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Re: having a rly hard day 💔
bignosegirly0 wrote: »Hey, I’m genuinely sorry that you’ve been having a tough time mentally.
It doesn’t matter whether there are people who are suffering more or less than you. If you’re suffering and struggling to cope, then you need support. A broken arm isn’t less important than bleeding wound. All mental issues deserves treatment, no matter how big or small.
Also, don’t apologise for this post. You’re not being “worthless”. The whole point of this website is for those who are struggling to cope to reach out for the support they desperately need. It’s obvious that you’re crying out for help, and there’s no shame in that. You deserve to be heard and offered support.
I know nothing about what you’re going through right now. But judging by how you blame yourself for expressing your struggles, I could imagine that this mindset didn’t come from nowhere. I’m worried that you’ve dealt with too many unempathetic and uneducated people who felt the need to bring you down when you desperately expressed the need for help. And if that’s the case, I want you to know that you did not deserve to be treated the way you did. It doesn’t mean that you’ve done anything wrong, it just reflects how unempathetic and unloving they are.
I know it’s easier said than done, but please don’t be harsh on yourself. You’ve already been mistreated enough, so please don’t become your own bully.
I hope you take care of yourself. I understand you’re in a really dark place right now. But no matter how you cope, you will survive it, just like how you’ve survived previous dark moments.
I wish you the best and I hope you heal 🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶
thankyou so much it rly means a lot to me for you replying to me. your wording is beautiful btw i rly appreciate everything.


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Re: Hi
Hi @shannon_164 ! The waiting list can be pretty long but I did it privately. Hope you don't have too much longer to wait
Hi
I'm new here and I'm autistic (I was diagnosed last September) is anyone else here autistic?
Re: feeling silly - tw// self harm
shannon_164 wrote: »@Invisible_me thank you so much i appreciate it🩷
i just feel so frustrated with myself i guess?
i do see a psychologist and she has been super helpful, and sooo understanding too - she is amazing!!
That's good she's helpful...
Why you feel frustrated? Don't feel frustrated at self harming it's understandable but uts your coping strategy ans we all cope in different ways yes while self harm isn't a healthy way of coping it's your way for now and your getting support to find healthier ways of coping.. it takes time to break a habit but the more you try sh coping mechanisms the easier it will become..
Re: appointment
Hey @shannon_164
I’m sorry the appointment didn’t go very well
you said you struggle to communicate so I was wondering would you be able to email the person to let her know that she ain’t doing anything wrong.
I noticed you said that she isn’t the problem and that you feel like you are which I just wanted to say that neither of you are the problem it’s the communication isssues that are which is okay because a lot of people struggle with communicating but we can find ways around that
Sending you hugs 💕
I’m sorry the appointment didn’t go very well

I noticed you said that she isn’t the problem and that you feel like you are which I just wanted to say that neither of you are the problem it’s the communication isssues that are which is okay because a lot of people struggle with communicating but we can find ways around that
Sending you hugs 💕

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Re: appointment
Hey @shannon_164 ❤️. You’re not the problem, and you don’t need to feel guilty. Therapy is a process, and some sessions are just tougher than others. Your psychologist clearly cares and wants to help you’re not failing, and neither is she. Please be kind to yourself.
Consented referal/advocacy
Hello..
So I have been in contact with a helpline and over these years of contact ive disclosed certain stuff. Alongside my autism diagnosis they feel further support is needed both me and my family. Theyre concerned if "emotional abuse " but I dobt feel it is yes when things are bad which can be at varying frequency thry can put me down, swear, call me a burden and all those things but I just think that given its not everyday all the time it's not abuse. They're also fel mum needs further support for her mental health because she has made comments if "going away", several tears ago ran away to train station but she was found in distress and even now at times shell go without eating or leaving home.
Therefore they are wanting to make a referral to adult social care or speak to my GP abd explain what'd going on to her so that the dhr can deal with this. However, I'm scared to allow them to speak to my GP.
Mt GP I do like get along with and she still sees me despite not seeing patients anymore so we have got a relationship i think, and i roughly see her a couple of times a yearm she knows my autism abd struggles and while she probably has a feel that I don't feel my parents are support if my autism she isn't aware of the stuff that goes on at home.
I'm not at risk and nor if it a household full of emotional abuse bu it can be a difficult environment.
I'm unsure whether to let this service go ahead with this referral as scared what wojld happen next but also what gp/ other reception staff, care coordinator would think. Like o knlw the concerns would be passed to gp but reception would pick it up first so theyll knoe its about me and from this charity helpine. Then the care coordinator woukd find out.
Also how does safeguarding abd home environment relat to gp (could be because if MH concerns for mum and my) . I've asked to see my doc as a follow up from after holiday (seeing I cancelled my jan app) and I'm seeing her wed- hope the weather doesn't play up though, )
Its difficult things were really bad before Christmas but since we've come bavk from holiday It's not been too bad other than ummm.
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So I have been in contact with a helpline and over these years of contact ive disclosed certain stuff. Alongside my autism diagnosis they feel further support is needed both me and my family. Theyre concerned if "emotional abuse " but I dobt feel it is yes when things are bad which can be at varying frequency thry can put me down, swear, call me a burden and all those things but I just think that given its not everyday all the time it's not abuse. They're also fel mum needs further support for her mental health because she has made comments if "going away", several tears ago ran away to train station but she was found in distress and even now at times shell go without eating or leaving home.
Therefore they are wanting to make a referral to adult social care or speak to my GP abd explain what'd going on to her so that the dhr can deal with this. However, I'm scared to allow them to speak to my GP.
Mt GP I do like get along with and she still sees me despite not seeing patients anymore so we have got a relationship i think, and i roughly see her a couple of times a yearm she knows my autism abd struggles and while she probably has a feel that I don't feel my parents are support if my autism she isn't aware of the stuff that goes on at home.
I'm not at risk and nor if it a household full of emotional abuse bu it can be a difficult environment.
I'm unsure whether to let this service go ahead with this referral as scared what wojld happen next but also what gp/ other reception staff, care coordinator would think. Like o knlw the concerns would be passed to gp but reception would pick it up first so theyll knoe its about me and from this charity helpine. Then the care coordinator woukd find out.
Also how does safeguarding abd home environment relat to gp (could be because if MH concerns for mum and my) . I've asked to see my doc as a follow up from after holiday (seeing I cancelled my jan app) and I'm seeing her wed- hope the weather doesn't play up though, )
Its difficult things were really bad before Christmas but since we've come bavk from holiday It's not been too bad other than ummm.
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marriage talks beginning (but have been quiet for a week)
Re: having a rly hard day 💔
just opened up to my fav nurse on ward abt my thoughts and she is telling the consultant which im scared abt bc i want to get help but not in hospital but i dont think i will have leave as they said abt me staying in here for bit. im safe i feel much better talking abt how i feel. but now its of my shoulders.
i have no suicidal thoughts or plans. im safe
. im glad i was brave and talked to her.
edit just spoke to the nurse again to say thankyou bc she was rly kind to me and listened to me. she said tmr ill talk to the consultant again as discharge is next wednesday so hopefully that will help.


edit just spoke to the nurse again to say thankyou bc she was rly kind to me and listened to me. she said tmr ill talk to the consultant again as discharge is next wednesday so hopefully that will help.


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