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Re: Subject access requests
Ah ok @Rose113 , I didn't have a dedicated social worker either. I would email Preston Social Services and see if they have anyone who can assist you through the process. It takes some time, and you could get a lot of stuff to go through. I had 700 pages in my files, and it took me over a year to read them all!
Alternatively, I would look at the Post Adoption Centre (PAC-UK) through google, as they've got quite a lot of resources and advice for people.
I hope it works out, and well done for starting this process! It's not easy, but I found it invaluable in forming a positive and grounded sense of identity🙂
Alternatively, I would look at the Post Adoption Centre (PAC-UK) through google, as they've got quite a lot of resources and advice for people.
I hope it works out, and well done for starting this process! It's not easy, but I found it invaluable in forming a positive and grounded sense of identity🙂
Anthony
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Re: Darkness of C-PTSD
@Sian321 thank you 
Trying to get support for it isn’t going well tbh I just get told the same things over and over of it being to complex and out of expertise dealing range yet it can’t be as bad as ptsd for those in the army yet they can get support so idk
Then again everytime I tell a counsellor my life story they just get emotional 🫠 like I told my psychologist and he was so shocked by what I’ve been through and I just sit there and life cos what else am I meant to do when I’m so used to what happened to me that when they say “history repeats itself” it really does in my life but heyho I deal with everything alone so it’s all good I survive lol 💕
Trying to get support for it isn’t going well tbh I just get told the same things over and over of it being to complex and out of expertise dealing range yet it can’t be as bad as ptsd for those in the army yet they can get support so idk
Then again everytime I tell a counsellor my life story they just get emotional 🫠 like I told my psychologist and he was so shocked by what I’ve been through and I just sit there and life cos what else am I meant to do when I’m so used to what happened to me that when they say “history repeats itself” it really does in my life but heyho I deal with everything alone so it’s all good I survive lol 💕
Rose113
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Re: sick of everything
Hey @struggling0_0, thank you for sharing how you feel with us. I'm here to listen to you. I can hear how difficult things are for you. It's frustrating when we try our best in life but feel like we keep messing up. Still, you're doing the best that you can, and that counts for something 
I understand that you feel like you've messed the year up already and so can't pass. What's happened to make you feel this way? Is it worth speaking to the course coordinator to understand what can still be done to try and save the year (e.g. retakes)? I hope that they might be able offer some support or next steps for you.
I'm sorry to hear about the volunteering role. It sounds like whatever happened, it's caused you a lot of trouble and now it's difficult to go back to say anything or volunteer there. How did you find the volunteering role until this happened, was it something you'd have considered returning to if this hadn't happened? I won't push you to talk about what happened if you don't want to, but please know that you're able to use this space to express yourself if you'd like.
Struggling to put how we feel into words can be challenging, and you're not alone in finding that difficult, so I'm surprised and upset to hear that professionals are calling you moody because of it. Have you heard this from different professionals, or are there specific individuals who are making this comment? Simply put, the statement isn't true - struggling to put emotions into words doesn't make someone moody, and it's not a fair assessment of how you're doing on that basis. I'm sorry to hear that you feel like they can't be bothered with you - the feeling of someone giving up on us is really painful, and you deserve to be supported by these people.
It's worrying to hear that you feel like you're not wanted around here and that there's evidence to prove it. Would you be able to share what makes you feel that way? I'm happy that you're a part of this community - you, being you, as you are. You matter, and we're here to support you
I understand that you feel like you've messed the year up already and so can't pass. What's happened to make you feel this way? Is it worth speaking to the course coordinator to understand what can still be done to try and save the year (e.g. retakes)? I hope that they might be able offer some support or next steps for you.
I'm sorry to hear about the volunteering role. It sounds like whatever happened, it's caused you a lot of trouble and now it's difficult to go back to say anything or volunteer there. How did you find the volunteering role until this happened, was it something you'd have considered returning to if this hadn't happened? I won't push you to talk about what happened if you don't want to, but please know that you're able to use this space to express yourself if you'd like.
Struggling to put how we feel into words can be challenging, and you're not alone in finding that difficult, so I'm surprised and upset to hear that professionals are calling you moody because of it. Have you heard this from different professionals, or are there specific individuals who are making this comment? Simply put, the statement isn't true - struggling to put emotions into words doesn't make someone moody, and it's not a fair assessment of how you're doing on that basis. I'm sorry to hear that you feel like they can't be bothered with you - the feeling of someone giving up on us is really painful, and you deserve to be supported by these people.
It's worrying to hear that you feel like you're not wanted around here and that there's evidence to prove it. Would you be able to share what makes you feel that way? I'm happy that you're a part of this community - you, being you, as you are. You matter, and we're here to support you
Azziman
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Re: Mental health short stories 2025
Hey @Lottie5433 , just revisiting some of your stories this morning. It feels such an honour that you're sharing these with us, and letting us into your experience like this.
