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Summer clothes 🌞
Feeling overwhelmed by summer clothing? Remember, we’re all on our own journeys with confidence.
What helps you to feel most comfortable in the summer? 🌞
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What helps you to feel most comfortable in the summer? 🌞
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Feeling worried about summer clothes?
Summer can be a really stress inducing time if we don't feel entirely comfortable in our bodies. Summer clothes often show off more of our body than we are used to in the winter months and there can be pressure around having the 'right' clothes for summertime events, like holidays or festivals. Feeling self-conscious might stop us from wearing certain clothes or even cause us to retreat and miss out on certain activities.
We might feel anxious about getting our bodies out because of anxiety surrounding our weight or the way our bodies appear. Maybe we think our thighs are too big for shorts, our arms are too skinny for vests, or our tummies are too lumpy for swimwear. We might also struggle with being unable to cover SH scars and worry people may see or comment on them.
It sounds cliché but it's important to remember that human beings are diverse, and our bodies reflect that. We don't all look the same and that is wonderful! However, feeling confident in ourselves is a process and it is valid for you to go at your own pace and wear what feels comfortable. The same goes for whether you cover your SH scars or not. This will always be a personal choice and depends on where you are in your journey.
5 tips for feeling as confident as possible
Summer can be a really stress inducing time if we don't feel entirely comfortable in our bodies. Summer clothes often show off more of our body than we are used to in the winter months and there can be pressure around having the 'right' clothes for summertime events, like holidays or festivals. Feeling self-conscious might stop us from wearing certain clothes or even cause us to retreat and miss out on certain activities.
We might feel anxious about getting our bodies out because of anxiety surrounding our weight or the way our bodies appear. Maybe we think our thighs are too big for shorts, our arms are too skinny for vests, or our tummies are too lumpy for swimwear. We might also struggle with being unable to cover SH scars and worry people may see or comment on them.
It sounds cliché but it's important to remember that human beings are diverse, and our bodies reflect that. We don't all look the same and that is wonderful! However, feeling confident in ourselves is a process and it is valid for you to go at your own pace and wear what feels comfortable. The same goes for whether you cover your SH scars or not. This will always be a personal choice and depends on where you are in your journey.
5 tips for feeling as confident as possible
- If you're experimenting with new types of clothes, find a few items that reflect your personal style and limits and invest wisely, rather than buying what everyone else is wearing.
- If you're opting for cover ups, look around for linen, cotton and silk as these can be more breathable. If these are too expensive, keep an eye out for second hand options.
- Start slow by wearing clothes you feel less confident in around people you feel secure with. This may help to normalise it in your mind first!
- Remember festivals and holidays are one-time events and you will probably feel more confident if you stick to your personal style, rather than buying into a micro trend!
- If swimwear is a trigger for you, you could bring a light cover-up to wear in-between swims and spend the time shopping around to find a type of swimsuit that makes you feel confident.
Gemma
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Re: I want to escape from myself
Just wanted to add and say I'm also very glad you're here with us Chloe.
It might be a good idea to see if you can get referred to CAMHS if you think it can give you the support you need - it's definitely worth trying and seeing what comes from it.
I know it's hard having lost the school support since leaving - it's a major change where you ultimately feel on your own again.
As for distractions, is there anything new that you're interested in trying or doing that you haven't done so far that could be accessible to you and easy to do? - it doesn't have to be anything big, just something that can take your mind of things for a bit.
Remember you can come to us on here whenever you need to and we all love you and value you as a member of the community.
Sending you a big hug
Sinead
It might be a good idea to see if you can get referred to CAMHS if you think it can give you the support you need - it's definitely worth trying and seeing what comes from it.
I know it's hard having lost the school support since leaving - it's a major change where you ultimately feel on your own again.
As for distractions, is there anything new that you're interested in trying or doing that you haven't done so far that could be accessible to you and easy to do? - it doesn't have to be anything big, just something that can take your mind of things for a bit.
Remember you can come to us on here whenever you need to and we all love you and value you as a member of the community.
Sending you a big hug
Sinead
Re: How do you make friends??? (At uni or just in general)
I was terrified of starting university - I was scared I wouldn’t fit in or find anyone I liked But trust me when I say your find your peoples, you truly do.
My first few months I found it hard , I didn’t really know what to do or how to make friends and then I discovered the Neurodiverse society and the LGBTQ society. That’s where I found my people and that’s what helped me get through my Uni.
Maybe have alook at what societies your uni has before freshers fair - your be suprised on that’s there is literally one for everything … ours even had a Taylor swift society 😂
My first few months I found it hard , I didn’t really know what to do or how to make friends and then I discovered the Neurodiverse society and the LGBTQ society. That’s where I found my people and that’s what helped me get through my Uni.
Maybe have alook at what societies your uni has before freshers fair - your be suprised on that’s there is literally one for everything … ours even had a Taylor swift society 😂
Re: Do you use Snapchat? 👻
I do but only to see what my friends/family are up to and to talk to them. Usually I’m on and off it in 5 mins.
It could work but I guess it depends on what the goal is.
I’d be more likely to watch, like and comment on TheMix content on platforms like insta stories/reels , tiktok , YouTube shorts .. and that’s about it for me😅
The Mix content used to come up on my tiktok fyp and i wasn’t even following so it does reach people
It could work but I guess it depends on what the goal is.
I’d be more likely to watch, like and comment on TheMix content on platforms like insta stories/reels , tiktok , YouTube shorts .. and that’s about it for me😅
The Mix content used to come up on my tiktok fyp and i wasn’t even following so it does reach people
Re: 2024 Election Results | Labour landslide - how do you feel about it?
I definitely agree that PR is the way to go. We have a version of it in Scotland and it does work quite well in that parties like the greens get more seats in the regional vote. However reform and their policies frankly terrify me, so in a small way it's a worth a celebration (though that is my opinion and is not shared by all)
Re: How do you make friends??? (At uni or just in general)
Also! Having a weird interest or thing about you is quite a good thing in more adult spaces. It helps separate you from other people and gives them a reason to be curious about you.AnonymousToe wrote: »Another thing, I was bullied in primary school, and that experience taught me to hide everything about myself and just pretend to be like everyone else. Do I need to do that at uni?? Because it’s kind of impossible to be true friends with someone when you’re literally a fake person with them. It’s exhausting too. I dont know if that sounds horrible, but I just mean I pretend to be interested in the same things they are, so they’ll accept me..
JustV
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