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Re: Just don't want to be here anymore
Hi @Nathan @Verity
Thanks for reply...
It so soes feel like against equality act and disability discrimination, i will appeal! Its not right theyve used that as an excuse for my performance .however my managerxsaid my performance has improved and made so much progress! But his off.... he said i was c in track to pass then all of a sudden he back tracked saying i cabt pass you i reckon that's not him but his manager whose told him you cabt pass her, his off as well since then making me wonder whether his off because he doesn't agree with it so went off or the company hace told him to go off because he was fighting a corner for me...but ive been terminated ..😭😪 ive jad the letter and notes come through. The notes aren't minutes its bullet points and the letter, theres 3 new areas of underperformanc which weren't even brought up at all.
I will appeal- sorry.
@Nathan , @Verity ohh yeah please any helpline organisations or place that offers advocacy support with this will help! I have 5 days from today to submit appeal.
Thanks for scope link I'll check it!
Thanks for reply...
It so soes feel like against equality act and disability discrimination, i will appeal! Its not right theyve used that as an excuse for my performance .however my managerxsaid my performance has improved and made so much progress! But his off.... he said i was c in track to pass then all of a sudden he back tracked saying i cabt pass you i reckon that's not him but his manager whose told him you cabt pass her, his off as well since then making me wonder whether his off because he doesn't agree with it so went off or the company hace told him to go off because he was fighting a corner for me...but ive been terminated ..😭😪 ive jad the letter and notes come through. The notes aren't minutes its bullet points and the letter, theres 3 new areas of underperformanc which weren't even brought up at all.
I will appeal- sorry.
@Nathan , @Verity ohh yeah please any helpline organisations or place that offers advocacy support with this will help! I have 5 days from today to submit appeal.
Thanks for scope link I'll check it!
Re: A December/Holidays Venting Thread
I think I'm struggling to process the fact that Christmas is coming soon, despite all the decorations up everywhere. I usually find it hard to process it until it's literally the day before, though I don't really know why.
Re: A December/Holidays Venting Thread
I truly echo all of your lovely, thoughtful reflections.
@eylah That sounds really difficult and I am really sorry you’re feeling this way. I can hear how much it hurts to face another Christmas without your mum, and at the same time, how exciting but nerve-wracking it feels to spend it with your boyfriend’s family. That’s a lot to hold at once, and it makes complete sense that it feels so heavy. But it is perfectly okay to take things at your own pace and as they come. I hope you can give yourself credit for navigating all of this, and remember that you are doing your best, and that’s more than enough.
@so_very_tired It makes complete sense that Christmas feels complicated for you, especially when so many past celebrations were difficult and didn’t feel peaceful. Those memories sound really painful, and I understand that you’re not feeling excited about the day itself. At the same time, it’s lovely to hear that you’re finding ways to enjoy the season in your own way such as by watching your favourite Christmas films and listening to music you love.
It’s absolutely okay that your reasons for not loving Christmas are your own ,no one else can measure them and you’re allowed to feel however you do.
To those who for whom Christmas hasn’t been easy, your happiness and comfort matter most, and there is nothing wrong with creating your own space during this time of year, free from expectations. Even if Christmas doesn’t feel any different for you, that doesn’t make your feelings any less important. You deserve kindness, understanding and support just as you are, exactly where you are.
@eylah That sounds really difficult and I am really sorry you’re feeling this way. I can hear how much it hurts to face another Christmas without your mum, and at the same time, how exciting but nerve-wracking it feels to spend it with your boyfriend’s family. That’s a lot to hold at once, and it makes complete sense that it feels so heavy. But it is perfectly okay to take things at your own pace and as they come. I hope you can give yourself credit for navigating all of this, and remember that you are doing your best, and that’s more than enough.
@so_very_tired It makes complete sense that Christmas feels complicated for you, especially when so many past celebrations were difficult and didn’t feel peaceful. Those memories sound really painful, and I understand that you’re not feeling excited about the day itself. At the same time, it’s lovely to hear that you’re finding ways to enjoy the season in your own way such as by watching your favourite Christmas films and listening to music you love.
It’s absolutely okay that your reasons for not loving Christmas are your own ,no one else can measure them and you’re allowed to feel however you do.
To those who for whom Christmas hasn’t been easy, your happiness and comfort matter most, and there is nothing wrong with creating your own space during this time of year, free from expectations. Even if Christmas doesn’t feel any different for you, that doesn’t make your feelings any less important. You deserve kindness, understanding and support just as you are, exactly where you are.
Ech0
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Re: Christmas Around the World
Thank you for putting this together and sharing it @Nathan . I enjoyed reading all the different ways Christmas is celebrated.
In Germany, Christmas Eve (called Heiligabend) on December 24th is the main day for celebrating Christmas. That’s when most families decorate the Christmas tree and open presents together in the evening, even though December 25th and 26th are also public holidays. German Christmas traditions include advent calendars, Christmas markets singing carols and traditional Christmas food and drink like Glühwein (spiced mulled wine), Stollen (fruit bread), and Lebkuchen (spiced gingerbread).
There’s also a special day known as St. Nicholas Day (Nikolaustag). On the night of December 5th, children in many parts of Germany clean a boot or shoe and leave it outside the door. On the morning of December 6th, St. Nicholas (Nikolaus) is said to fill the shoe with sweets, fruit, or small gifts if the child has been good.