You write so vividly - so we can feel right alongside you.
This line really stood out to me. That dilemma. The pain and the relief of no one noticing.
This line too - the description of how loneliness 'gnaws'. That feels so visceral and accurate.Feels extreamly hard and sad too.
And this line. This feels so powerful. That un-nameable 'flicker'. A will to discover if life can be more than survival. It felt like a candle was lit at the end of your story. Hope. Fragile yet stubborn.
Thank you so much for continuing to share these, Lottie.
You write so vividly - so we can feel right alongside you.
No one asked questions Alex wasn’t ready to answer.
This line really stood out to me. That dilemma. The pain and the relief of no one noticing.
The loneliness gnawed at them, an ache that never faded.
This line too - the description of how loneliness 'gnaws'. That feels so visceral and accurate.Feels extreamly hard and sad too.
But then—something else. A flicker of something deep inside, something fragile yet stubbor
And this line. This feels so powerful. That un-nameable 'flicker'. A will to discover if life can be more than survival. It felt like a candle was lit at the end of your story. Hope. Fragile yet stubborn.
Thank you so much for continuing to share these, Lottie.
Sian321
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Re: Struggling to cope with the aftermath of ending some friendships
Hello @Sian321,
I am feeling okay and things being okay so far. The negative memories with my former friends have not resurfaced this week but they affected me last week. It has been up and down.
Yes. I did wish but it is possible that they might have realised. I will never know but it is unlikely they have since I did not get an apology for being excluded from the group and the intention behind the comment kept being justified. I took myself out of the dynamic which can be a difficult thing to do. It can be hard sometimes when the blame crops up. They spoke as though they were the victims.
I have been doing well to get through it.
Thank you all for your support.
Re: Safeguarding Q&A 2025 - Ask your questions here!
Hey folks,
Just wanted to pop a message here for anyone who's new to The Mix Boards (and as a reminder for those of you who have been here a while!) that this thread is an ongoing space for you to post any questions you might have about The Mix's Safeguarding processes, and one of our Safeguarding Team will be able to respond to you.
Every question is welcome!
If you would like to post something anonymously here too, you can DM the Mix Staff team so that we can then post your question for you
Just wanted to pop a message here for anyone who's new to The Mix Boards (and as a reminder for those of you who have been here a while!) that this thread is an ongoing space for you to post any questions you might have about The Mix's Safeguarding processes, and one of our Safeguarding Team will be able to respond to you.
Every question is welcome!
If you would like to post something anonymously here too, you can DM the Mix Staff team so that we can then post your question for you
Sian321
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Re: Casual Magic!
Ahh @toffuna101 , that's so cool that you used to watch her channel too!
Do you have a casual magic of the day today? What's something small that's sparked joy for you?
no unfortunately @Sian321
Re: (Mentions of suicide and self harm) Do I have petulant BPD?
@Sian321 I understand your point regarding my harness towards myself. But I do have to criticise my actions in order to make improvement.
To put it in a more polite manner, throughout the past two years, my constant feelings of hopelessness has transformed into bitterness, leading my pent up emotions to eventually slip and result in me being rude and snappy to others. And although I need to be kind to myself, I have to point out issues which hurts others and make immediate change.
I don’t think it will be long until I receive my first therapy session in a while. When starting my appointment, I want to mention how I think I may suffer from BPD, bring up my symptoms and discuss the next steps.
I feel slightly ashamed to bring this up to my GP, because I don’t know how educated he is in regards to BPD. But I won’t 100% say no to it.
To me, a diagnosis would feel like an explanation as to why I behave the way I do. And it will definitely help me take further steps into knowing what I need to do in order to improve.
Whereas, if I don’t receive a diagnosis, then I guess I have to keep searching for my answer.
To put it in a more polite manner, throughout the past two years, my constant feelings of hopelessness has transformed into bitterness, leading my pent up emotions to eventually slip and result in me being rude and snappy to others. And although I need to be kind to myself, I have to point out issues which hurts others and make immediate change.
I don’t think it will be long until I receive my first therapy session in a while. When starting my appointment, I want to mention how I think I may suffer from BPD, bring up my symptoms and discuss the next steps.
I feel slightly ashamed to bring this up to my GP, because I don’t know how educated he is in regards to BPD. But I won’t 100% say no to it.
To me, a diagnosis would feel like an explanation as to why I behave the way I do. And it will definitely help me take further steps into knowing what I need to do in order to improve.
Whereas, if I don’t receive a diagnosis, then I guess I have to keep searching for my answer.