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Re: What are you listening to?
I've gone ahead and edited the description @Rose113 hope that helps! Thank you for your feedback 
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Re: What are you listening to?
Sorry it feels confusing, @Rose113. We thought this would be a nice space to discuss music and maybe share some of the playlists you really like or you are listening to right now. Here is the community playlist of the week!
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Re: feeling silly - tw// self harm
@Invisible_me i think i’m feeling frustrated with myself because i can’t just talk in sessions? i hate social situations, when she asks a question i cannot think in the moment and just panic as she is sat patiently waiting on a response so i say i don’t know:/
thank you again🩷
thank you again🩷
Re: Occupational Therapy
@Asillyautisticfrog it very much depends on the reason you’re having it. I had it back in 2023, I’m disabled so it was partly for that but partly for mental health. They can do onward referrals if you need them to specific teams, they referred me into the sensory impairment team and it turned out I had been out of that system since I left school (by that point nearly 5 years).
A lot of it is about practical strategies you can use to help whatever you’re struggling with, and learning new ways to cope. Tbh I hardly remember what it was like (that time of my life is a massive blur that I would rather forget anyway) but I think I did find talking to the lady helpful.
A lot of it is about practical strategies you can use to help whatever you’re struggling with, and learning new ways to cope. Tbh I hardly remember what it was like (that time of my life is a massive blur that I would rather forget anyway) but I think I did find talking to the lady helpful.
Re: Autism
hey @nem - it can be really difficult to get diagnosed, or even just listened to at all sadly:(
i know from my experience, having evidence from professionals for long enough wasn’t enough to even get anywhere!!! though now, i am finally being listened to.
i’m sure you have already done this, but definitely do your research n everything to help support you with being listened to by professionals if you want to look into it further - it helps a lot.
wait lists are also really long too sadly, so even when you are listened to, you’ll have a ridiculously long time to wait!
i hope it works out for you❤️
i know from my experience, having evidence from professionals for long enough wasn’t enough to even get anywhere!!! though now, i am finally being listened to.
i’m sure you have already done this, but definitely do your research n everything to help support you with being listened to by professionals if you want to look into it further - it helps a lot.
wait lists are also really long too sadly, so even when you are listened to, you’ll have a ridiculously long time to wait!
i hope it works out for you❤️
Lesbian Strugglessss
I recently developed a crush on one of my female classmates. I don't think I can just 'act normal' around her but I don't want to tell people (even her) that I'm a lesbian yet.
What should I do?
What should I do?
(TW self harm and Suicide) Being openly vulnerable was a fucking mistake
I want to clarify that I don’t believe I am 100% innocent in this situation. I don’t consider myself a morally good person because I let my emotions get in the way and make stupid decisions. I’m sure I’ve vented about this topic so many times on this website.
But for context, I grew up ugly and was teased a lot for it. The most common tactic I received was boys PRETENDING to be attracted to me or asking me out as a joke. I’m still ugly, and I still receive this sort of treatment in adulthood from coworkers or strangers. Obviously, having to deal with it a lot has convinced me that I’ll never find love because I’m too ugly, and that anyone who was to ask me out is lying and trying to humiliate me in front of their friends.
Having to deal with this mindset on a daily basis has led to me harming myself and making suicide plans/attempts in the past.
Eventually, this immense hopelessness leads to anger and I would vent a lot to my coworkers about how much I hated those who have bullied me like this at work. There was an old bully who I’ve heard is leaving work and I said I could cry from happiness because he was a prick to me in the past. This is where I was 100% in the wrong. Instead of letting go of the bullying incidents, I would vent a lot to my coworkers about how much I hated him. I told people:
•I wanted to end my life because of him
•I’ve relapsed and harmed myself because of him
•I’ve been to therapy because of him
•I would wear a mask in public because of the bullying
My bully sent a message asking why I called him a prick and said I’d cry from happiness. I saw his message two hours late and spent hours writing my long response. He got impatient and said “no answer because I haven’t done anything. Just as I thought".
I immediately responded by saying I’m still writing my answer because “I've got a lot I wanted to discuss”. Overall, my response included 15 paragraphs.
The first paragraph includes me taking full responsibility and acknowledging my actions were wrong.
The second paragraph includes me saying there’s nothing he should do, and it’s my responsibility to fix the issue.
The third paragraph includes me stating that my explanation for why I hate him shouldn’t be used as a justification for my decisions.
The fourth to ninth paragraph is an explanation for how he would humiliate me by pretending to be attracted to me in order to make his friends laugh. I also try to defend him and saying his actions were “playful banter” and I took it too personally. In addition, I explained how I’ve been treated this way a lot, which ruined my self esteem and made me deal with self harm and suicidal ideation.
During the tenth paragraph, I explain how I shouldn’t blame others for my mental health issues and that it’s my responsibility.
During the eleventh paragraph, I said I don’t expect an apology because of how I’ve treated him. I’ve said that my insecurities and hypersensitivity isn’t an excuse.
For the twelfth paragraph, I’ve acknowledged what I say isn’t gonna undo my actions, but I offered an apology and stated how it’s time I “get my shit together” and learn how to cope in a healthy manner.
During the thirteenth paragraph, I told him that my negative comments doesn’t reflect poorly on him, but on me. I’ve brought up the fact that everyone loves him for his humor and that others have said they’ll miss him when he leaves.
The fourteenth paragraph is an apology for the delayed response and said I hope my response offers some closure, even if there’s a few flaws.
Lastly, I end the fifteenth paragraph by apologising for ending things on a bad note. Then I told him that I hope he enjoys his last shifts with the rest of the team. I’ve stated “Don’t let my selfish actions distract you from the fact that there is a massive group of people who you’ve left a positive impact on with your humorous personality, and will miss you alot when you leave.”
