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Stressed. Trying to stay well. Peer support training.

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  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 29

    Finished first day and omg i have like 4 parts of home work to do when get home for to be ready tomoorrow. Mostly just reading stuff tho. And have w massive folder that doesnt fit in my only big bag i have.   


    Im soo stressed but hopeful and feel okay but stressed at sane time. 


    And its so nice at the end we do validations of two other people and ourselves. And they wrote to me i made their day enjoyable and other person wrote i was anxious and have quevered vioce but gave a calm friendly atsphome and fought through anxiety. 

    My challegene now is to get home on two buses  with massive folder lol. And then prepare for tomorrow


    And have massive head ache

    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Aidan
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Bpd bitch ✌🏼 Posts: 674 Incredible Poster
    Proud of you Shaunie you're doing amazing! 
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
    Shaunie
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck South Oxfordshire (homophobic Oxfordshire) Posts: 730 Incredible Poster
    Well done @Shaunie, stay strong ❤️
    Love is love and everyone is accepting and can share their issues with no judge from me and I try to help 
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 30
    Thank you <3

    but i am totally overwhelmed since properly looking at the folder and the questions. After EVERY module we have two essay questions with word limits of like 1,000 for our portfolios. And all needs to be done by like beginining of June 😥😥😥 the stress of it. Lol. Aswell of stressing about work expereince, commucation assessment, exam, lessons, assigments & being informally assessed through out. All in a month. 

    Do you think it would be pretty lazy of me to call in sick for one of my weekends at primark?
    just thinking about my black under my eyes this morning. Lol. Probs over dramatic

    & im just thinking i really dont know if all will overwhelme me too much. And i need time to work on my spelling lol let alone the assigments. Everyone else has the weekends. And i need money but feel like this is more important than money & primark

    This is what am doing today for "colour & connection"


    Apparently lot of words to remember tomorrow :////


    Also first time i posted on my social media that have mental health. - took picture of booklet and that was first day training as peer support worker so can use my struggle of MH to support others. & all that - that was on my instagram story. And   Well i mean i guess im going to have be open about my mental health.... when its the reason im training lol & hopeful my career if dont die from stress lol. . Just never posted cause hardly post much anyways & never relevant &  is not that am ashamed of it.But yeah anyway. My "friends" dont know have MH illness and was suprising how many people (i know from ages ago or know now) messaged me & congrats and all that !

    which was quite nice

    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Millie2787davcr0ckJellyelephantAife
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 30
    Helpp:(((

    i am too stressed and anxious and feel like crying and going home 😭😭😭😭😭
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Aifedavcr0ck
  • AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,028 Staff Moderator
    I'm sorry you're feeling stressed and anxious. You're almost halfway through today, you can do this <3 

    How's it going today? We're here if you want to chat :) 
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    Thank you Aife!  Just was having to read out loud and started stuttering and embarrassing and i felt like people was laughing and we have to role play communcation assessment today. Doesnt say that on timetable ffs. 

    Will not go home tho lol as tempting as can be 
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Aifedavcr0ck
  • AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,028 Staff Moderator
    Hey @Shaunie ;

    I'm sorry they didn't prepare you for the role play assessment today. I know it's hard not being prepared for these things. Try and remember how many skills you already have. You're amazing at supporting others and always know the right things to say. You can definitely do this! 

    With the reading out loud, try not to worry too much about what other people think. These things are challenging and you're doing the best you can. I hope the rest of the day goes okay. Keep us updated with how it goes <3
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 30
    Thank you Aife <3
    Rationalise it - dont think they was laughing. And just trying hard to think. 


    is just really overwhelming and a lot to take on. Because there is "recovery lanaguage" - it doesnt sound it but its completely different. we cant say "im sorry to hear that....." we should say "i can hear that you are saying....". We cant say diagnoses. Like cant say psychosis - have to say "hearing things" and all sort of things like not saying "but" cause like for example soemone says they went to the shop but was really anxious. - you DO NOT say - "i can hear you felt anxious BUT it is good you went out" you cant say stuff like that the " but" because its dismissive of how they actually felt. Say "i can hear you felt anxious, can i just honour the fact you still made it out". And hard to remember  and small things like that. And COMPLETLY different to how health professionals speak. 

    And really hurting my head and very so much to take on. 

    After my days are finished. ---Can i like write a whole massive paragraphs of everything ive learnt that day & reasons for it & post it here ?

    - is just  not anyone had to read or cares. Maybe someone will he interested. But i need someoen to share with as it helps me to make more sense if feel im sharing with someone not myself if makes sense . Its really hard
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    davcr0ckKathleen07Lucy307
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck South Oxfordshire (homophobic Oxfordshire) Posts: 730 Incredible Poster
    Hey @shaunie

    great job on powering through this day and great that you didn't leave,

    An good song that would like to say that your doing is your still standing  strong (I'm still standing by Elton John) 

    Stay strong and here's an section of the lyrics to I'm still standing 

    davcr0ck

    Love is love and everyone is accepting and can share their issues with no judge from me and I try to help 
    Kathleen07
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    Wont be standing at end of next month lol. Gunna die
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    I don’t know if i can do this. It is sooo much i actually feel like dying now
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 617 Extreme Poster
    Hey @Shaunie what's going on, are you safe? Do you want to talk?

