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Redemption wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

My overthinking is playing up

@Redemption hey bro, as Jazz say's, those are some good techniques to try. If you want to vent a bit about what thoughts your being overwhelmed with, and what you're overthinking over, we're here bro.

@DonnerKebab Thanks bro, its just a couple of things that happened in the past, I don’t think I can talk about it too much but I mentioned it a bit on the daytime chat. I feel so ashamed of myself sometimes too.

@Redemption i fully understand that, but I just wanted to say, from what i've seen, if it is what i think it is, sorry if it's the wrong thing i'm thinking off, but you've got nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much of a welcome part of the community you are bro.

@DonnerKebab im not too sure fully if its right if we're thinking of the same thing, we might be but I always appreciate your kind words. It sounds super sensitive but I overthink to the point I feel like crying over if a bit, its just like here has been so important to me so if I do something wrong here it hurts more.

@Redemption it's okay to be sensitive to things. We aren't robots with zero emotions. We're human, and things getting us emotional is also human. Don't be pressured by society to feel like you can't be human and can't feel things that strongly effect you. Nothing wrong with being sensative.

Overthinking is difficult, and it can really wear people down, so it's no surprise it brings you to the point of wanting to cry. It's a constant thing until it leaves you emotionally drained and depleted. And it's something that you deserve support with. I know you've finished counselling, but is it worth perhaps looking at NHS talking therapies who can offer things like CBT for those sorts of thought patterns that leads to overthinking?

And like was said in chat earlier, and in the previous post, even if we aren't thinking of the same thing, you have come a long way, and are well loved by the community. That is a fact. Everybody makes mistakes and does stuff wrong. Heck, I've been here for less than 6 months, and I've been given several warnings here and there myself. It's human to make mistakes, to get things wrong at times and not be perfect. I fully get that given how much this place means to you, and that doing something wrong here will hurt more, but you have to give yourself some credit that it is mistakes and everybody makes them. Be kind to yourself over it bro.

@DonnerKebab Thanks, bro. Really needed to hear that. You’re right, being sensitive isn’t weak, and mistakes happen to everyone. I’ll think about NHS therapy toomight help with overthinking. Appreciate you, man.

It's all good @DonnerKebab

Somewhat related but why can english services have 24 hour helplines but Scottish ones can’t 🤣 are the Scots all meant to be out having fun at night or something. I kinda miss when I was young enough for childline bc they had an online chat through the night aswell

Edited to say that my post count is very much still on my radar, 7 posts to go 🤣 hence editing this one to say this instead of just posting again bc I want it to be a nice post and not a not nice post

independent_ wrote: »

@DonnerKebab no not at all I’m glad you sent the link actually as it was about 5am on saturday when i initially found it and you reminded me.

The dead of night is actually calmer than earlier in the evening. I guess because there’s less noise. So I’m going to try and go to bed and I’m doing my normal shift on my facebook group in the morning, it gives me something to do and something else to think about.

Thank you for listening and remember to be kind to yourself.

@independent_ I'm always here if you ever want to chat friend. I'm glad you've got a good thing to occupy your time with and act as a distraction from things. You deserve a break from this all. Have a nice night independent, be kind to yourself, it's the LAW.

Redemption wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

My overthinking is playing up

@Redemption hey bro, as Jazz say's, those are some good techniques to try. If you want to vent a bit about what thoughts your being overwhelmed with, and what you're overthinking over, we're here bro.

@DonnerKebab Thanks bro, its just a couple of things that happened in the past, I don’t think I can talk about it too much but I mentioned it a bit on the daytime chat. I feel so ashamed of myself sometimes too.

@Redemption i fully understand that, but I just wanted to say, from what i've seen, if it is what i think it is, sorry if it's the wrong thing i'm thinking off, but you've got nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much of a welcome part of the community you are bro.

@DonnerKebab im not too sure fully if its right if we're thinking of the same thing, we might be but I always appreciate your kind words. It sounds super sensitive but I overthink to the point I feel like crying over if a bit, its just like here has been so important to me so if I do something wrong here it hurts more.