Then I recieved a short response, ignoring everything else I’ve stated: “So you hated me because I said to my mates I was attracted to you supposedly?”
Then he accused me of telling others that I dated him in high school. In response, I claimed it was false because “we didn’t even go to the same school” and told him that someone either misinterpreted what I said or is purposely lying. I kept asking him who told him that rumour, saying “I can talk to them and confirm it’s false”, but he kept dodging the question. He then asked me for examples, which I provided three incidents.
He asked for further details on the first and third incident, completely forgetting the second example. Only for him to get pissed when I don’t explain the second incident by saying “And the second incident is irrelevant because that was your imagination”. 😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
After giving further details on the second incident, he said that what he did wasn’t “remotely bad. They all sound like I was trying to be nice” - Yeah, continuously trying to embarrass the new girl by pretending to like her whilst BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, just to make me the butt of the joke in front of her coworkers, leading to me struggling mentally is totally nice.
He ended the conversation by saying “I think you need to find some help. Like therapy or something”. I can’t tell if he means it out of concern or as another insult. Either way, he’s not wrong.
Overall, I was too fucking nice to him. I thought he was innocent, but my suspicions are right. Now he can use my mental health issues as a weapon against me to convince others I’m crazy.
🙃
But for context, I grew up ugly and was teased a lot for it. The most common tactic I received was boys PRETENDING to be attracted to me or asking me out as a joke. I’m still ugly, and I still receive this sort of treatment in adulthood from coworkers or strangers. Obviously, having to deal with it a lot has convinced me that I’ll never find love because I’m too ugly, and that anyone who was to ask me out is lying and trying to humiliate me in front of their friends.
Having to deal with this mindset on a daily basis has led to me harming myself and making suicide plans/attempts in the past.
Eventually, this immense hopelessness leads to anger and I would vent a lot to my coworkers about how much I hated those who have bullied me like this at work. There was an old bully who I’ve heard is leaving work and I said I could cry from happiness because he was a prick to me in the past. This is where I was 100% in the wrong. Instead of letting go of the bullying incidents, I would vent a lot to my coworkers about how much I hated him. I told people:
•I wanted to end my life because of him
•I’ve relapsed and harmed myself because of him
•I’ve been to therapy because of him
•I would wear a mask in public because of the bullying
My bully sent a message asking why I called him a prick and said I’d cry from happiness. I saw his message two hours late and spent hours writing my long response. He got impatient and said “no answer because I haven’t done anything. Just as I thought".
I immediately responded by saying I’m still writing my answer because “I've got a lot I wanted to discuss”. Overall, my response included 15 paragraphs.
The first paragraph includes me taking full responsibility and acknowledging my actions were wrong.
The second paragraph includes me saying there’s nothing he should do, and it’s my responsibility to fix the issue.
The third paragraph includes me stating that my explanation for why I hate him shouldn’t be used as a justification for my decisions.
The fourth to ninth paragraph is an explanation for how he would humiliate me by pretending to be attracted to me in order to make his friends laugh. I also try to defend him and saying his actions were “playful banter” and I took it too personally. In addition, I explained how I’ve been treated this way a lot, which ruined my self esteem and made me deal with self harm and suicidal ideation.
During the tenth paragraph, I explain how I shouldn’t blame others for my mental health issues and that it’s my responsibility.
During the eleventh paragraph, I said I don’t expect an apology because of how I’ve treated him. I’ve said that my insecurities and hypersensitivity isn’t an excuse.
For the twelfth paragraph, I’ve acknowledged what I say isn’t gonna undo my actions, but I offered an apology and stated how it’s time I “get my shit together” and learn how to cope in a healthy manner.
During the thirteenth paragraph, I told him that my negative comments doesn’t reflect poorly on him, but on me. I’ve brought up the fact that everyone loves him for his humor and that others have said they’ll miss him when he leaves.
The fourteenth paragraph is an apology for the delayed response and said I hope my response offers some closure, even if there’s a few flaws.
Lastly, I end the fifteenth paragraph by apologising for ending things on a bad note. Then I told him that I hope he enjoys his last shifts with the rest of the team. I’ve stated “Don’t let my selfish actions distract you from the fact that there is a massive group of people who you’ve left a positive impact on with your humorous personality, and will miss you alot when you leave.”
Then I recieved a short response, ignoring everything else I’ve stated: “So you hated me because I said to my mates I was attracted to you supposedly?”
Then he accused me of telling others that I dated him in high school. In response, I claimed it was false because “we didn’t even go to the same school” and told him that someone either misinterpreted what I said or is purposely lying. I kept asking him who told him that rumour, saying “I can talk to them and confirm it’s false”, but he kept dodging the question. He then asked me for examples, which I provided three incidents.
He asked for further details on the first and third incident, completely forgetting the second example. Only for him to get pissed when I don’t explain the second incident by saying “And the second incident is irrelevant because that was your imagination”. 😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫
After giving further details on the second incident, he said that what he did wasn’t “remotely bad. They all sound like I was trying to be nice” - Yeah, continuously trying to embarrass the new girl by pretending to like her whilst BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, just to make me the butt of the joke in front of her coworkers, leading to me struggling mentally is totally nice.
He ended the conversation by saying “I think you need to find some help. Like therapy or something”. I can’t tell if he means it out of concern or as another insult. Either way, he’s not wrong.
Overall, I was too fucking nice to him. I thought he was innocent, but my suspicions are right. Now he can use my mental health issues as a weapon against me to convince others I’m crazy.
🙃
What are you listening to?
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