    We're here for you x
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    Im safe.just overdramatic. & stressed thankyou
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    davcr0ckLucy307
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 30
    Tbh i dont get some of recovery langaue   Why cant we say "im sorry to hear that" i like when people say that to. Shows empathy. But they said its oh. "Oh no poor you". But fml lol confused. And i know cant say diagnosis because its like we are saying its their whole idenity but not really. Like do i say oh yeah she diabete and nothing else..... no. 

    Dont really under stand completely lanague side of it. I understand some of it and possible reason. But yeah i don’t know tbh



    too stress think going to call in sick to work on weekends



    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,665 Postholic
    Hey bud,

    I agree - some of that recovery language is weird :/ I've heard about the "but" thing before and I think it makes sense, but I really don't see why you can't say "I'm sorry to hear that" - what's wrong with sympathy? Lol. I have to say, I also don't understand why you can't say the diagnosis. If anything, it feels to me like that's discouraging talk of the mental illness? Oops, I'm rambling here :p Basically, yeah, agreed.

    I totally see how you're stressed. I would be too. I think it may be good to call in sick to work, if you want to - make sure you look after yourself <3
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited April 30
    Nevermind i understand now - its cause saying something like oh she has BPD /i have bpd makes it sound like it affects everyone the same & saying describing it and what theyre expereince instead is more person based. 

    Def calling in sick. If i need to write assissments for every lesson have by beginning of JUNE

    and thank you Kathleen (wrote ths before saw comment so quickly adding that on lol)
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • Lucy307Lucy307 UKPosts: 617 Extreme Poster
    If you need to call in sick for a bit of a break, then do! I've done that a few times when I've felt overwhelmed, am a firm believer of taking mental health/destress days when needed. Have you got deadlines for each piece of work or is it one big deadline for it all? I wonder if can break the assignments down so they don't seem so massive? 
    Treat yourself as you would treat a good friend
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited May 1
    Theyre all due in one deadline in June. Is my day off today - thought id enjoy it. But have homework to do by tomorrow - which dont even understand & i guess i better start on the assissgments. 

    They said the interview process is hard has ever ever been & that everyone was very carefully picked because they have 100% belief we can do it all and well. I feel like im doubting if i can. & i dont think they know how "ill" i still am compares to other recovery journeys. My care co ordinator must of gave a good refrenence.

    I guess just a v intense month for something good & month isnt long. I mean it is a level 4 ( equavent to first year of uni) all in one month. So i think about it like that & its not so bad to be so stressed for just one month lol. 

    & made descion that i am not going to take anti depressants anymore so stopped that.cause i dont want to be more tired than already am And not even going to bother making review for it - & no more ECGs. Hopefully they wont bother me with that and ring me - they will most likely forget about me :)
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    davcr0ckKathleen07
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited May 1
    Sorry posting again - I think i may be boring everyone. Please do tell me to shut up and that you do not care and i wil like vent on the notes app lol. Honestly wont be offended rather told me. Thank you xxxx

    In my new "recovery language" - is best i use everywhere or things will get confusing

    WORDS I CAN NOT SAY; (even if the peer says it themselves)

    -Illness 
    -Issue 
    -Problem 
    -Difficulties( so far the ones above i say challenges instead) like MH challenges, not problem ect 
    -Suicide 
    -Never say my diagnosis or anyone else, (only describe it). PD, OCD and all that
    -Seeking attention 
    -Manipluative 
    -Mental, mad-(in any content) 
    -But/however (when it could sound likes it invaliding the main challenge) 

    -obsession

    -deludional

    -self harmer

    - patient/service user (only peer)

    -obsessive

    -relapse (all sorts of alternative - bump in road ect)

    -Symptoms (say expereince) 

    -unmotivated or lazy

    -

    And thats all i can rememeber from top of my head. 
    Its weird how i have apperently been using "un recovery language" 
    And langauge changes thought ect

    So this training is very insightful

    Its like education as well as therapy lol


    (There is reasons for why cant say them which do make sense)



    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    edited May 1
    So i have started my asissgment for module one. Which was the first day. I've wrote the benefits for the peer support worker and the organization. Just hard to know the challenges it brings for Peer workers and organization.  Can't remember much about that tbh and i literally keep going to write something but forgetting like in seconds. Is that normal??? It's frustrating me :(((  i feel bit less stressed since I've start cause starting feel like most difficult part. But im scared my brain is a bit messed up with my memory from stress or have dementia
    sooo hard to stay concentrated
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    davcr0ckKathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,665 Postholic
    Don't be sorry for posting - and I'm certainly interested <3

    Shaunie said:
    They said the interview process is hard has ever ever been & that everyone was very carefully picked because they have 100% belief we can do it all and well. I feel like im doubting if i can. & i dont think they know how "ill" i still am compares to other recovery journeys. My care co ordinator must of gave a good refrenence.

    I guess just a v intense month for something good & month isnt long. I mean it is a level 4 ( equavent to first year of uni) all in one month. So i think about it like that & its not so bad to be so stressed for just one month lol. 

