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I need help, getting really intense urges tonight!
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How are you feeling now?
We can't really help you, just advise you. It's about trying to distract yourself from the urges. What do you enjoy? Reading, cleaning, drawing, writing?
After chat I drew to distract myself and I've been in a good mood since not long after I started drawing.
I really do recommend trying to practise the mindfulness again. It takes a while but once you start to get the hang of it there is so much you can be mindful with, and it really helps. My favourite at the moment is a mindful cup of tea, notice the warmth, notice how it feels as you're drinking it, notice what it tastes like and how it feels as you're swallowing some of the tea. Stuff like that really does help switch your mind off the bad thoughts.
I enjoy drawing, I use to read, but really don't have the concentration for it now wish I did. and I hate cleaning! I do it too much
The Samaritans - 0845 790 9090
are a good place to start
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What do you mean? On the boards you can talk about whatever you want , just warn it may trigger at times. Fiend was just saying that it was quite late last night so nobody was around to answer, so you could talk to Samaritans if you want someone to answer straight away, she didn't mean you're not allowed to post what you have posted. Of course you're allowed, it's exactly what the boards are for
Hugs. We're here for you.
Okay, look at a few months back, you never posted on the boards and you hardly came into chat, look at you now! You reach out for support, and you try to support others. You spoke to hardly anyone a few months back and now more people are getting to know you and the person you are. I'm getting to know you better. It's not been long since you started posting, not everyone will know you, but that doesn't mean people don't care.
Butterfly is right a few months ago u wouldnt do what ur doing right now reaching out and asking for help :-)... xx
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Sounds like you had quite a difficult night last night! Did you manage to reach out to any support, calling/texting Samaritans is a great idea, suggested by users above, have you ever tried them? Nobody on here was stating you couldn't talk Katie, just that the boards aren't always active 24/7, so it might of been quicker getting support via helpline if you were struggling that much!
Would you like to tell us a bit about what happened last night, maybe we could explore it and look in to alternative coping strategies, as we all cope differently. How has your week been going, have you done much? School/College/Uni? Do you do any volunteering, sports?
Best wishes,
Angel
This is exactly what I meant. It was 2 hours before someone got back to you, it was butterfly, at half 12. I just didn't want you to be left alone next time.
They were shouting at me telling me to do something I didn't want to do.
Its been very up and down, no I haven't been to college for about 4weeks now. And haven't been volunteering at the first schol for my placement for about 5weeks now.
We've told you that's not the case, whether you listen or not is up to you. People don't have to reply on your threads, they choose to. Remember that.
I'm posting from mobile so can't post a link but I wondered if you've seen the chat guidelines? If not it's worth looking them up, because then you might get some clarity, I feel like you're very uncertain about expectations, and that this makes you anxious.
With my chat mod hat on, I would say that chat isn't crisis support, but you are welcome to join and talk about how you are feeling. We do discourage specific discussion about self-harm, or alcohol, for example, but that isn't to silence you our because we don't care it's about keeping people safe. When someone recommends a device like the Samaritans or NHS 111 we are trying to refer to experts. We're awesome, and many are expert by experience, but the professionals are in a better place to hold you in these really dark, risky places.
How are you feeling right now?It's also ok to sit out chat to keel yourself safe, by the way, you don't owe anyone an apology for that.
and I dunno, I don't really feel anything just empty I guess.
What do you think you're going to do wrong? If you tell us we could try to help you?
Really well done katie! Realising how you felt and stopping yourself from going into chat is amazing! You've come a long way and I hope you realise that. Well done for being so honest.
In chat everyone talks to everyone, it's not everyone talking to one certain person each time. We are a community, we are all here for each other, and you are part of this community just like everyone else.
Maybe sometimes you could start a general chat too? Something like 'so what has everyone been up to'? Or 'what is everyone looking forward to'? That way you could start a conversation