnerKebab really appreciate it bro, I saw you replied to my thread about the courses, I know you said do the 3 month course but I decided to go with the 6 weeks course in the end, I didn't ignore your advice though and took it into consideration but spoke to the 6 week one and they said it should get me into work quicker, I just was was told Id get my travel expenses paid but my key worker is working slow with that.
@Redemption as i said bro, do what's right for you. If they've told you that's the one that will get you into work faster, and your more comfortable with it, then go for it. Both of them sound awesome, both of them will help you to advance, and ultimately, you know more about them than what i do. Good luck with the 6 week course bro. It's still taking steps forward, will help you get closer to your goals, and that's something to be proud of.
So how are you feeling about it? You mentioned it starts very soon.
Thank you bro @DonnerKebab . This is what the course is about, I hope you're ok this morning.
just heads up there’s an email on there that ppl can use etc so maybe editing the post for your protection.
and a location too. of course it’s up to you but just to be on the safe side.
eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.09.25
Redemption wrote: »Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »@Redemption hey bro, you mentioned it was the wrong thread in the other one. Just wanted to let you know I'm here if you want to chat a bit about stuff.
@DonnerKebab really appreciate it bro, I saw you replied to my thread about the courses, I know you said do the 3 month course but I decided to go with the 6 weeks course in the end, I didn't ignore your advice though and took it into consideration but spoke to the 6 week one and they said it should get me into work quicker, I just was was told Id get my travel expenses paid but my key worker is working slow with that.
@Redemption as i said bro, do what's right for you. If they've told you that's the one that will get you into work faster, and your more comfortable with it, then go for it. Both of them sound awesome, both of them will help you to advance, and ultimately, you know more about them than what i do. Good luck with the 6 week course bro. It's still taking steps forward, will help you get closer to your goals, and that's something to be proud of.
So how are you feeling about it? You mentioned it starts very soon.
Thank you bro @DonnerKebab . This is what the course is about, I hope you're ok this morning.
just heads up there’s an email on there that ppl can use etc so maybe editing the post for your protection.
Shit! I put the unblurred version on, thanks for telling me
if you report your post to @TheMix theyll edit it for you
( i think lol)eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.09.25
Redemption wrote: »Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »Redemption wrote: »DonnerKebab wrote: »@Redemption hey bro, you mentioned it was the wrong thread in the other one. Just wanted to let you know I'm here if you want to chat a bit about stuff.
@DonnerKebab really appreciate it bro, I saw you replied to my thread about the courses, I know you said do the 3 month course but I decided to go with the 6 weeks course in the end, I didn't ignore your advice though and took it into consideration but spoke to the 6 week one and they said it should get me into work quicker, I just was was told Id get my travel expenses paid but my key worker is working slow with that.
@Redemption as i said bro, do what's right for you. If they've told you that's the one that will get you into work faster, and your more comfortable with it, then go for it. Both of them sound awesome, both of them will help you to advance, and ultimately, you know more about them than what i do. Good luck with the 6 week course bro. It's still taking steps forward, will help you get closer to your goals, and that's something to be proud of.
So how are you feeling about it? You mentioned it starts very soon.
Thank you bro @DonnerKebab . This is what the course is about, I hope you're ok this morning.
just heads up there’s an email on there that ppl can use etc so maybe editing the post for your protection.
Shit! I put the unblurred version on, thanks for telling me
if you report your post to @TheMix theyll edit it for you
Nah don't report meeeeee, joking, its been removed now, phew lol. I hope you're ok today, chat is on at 3 too so I'll see you on there if you're free and wanna go on.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 15.09.25
Animalloverb wrote: »@DonnerKebab
I appreciate it so much mate, but honestly I do have to bottle everything up, I can't be sharing this crap.
It's my life, so it's my crap to deal with, I can't be weighing it onto other people as that isn't right.
And I have a job to do, I can't be having all these problems when I am meant to be showing up for people.
@Animalloverb the thing is mate, you've been there for so many others when they've shared there problems and struggles. And each time, you help them as best you can, and that means the world to so many people. You deserve to be able to lean on others for support too and to have people listen to you in your hour of need. I completely respect your decision, but i need to make this point clear. You aren't a burden on anybody for talking about this stuff and venting to them. You're getting the same kindness that you show to so many others.
Nathan
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering stuff edition) w/c 15.09.25
Animalloverb wrote: »@DonnerKebab
I really appreciate that mate.
My head has just been really messed up with everything at the moment, and knowing I have nobody I can go to about anything, it's been that way for ages so I have been so used to just getting by on my own and keeping things to myself and showing up for others even if I am living through what feels like hell.
So opening up on here and stuff is just a really new thing to me as I have never been able to speak about anything at all before.
@Animalloverb i think i know what you mean. It sounds a bit like what we call caregivers syndrome, where you've been supporting others for such a long time, and haven't really have much chance to give yourself that same kindness. And it can make it difficult to open up anywhere given you've not been able to for ages. You've been carrying so much on your shoulders for so long, so it's going to be tricky starting to get comfortable enough to open up about these things, and it's never done overnight, but you're already making such huge amounts of progress, and it's important to stop and look at how far you've come with it. Just by talking on here, that alone shows just how strong you are. I just want to add, you'll always have friends here bro, and you'll never be without someone to talk to.
