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Re: It’s fucking with my head again
Hey @Sian321 im safe but idk I kinda just don’t want my life anymore 
Since I was in contact with my birth mom I thought I’d get the answer to everything but she just lies through her teeth and denies everything that happened
I was with my mum (the one that adopted me). I haven’t been looking after me and I know I should but just letting myself go downhill completely
Since I was in contact with my birth mom I thought I’d get the answer to everything but she just lies through her teeth and denies everything that happened
I was with my mum (the one that adopted me). I haven’t been looking after me and I know I should but just letting myself go downhill completely
Rose113
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Borderline personality disorder
I probably have BPD
My mood can fluctuate a million times a day
Last night I was screaming at my mum, rn I’m sorta chill in a cafe , earlier I was crying about my eating disorder in another cafe then feeling stressed/ very concentrated on the bus
My mood can fluctuate a million times a day
Last night I was screaming at my mum, rn I’m sorta chill in a cafe , earlier I was crying about my eating disorder in another cafe then feeling stressed/ very concentrated on the bus
nem
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Re: Over 25s guideline
Hey, @TheNightmare , thank you so much for your posts here, and for sharing your feelings on this. We take your feelings on board, and it is absolutely valid that things have felt unclear, confusing, and dissapointing when it comes to the ways we've been communicating / not communicating changes to our Age Remit policy here on Community.
@Sian321 appreciate you all taking accountability too for it, I don't want to be critising the community really because overall it's still an amazing and got me through tougher times, it's helped me a lot and still is. It just sucks to hear others being unhappy with stuff with the merge like mods and other members etc.
Re: (TW suicide) keeping getting job rejections makes me want to kill myself
@Laura_tigger82 im not feeling hopeful. Overall, I’ve received two interviews. But the rest of my job applications is just rejection after rejection. This has been going on since summer last year.
I don’t mind whether it’s a normal or creative job. I just want a job where I fit in and not hated by everyone.
I don’t mind whether it’s a normal or creative job. I just want a job where I fit in and not hated by everyone.
Re: (TW suicide) keeping getting job rejections makes me want to kill myself
You deserve to feel valued at work @bignosegirly0. I can hear the length of time this has been going on for is particularly difficult 
Some pointers I have become aware of are: the importance of targeting applications to the job criteria on the job description and the STAR technique. The STAR technique is where you outline:
The situation (usually the first sentence of the criteria)
The task you have achieved which has shown you meet the criteria
The action you took to achieve the technique
The result of meeting the criteria. I often also link the result to how it could benefit the employer you are applying to.
Do you feel like this might be something helpful for you too, or is there something else you think might be more helpful? Have any employers provided feedback on why your applications have not led to interviews or why the interviews might have been unsuccessful?
The competition can also make it really difficult, despite how strong you might be in your applications and interviews! How are you coping with the process - does anything, in particular, help you to switch off?
Some pointers I have become aware of are: the importance of targeting applications to the job criteria on the job description and the STAR technique. The STAR technique is where you outline:
The situation (usually the first sentence of the criteria)
The task you have achieved which has shown you meet the criteria
The action you took to achieve the technique
The result of meeting the criteria. I often also link the result to how it could benefit the employer you are applying to.
Do you feel like this might be something helpful for you too, or is there something else you think might be more helpful? Have any employers provided feedback on why your applications have not led to interviews or why the interviews might have been unsuccessful?
The competition can also make it really difficult, despite how strong you might be in your applications and interviews! How are you coping with the process - does anything, in particular, help you to switch off?
Re: Support
That sounds really difficult @nem Is there ever a plan of someone picking you up or public transport? Could you plan transport routes and times with someone?
Is there ever a plan of someone picking you up or public transport? Could you plan transport routes and times with someone? Re: frustrated
I hear you, @struggling0_0 - it's hurts. You're really hurt to have this done to you, and it sounds like you value this organisation a lot because they're a place you can connect with volunteers with lived expereince. You just want to be listened to and you just want to be heard. That makes so much sense
I can imagine you might be feeling a bit in shock right now / trying to process this ban that's suddenly come into affect. It sounds really confusing and like it's come very much out of the blue.
As you say, you hadn't wished to disrespect anyone, but to express your frustration. Rather than calling anyone 'out' it sounds like you'd been trying to call them 'in' - to say hey, I'm really needing this service right now, and it's exhausting have to wait this long only to be turned away. You had been trying to let them in to how you were feeling.
What do you need this afternoon, @struggling0_0 ? I hear you say you feel so, so drained. It's okay not to have the answers right now about what you want to do next or where you want to go from here in response to the ban. I hope you can take some space this afternoon. Keep us posted. All of us on Community are here.
I can imagine you might be feeling a bit in shock right now / trying to process this ban that's suddenly come into affect. It sounds really confusing and like it's come very much out of the blue.
As you say, you hadn't wished to disrespect anyone, but to express your frustration. Rather than calling anyone 'out' it sounds like you'd been trying to call them 'in' - to say hey, I'm really needing this service right now, and it's exhausting have to wait this long only to be turned away. You had been trying to let them in to how you were feeling.
What do you need this afternoon, @struggling0_0 ? I hear you say you feel so, so drained. It's okay not to have the answers right now about what you want to do next or where you want to go from here in response to the ban. I hope you can take some space this afternoon. Keep us posted. All of us on Community are here.
Sian321
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Re: Support
I can really hear how you would feel tired with only 5 hours sleep a night @nem and the stress you are experiencing too. Is there something in particular which is causing you to have sleep difficulties at the moment? It sounds like stress is a big factor, especially with being at home.
In which ways is being at home currently feeling unbearable? Have you managed to talk to anyone about this? You deserve support to feel comfortable where you live. I can hear how this stress has been causing you to scream a lot too.
You have mentioned your skin has got worse and you have been getting a bit sick. Could this stress and lack of sleep be impacting your skin and causing you to get a bit sick?
In which ways is being at home currently feeling unbearable? Have you managed to talk to anyone about this? You deserve support to feel comfortable where you live. I can hear how this stress has been causing you to scream a lot too.
You have mentioned your skin has got worse and you have been getting a bit sick. Could this stress and lack of sleep be impacting your skin and causing you to get a bit sick?