@Redemption it's okay to be sensitive to things. We aren't robots with zero emotions. We're human, and things getting us emotional is also human. Don't be pressured by society to feel like you can't be human and can't feel things that strongly effect you. Nothing wrong with being sensative.

Overthinking is difficult, and it can really wear people down, so it's no surprise it brings you to the point of wanting to cry. It's a constant thing until it leaves you emotionally drained and depleted. And it's something that you deserve support with. I know you've finished counselling, but is it worth perhaps looking at NHS talking therapies who can offer things like CBT for those sorts of thought patterns that leads to overthinking?

And like was said in chat earlier, and in the previous post, even if we aren't thinking of the same thing, you have come a long way, and are well loved by the community. That is a fact. Everybody makes mistakes and does stuff wrong. Heck, I've been here for less than 6 months, and I've been given several warnings here and there myself. It's human to make mistakes, to get things wrong at times and not be perfect. I fully get that given how much this place means to you, and that doing something wrong here will hurt more, but you have to give yourself some credit that it is mistakes and everybody makes them. Be kind to yourself over it bro.

@DonnerKebab no not at all I’m glad you sent the link actually as it was about 5am on saturday when i initially found it and you reminded me.

The dead of night is actually calmer than earlier in the evening. I guess because there’s less noise. So I’m going to try and go to bed and I’m doing my normal shift on my facebook group in the morning, it gives me something to do and something else to think about.

Thank you for listening and remember to be kind to yourself.

@DonnerKebab thank you I will definitely think about it.

And yes it’s unfair. So unfair. Life has just gone that way for most people I know. You know how you get some people who are super lucky, live a good life and never face any hardship at all? I mean I know a couple of those but the vast majority of people I know have had at least one really shitty thing happen to them. And I don’t mean burning their chips they were planning to have for tea. Like the worst kinds of shitty things.

independent_ wrote: »

Somewhat related but why can english services have 24 hour helplines but Scottish ones can’t 🤣 are the Scots all meant to be out having fun at night or something. I kinda miss when I was young enough for childline bc they had an online chat through the night aswell

Edited to say that my post count is very much still on my radar, 7 posts to go 🤣 hence editing this one to say this instead of just posting again bc I want it to be a nice post and not a not nice post

@independent_ i'll trade you England's 24/7 services, for Scotland's free prescriptions and tuition fees 😂. But seriously, it is unfair that you don't have any 24/7 services open for you. Sadly, the mix discussion boards will just have to do until morning 😭.

And smart thinking about editing posts rather than posting new. Make sure that 10,000th post is special.

@DonnerKebab thank you so much for your kind words - and for that link. I knew about them but didn’t think it was bad enough to talk to them about seeing as they help with like.. you know, the worst types of things that people do to each other. But I guess it’s worth a chat with them.

I think part of the problem is this is the third bad thing to me specifically, and the millionth to happen to people or things I know. It was already shit. Now it’s more shit.

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

DonnerKebab wrote: »

Redemption wrote: »

My overthinking is playing up

@Redemption hey bro, as Jazz say's, those are some good techniques to try. If you want to vent a bit about what thoughts your being overwhelmed with, and what you're overthinking over, we're here bro.

@DonnerKebab Thanks bro, its just a couple of things that happened in the past, I don’t think I can talk about it too much but I mentioned it a bit on the daytime chat. I feel so ashamed of myself sometimes too.

@Redemption i fully understand that, but I just wanted to say, from what i've seen, if it is what i think it is, sorry if it's the wrong thing i'm thinking off, but you've got nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much of a welcome part of the community you are bro.

@DonnerKebab im not too sure fully if its right if we're thinking of the same thing, we might be but I always appreciate your kind words. It sounds super sensitive but I overthink to the point I feel like crying over if a bit, its just like here has been so important to me so if I do something wrong here it hurts more.