Nathan
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Re: (Suicidal thoughts but no plan) I’m tired of fighting
Hey @bignosegirly0 Im so so sorry you are feeling like this , I can see you are going through a really rough time but please remember you are valued, cared for, the world is such a better place with you here and things will get better especially as you are trying. Ive left some links to services that you might find helpful. Please stay safe
The first one opens at 5pm so not open as Im typing this but will be 5pm till 12pm, second open 6pm till 11pm on the weekend and 6pm 10pm during the week, 3rd open 24 hours but may not be available online just text
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
https://www.samaritans.org/donate-mental-health/?campaign_name=PAID2526_A&utm_source=google&utm_medium=psearch&utm_campaign=igrg_brand_search&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21565411426&gclid=CjwKCAjwobnGBhBNEiwAu2mpFI1Lb9G6Y_FKtyqujAKCYTQjfnwNXoLsvWgkXrSAq5zMKdscbaqT5xoCFwMQAvD_BwE
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
https://kellysheroes.org.uk/
https://www.samaritans.org/donate-mental-health/?campaign_name=PAID2526_A&utm_source=google&utm_medium=psearch&utm_campaign=igrg_brand_search&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21565411426&gclid=CjwKCAjwobnGBhBNEiwAu2mpFI1Lb9G6Y_FKtyqujAKCYTQjfnwNXoLsvWgkXrSAq5zMKdscbaqT5xoCFwMQAvD_BwE
Re: my bf keeps mentioning his ex any second he gets 😕
DonnerKebab wrote: »@eylah i may have the emotional intelligence of a brick and am the least qualified person in all of human civilization to talk relationships, but I can promise you don't deserve to feel overshadowed like this, and you aren't being crazy or insecure. From my understanding, any relationship should be just you and your boyfriend, not ex's being brought up at every chance, not being made to feel like your crazy, and not being made to feel hurt like this. It definitely sounds as though he's never gotten over her fully, and she's still on his mind a huge amount. Bringing his ex brought up everyday to you, his current partner, is something that sounds really disrespectful and incredibly insensitive of him, and it's understandable it will be taking a toll on you. It doesn't sound like a healthy dynamic at all by the sounds of it, and no relationship should ever leave you feeling like your not good enough or should leave you upset like this.
What i would advise is that you draw a line in the sand over this point and set a boundary that isn't to be crossed. It might be worth talking to him, explaining how it's been making you feel, and how in any context it is disrespectful to bring up everyday, and explain the impact it's been having on you. And then make clear that your setting a boundary over this point. That way, there's no room for him to continue on by pleading ignorance, he will 100% know of the impact it's having undeniably, and whether he stops or not will then be up to him, but he'll have no excuse if he keeps doing it. I am mindful though that it's an extremely difficult anniversary coming up for you, and i don't want you to be alone on that day and take on too much at once, so it may be worth delaying this for a few days just until after if you feel like this is something you want to do. At least, this is what i would advise.
I also want to make this point abundantly clear, and this is something that every single person on here will agree with me on, you deserve to be loved and cared for, you are good enough, and nothing anybody else does changes that. Sorry if this sounds like rambling or sounds like awful advice. As i said at the start, i have the emotional intelligence of a brick and relationship advice is not something i'm good at giving.
so i spoke to him abt how it’s making me feel and at first he was like you need to stop being so jslous bc apparently that doesn’t look gd on me apparently. so that made me more upset bc im not a jealous type but the fact i just want to be loved and feel it but getting nothing is just hurting.
he was playing with his friend all night so i havent talked to him yet. i just hope things will sort themselves out bc its hurting me. he knows abt what my ex did to me etc and he sympathised with me which makes 0 sense.
i just feel so hurt isolated alone and not loved. why is it so hard to be loved. thankyou also for always replying and being so kind to me. it means the world to me.
eylah
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Re: my bf keeps mentioning his ex any second he gets 😕
Redemption wrote: »im rly struggling bc he keeps bringing up his ex gf and it’s rly doing my head in. he doesn’t understand that i rly dont want to know abt his ex gf and that it’s just ridiculous that he keeps going on abt his ex gf. like have has not moved on from her? he must feel something abt her bc he talks abt her literally every day. and he doesn’t care or seem to care that it bothers me. i know it might make me sound a bit crazy but it’s rly not fair. i struggle with relationships anyway and hearing her name every day is just not nice for me to hear. also bc my ex bf was rly abusive towards me i get scared to get attached to ppl and love ppl so loving. him and trying to is just rly traumatic for me so hearing her name come out of his mouth literally any second he gets the chance it’s rly hard for me to cope with it.
i don’t want to come across as a insecure person but it’s rly just shit for me to be in this position. i love him i do but i dont want to have to constantly hear this nonsense. he even said he wants to go back to the same spot she is from which is a bit daft bc he has a new gf ( me )and he wants to travel to that same place where she is from.. its like he misses his ex gf and i just idk if i want to bother with this anymore.
@eylah your feelings are valid and its absolutely understandable how you feel about him talking about his ex, Im sure most if not all women would feel the same. I hear you and its so understandable how you feel. You absolutely deserve him to be focused on you, hes lucky to have an incredible young lady like you. Everything you said here is valid and understandable. Im so so sorry you have been through previous traumas in other relationships. You definitely definitely are good enough and dont deserve any of this treatment. Have you got anyone you trust to talk about this? We are here and Im here too, we wouldn't judge you. Of course you want to be loved and cared for, you absolutely deserve that. Big hugs if you're confortable with that.
hey . unfortunately i have no one to talk to abt this. i dont talk to my dad anymore bc of reasons and of course my mum isn’t here anymore so i dont have anyone. thankyou for replying and being so kind and sensitive. it means a lot to me.
eylah
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