    & made descion that i am not going to take anti depressants anymore so stopped that.cause i dont want to be more tired than already am And not even going to bother making review for it - & no more ECGs. Hopefully they wont bother me with that and ring me - they will most likely forget about me :)
    They made a wise choice in picking you. We definitely believe you can do it and well:) Though I understand doubting if you can.

    You're right in that it's a very intense month for something good. I totally hear how stressful it must be, but you're doing really well.

    It seems like not taking the anti depressants anymore may be helpful. Have you noticed any difference, so far? - I'm guessing you only just stopped though lol so you probably haven't.

    Shaunie said:
    WORDS I CAN NOT SAY; (even if the peer says it themselves)

    -Illness 
    -Issue 
    -Problem 
    -Difficulties( so far the ones above i say challenges instead) like MH challenges, not problem ect 
    -Suicide 
    -Never say my diagnosis or anyone else, (only describe it). PD, OCD and all that
    -Seeking attention 
    -Manipluative 
    -Mental, mad-(in any content) 
    -But/however (when it could sound likes it invaliding the main challenge) 

    -obsession

    -deludional

    -self harmer

    - patient/service user (only peer)

    -obsessive

    -relapse (all sorts of alternative - bump in road ect)

    -Symptoms (say expereince) 

    -unmotivated or lazy


    How do you feel about not being allowed to use those words? - tbh, I don't understand why you can't use some of those words. Particularly words like, "suicide", or the diagnosis. If anything, I feel that it's kind of discouraging talk about these issues. Hopefully my opinion isn't completely invalid and unnecessary here lol, I'm just interested:)

    Shaunie said:
    So i have started my asissgment for module one. Which was the first day. I've wrote the benefits for the peer support worker and the organization. Just hard to know the challenges it brings for Peer workers and organization.  Can't remember much about that tbh and i literally keep going to write something but forgetting like in seconds. Is that normal??? It's frustrating me :(((  i feel bit less stressed since I've start cause starting feel like most difficult part. But im scared my brain is a bit messed up with my memory from stress or have dementia
    sooo hard to stay concentrated
    Aww, I can virtually gaurantee that you haven't got dementia. Your memory very well might be a bit bad from stress, or tiredness. I get how it's frustrating you:(

    Not sure if this would help, but when I'm writing something at least, I find that listening to calm music designed for focus can be helpful.


    Sorry I'm not of much use :/
    davcr0ckShaunie
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    TODAY DID NOT GO WELL AT ALL 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

    I started crying and left. I could not do the role play and I just felt too overwhelmed. But this really nice girl about same age as me followed me and was really nice and felt better but very embarrassing:(
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kasa2103Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,665 Postholic
    Aww, so sorry to hear about today:(

    It's understandable that it feels embarrassing. Though I hope you know there's no need to be <3 I'm glad that girl was nice and helped you feel better x How are you feeling now?
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    Awful 😭😭😭😭  we have to do role play everyday now. And I really hateeeeeee it and just really hate it and it was hard because I had to do it with someone I hadn't spoke to yet. And it was too much. And questioning if confident enough. And I just questioning the commitment I've signed up to and how hard is
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    I Dont want to go tomorrow:(((  I'm really scared :((((((((  the people are sooooo nice when they see I am anxious. But doesn't stop me from getting really bad :(((😭😭😭😭😭  

    Does anyone have any advice on how to do role play? & anyone else hate it ?
    Reminds me of drama and hatedddd drama😔😔😔
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07davcr0ck
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,665 Postholic
    Have you tried sitting in front of a mirror and pretending to role play, as weird as that sounds? <3

    Have you thought of telling them how you feel about the role play, if that's possible? - just thought it could help you feel better to just say.

    You could also maybe try to think a positive thought every time you have a scared one. For example, "I'm scared I'll say something wrong and they'll think I'm not fit to be a peer support worker" - "they're really nice and non-judgmental, and there's no reason for me to say something wrong".

    And of course, please feel free to vent about it all, if you want - just getting it out can sometimes ease feelings of fear, anyway <3
    Aidan
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,167 The Mix Elder
    I Dont know what would help 😭😭😭
    People said they didn't like the role play and he said ”you gonna have to get used to it because we will be doing this everyday” 
    😭😭😭😭  I can't be walking out crying everyday 😭😭😭😭
    And I know the communication assessment is role play 😭😭😭
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07Aidan
  • davcr0ckdavcr0ck South Oxfordshire (homophobic Oxfordshire) Posts: 730 Incredible Poster
    Uhm the roleplay I've done is NSFW so I'm not much if an help 
    Love is love and everyone is accepting and can share their issues with no judge from me and I try to help 
  • AidanAidan Clever idiot Posts: 1,237 Fanatical Poster
    Hey Shaunie,

    We're here for you through the successes, and the tough times <3

    It sounds as though you're not alone in finding it hard, new things can be tough the first few times and I hope being with like-minded people and facing it with them is helpful.

    How do you feel about giving it a few more goes?

    Take care, best wishes with the course :blush:


    Kathleen07
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