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Re: feel rlly low.
Im so so sorry you're feeling like this, here's some support services if you need
This one don't open to 7pm sadly
https://www.myblackdog.co/
This one don't open till 5pm unfortunately but it's open every day from then until midnight
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
There's Kooth here too which open at 12pm so about 2 hours when posting this
https://www.kooth.com/
https://www.myblackdog.co/
This one don't open till 5pm unfortunately but it's open every day from then until midnight
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
There's Kooth here too which open at 12pm so about 2 hours when posting this
https://www.kooth.com/
Why I find it hard to be positive
I've always struggled with worry and self-doubt. It feels like this worry has been with me for as long as I can remember, and sometimes I think it’s just part of who I am. From school to college, I’ve faced a lot of setbacks. I didn’t enjoy college, and once I finished, I was lost, unsure of what to do next. I tried different things, like a training course for a forklift truck, but it didn’t work out. After that, I started applying for jobs, but it's been tough, and a year has passed with no success. I’ve also been on a work programme since November 2023, hoping they would help me find a job, but nothing’s come of it so far.
Throughout all these experiences, I've often had that little voice in my head saying, "What if I fail?" I worry a lot about the future, especially since there’s no clear path after school or college. I’ve watched people around me seem to have smoother paths, going from school to college, getting an apprenticeship, then university, and eventually finding a job, while I’ve struggled to find a direction. My circumstances have made things harder, and I’ve dealt with these feelings of failure, especially when things don’t go well or when I get rejected after interviews. Even when I’ve been positive about new opportunities, things often don’t work out.
Volunteering has been another challenge. I was excited to learn new skills, like working on tills, but after a few weeks, I was told I wasn't suitable. That stung because I had been positive but also had those doubts in the back of my mind about being slow or not good enough. Despite all this, I still want to move forward and make a life for myself. I look at cars, houses, and relationships and feel like there’s no reason why I can’t have these things in the future. Even though things haven’t gone perfectly, I know I’m slowly making progress. I have a couple of options, I’ve got support, and I’m doing the right things. I’ve been working on rebuilding my self-confidence, and I feel more like myself again. I know that the first step is to get a job, any job, and see where it leads. I don’t know exactly what I want, but I need to get moving.
The community here has been a huge help, though. It’s a place where I feel understood and can talk openly about heavier and more personal issues. When things felt at their lowest, the support I’ve received has been essential. Without it, I would have been dealing with everything alone, and that would have made it harder to keep going. Everyone here is so encouraging, and that positivity has helped me push through tough times.
Throughout all these experiences, I've often had that little voice in my head saying, "What if I fail?" I worry a lot about the future, especially since there’s no clear path after school or college. I’ve watched people around me seem to have smoother paths, going from school to college, getting an apprenticeship, then university, and eventually finding a job, while I’ve struggled to find a direction. My circumstances have made things harder, and I’ve dealt with these feelings of failure, especially when things don’t go well or when I get rejected after interviews. Even when I’ve been positive about new opportunities, things often don’t work out.
Volunteering has been another challenge. I was excited to learn new skills, like working on tills, but after a few weeks, I was told I wasn't suitable. That stung because I had been positive but also had those doubts in the back of my mind about being slow or not good enough. Despite all this, I still want to move forward and make a life for myself. I look at cars, houses, and relationships and feel like there’s no reason why I can’t have these things in the future. Even though things haven’t gone perfectly, I know I’m slowly making progress. I have a couple of options, I’ve got support, and I’m doing the right things. I’ve been working on rebuilding my self-confidence, and I feel more like myself again. I know that the first step is to get a job, any job, and see where it leads. I don’t know exactly what I want, but I need to get moving.
The community here has been a huge help, though. It’s a place where I feel understood and can talk openly about heavier and more personal issues. When things felt at their lowest, the support I’ve received has been essential. Without it, I would have been dealing with everything alone, and that would have made it harder to keep going. Everyone here is so encouraging, and that positivity has helped me push through tough times.