In Caracas, Venezuela, one tradition I know of (called “las patinatas”) is that throughout the Christmas season, people often roller‑skate to early‑morning church services called “Misa de Gallo” (the cockerel’s mass), in the days leading up to Christmas. In this tradition, children sometimes go to bed with a piece of string tied around their toe and the other end hanging out the window. The next morning, as people pass by on roller skates on their way to Mass, they gently tug the string to wake the children, signalling that it is time to rise and join the procession. After Mass ends, families often gather together in the streets and in one another’s homes to share food (like hallacas (savoury corn dough parcels) and pan de jamón (ham bread)) enjoy traditional music (such as Gaita), and dance as part of the Christmas celebrations.
The Philippines is famous for having the longest Christmas season in the world, Christmas celebrations often begin as early as September and can continue all the way into January. Christmas celebrations include hanging parols (star-shaped lanterns made of bamboo and paper), children going from house to house singing Christmas carols with homemade instruments (pangangaroling), and attending Simbang Gabi, which is a series of nine dawn Masses leading up to Christmas Eve. On Christmas Eve, families gather for Noche Buena, a grand family dinner often enjoyed after the midnight Mass (Misa de Gallo). The feast may feature traditional Filipino food like lechon (roast pig), glazed ham, bibingka (rice cake), and puto bumbong (purple rice cake steamed in bamboo tubes).
In Germany, Christmas Eve (called Heiligabend) on December 24th is the main day for celebrating Christmas. That’s when most families decorate the Christmas tree and open presents together in the evening, even though December 25th and 26th are also public holidays. German Christmas traditions include advent calendars, Christmas markets singing carols and traditional Christmas food and drink like Glühwein (spiced mulled wine), Stollen (fruit bread), and Lebkuchen (spiced gingerbread).
There’s also a special day known as St. Nicholas Day (Nikolaustag). On the night of December 5th, children in many parts of Germany clean a boot or shoe and leave it outside the door. On the morning of December 6th, St. Nicholas (Nikolaus) is said to fill the shoe with sweets, fruit, or small gifts if the child has been good.
In Caracas, Venezuela, one tradition I know of (called “las patinatas”) is that throughout the Christmas season, people often roller‑skate to early‑morning church services called “Misa de Gallo” (the cockerel’s mass), in the days leading up to Christmas. In this tradition, children sometimes go to bed with a piece of string tied around their toe and the other end hanging out the window. The next morning, as people pass by on roller skates on their way to Mass, they gently tug the string to wake the children, signalling that it is time to rise and join the procession. After Mass ends, families often gather together in the streets and in one another’s homes to share food (like hallacas (savoury corn dough parcels) and pan de jamón (ham bread)) enjoy traditional music (such as Gaita), and dance as part of the Christmas celebrations.
The Philippines is famous for having the longest Christmas season in the world, Christmas celebrations often begin as early as September and can continue all the way into January. Christmas celebrations include hanging parols (star-shaped lanterns made of bamboo and paper), children going from house to house singing Christmas carols with homemade instruments (pangangaroling), and attending Simbang Gabi, which is a series of nine dawn Masses leading up to Christmas Eve. On Christmas Eve, families gather for Noche Buena, a grand family dinner often enjoyed after the midnight Mass (Misa de Gallo). The feast may feature traditional Filipino food like lechon (roast pig), glazed ham, bibingka (rice cake), and puto bumbong (purple rice cake steamed in bamboo tubes).
Ech0
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Re: Social stuff
It sounds like today stirred up a lot that’s been building over the year, and it completely makes sense to wonder about situations like that. Having moments where things come out differently than we hoped doesn’t take away from who you are. Sometimes choosing not to go along with something can feel awkward, and it isn’t always received warmly, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it was wrong. Even when things feel uncomfortable or misunderstood, the fact that you stayed true to yourself matters. If you wish to share more about it, we’re here to listen.
Ech0
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Intrusive Thoughts (food and eating)
I don't normally reach out on here as much as I should really. I guess I have a habit of bottling things up before its too late and then I feel anxious.
Recently I've been having intrusive thoughts but its to do with eating and food. Normally I love food, I enjoy every moment of when I get to eat. But as of lately I haven't been feeling great as I have been getting intrusive thoughts which tell me the food looks bad or something worse.
Recently I've been having intrusive thoughts but its to do with eating and food. Normally I love food, I enjoy every moment of when I get to eat. But as of lately I haven't been feeling great as I have been getting intrusive thoughts which tell me the food looks bad or something worse.
Sometimes it will tell me that the food is something gross like worms or something
. I think it has stemmed from possibly im a celeb being on and me having sensory issues watching that show as well as recently learning about healthy eating in my college class/internship im doing. I hate that I have been like this. I feel ungrateful because I think of those things then I make a noise and dont feel like eating. I should be more grateful because eating is important and some people don't have food either. I just feel like my intrusive thoughts are silly or stupid. I need to grow up to be fair. 
Amy22
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Re: Christmas Around the World
It's so fun to think about how the day looks different for people but is still filled with the same joy! I'm pretty sure Japan celebrate with a KFC and in Korea it's common to head to the club
I've heard about Japan doing this on Christmas day. So how they celebrate is that quite often families will treat themselves to a KFC bucket meal. KFC in response to this often ramps up their marketing of their buckets and stuff to get people to order KFC on Christmas Day in Japan.
Amy22
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